My Ex-boyfriend loves me and still wants to sleep with me! I am going out with someone else and I am happy with him. My ex hangs around my house and loves to touch me in anyway possible. My ex constantly asks me if I love him,and if I want to sleep with him! I like him as a friend and tell him this frequently. He says he's the happyest when he is with me but I also make him unhappy because of the things I do and say! I still care about him as a friend, and I don't want to hurt him. please help me and sugest what to do!
2006-11-01 06:16:37 · 13 answers · asked by choirgirl_sarah 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I tell him practically on a daily basis that I just want to be friends..
2006-11-01 06:21:49 · update #1
we have been broken up for over a month and we only went out for 3 weeks.
2006-11-01 06:22:50 · update #2
my current boyfriend knows my ex they use to be friends. I tell my ex that I don't love him everytime he asks if I love him. He tells me he loves me everytime he see's me.
2006-11-01 06:27:08 · update #3
Yeah, that's a guy thing. He'll probably be like that for a little while. I would say just sit him down and talk to him about it but that usually doesn't work. Sorry to say but you probably will hurt him, or if you don't mean to he'll take it badly and get hurt anyways. But just stay close to him and try to keep him as a friend. I hope it all works out for you.
2006-11-01 06:19:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
He sounds like a stray cat; He keeps coming around because you keep giving him attention.
In this case, I don't think it's an option not to have him feel hurt...I also don't think it's an option for the 2 of you to "Just be friends". You can't just be friends unless both parties agree to that and he obviously wants more out of a relationship with you than just being your friend.
You need to tell him straight up that you are not interested and that he can't come around anymore. Tell him if that he can't respect that, than you are going to have to take more drastic measures like getting a restraining order against him.
2006-11-01 14:34:55 · answer #2 · answered by Yo LO! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a restraining order and the next time he turns up call the cops. Poeple like this dont understand the word no or go away. When he spends some time in jail it might sink in. Make sure you document every phone call, letter and every time he turns up. Also let him know that touching you without your permission is assault.
2006-11-01 14:21:08 · answer #3 · answered by dragonrider707 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because he touches you in any way possible and still wants to sleep with you doesn't mean he loves you. Tell him "no!" and if he doesn't get the hint, tell him again. Possibly you won't be able to be friends, if all he wants is friends with privileges
2006-11-01 14:23:58 · answer #4 · answered by pitmanette 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get away from him! He's not being your friend. If you want to move on you need to keep away from him atleast until he gets the picture that you don't love him or want to sleep with him. What does your new boyfriend think about the situation?
2006-11-01 14:20:22 · answer #5 · answered by Scorpio 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my OP....stop tellin him you like him as a friend....he is obviously taking it as an "in" to be able to hang around you and "touch" you. be blunt whether it hurts or not..if you don't love him tell him. he will never get it if you dont...
with all that said...i am surpirsed your current guy hasnt stepped up and something to him or even you for that matter for letting the old one "touch" you....how ever that may be.
2006-11-01 14:22:45 · answer #6 · answered by Get_R_Done_n_Dallas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you keep leading him on, if your serious about him leaving you alone tell him if he doesn't you will file a restraining order on him and if he still doesn't listen do it.
2006-11-01 14:22:33 · answer #7 · answered by wenenpooh 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its called a restraining order. he obviously has 'issues'. you fuel his obsession. the only way to fix it is to sever all contact. there is no such thing as 'staying friends' after a serious relationship.
2006-11-01 14:22:53 · answer #8 · answered by joo_0420 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT SOUNDS LIKE TO ME THAT HE IS OBSESSIVE SO THE BEST THING TO DO IF HE DONT LEAVE YOU ALONE IS GET A RESTRAINING ORDER AGAINST HIS ***.FOLLOWING YOU AROUND LIKE THAT IS NOT SAFE AND COULD LEAD TO SOMEONE GETTING HURT (PHYSICALLY), MAYBE EVEN YOU
2006-11-01 14:20:03 · answer #9 · answered by pinkice430 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him that you don't love him and get a retraining on him and get the cops if he don't stop. find and boyftriend who would protect you and stuff. and good luck
2006-11-01 14:20:49 · answer #10 · answered by shanikka k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋