me and my boyfreind have been together for a year now. i live with him. he went to buffalo for the weekend and i went to my mothers. he called my mothers house and asked for tara which is his x girls name. when he realized he called the wrong house he hung up. i called him back and he didnt answer. i tried again and he answerd i asked him why he called my moms asking for tara he said shes calling him and pranking him. he never erases his calls on his phone but when he got home all calls were erased and he kept hiding his cell phone on me! i answered his phone yesterday and no one would talk than he yelled at me for answering his phone. we had a talk and i told him that i know he is cheating on me or talking to another girl and he swore on his pas grave he isnt! when he swares on his pas grave hes serious but for some reason i cant beleive him! i have this bad feeling and cant explain it i dont know what to do!
2006-11-01 06:08:05 · 9 answers · asked by kittykat19889 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Chances are something is going on. If he hides his phone and erases his calls he doesn't want you to know something. If your goal is to first find out the truth then pay attention to the details. Men aren't very good liars they will give themselves up in some manner.
For example they tend to lie "in color" as I like to say. They will give you details you don't need, didn't ask for or are not relevant to the conversation. I found out my boyfriend was cheating on me by looking at his phone, phone bill and whatever else I could get my hands on. Not that I condone my own behavior but I was asking for honesty and being lied to almost daily.
We are trying to work things out, so I am not saying all is lost but you have to decide what your tolerence is and how much you are willing to bend for this guy. He is going to have to come clean if you are going to work it out. If he truly wants you in his life he won't be mad that you found out or how you found out he will work through it with you.
We deserve men who will not lie to us and treat us with respect. You two live together so if he is not committed to you now then you need to consider moving on as difficult as that may be.
Good Luck and remember this too shall pass.
2006-11-01 06:19:17 · answer #1 · answered by Hopey 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave him for a little while. Give him some time alone to think. If he thinks he's not going to get caught, and he'll get to be with her and you at the same time, what's stopping him? If you leave him, maybe he'll miss you and see that he's making a huge mistake. Don't back down, if you think he's cheating on you, you're probably right. Unless you're the insanely jealous type... Either way, if you feel this way, he's giving you a reason to.
2006-11-01 14:10:11 · answer #2 · answered by * 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think he is cheating. i went thru this with my boyfriend at the time now were married. it happened 3 yrs ago he was acting the same and also swore on our daughters life but i found out later that he was having an affair. good luck and i hope things will work out for you guys.
2006-11-01 14:12:06 · answer #3 · answered by juicy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he probably is it is easy to swear on and grave and not regret it. be careful and try to sit him down and get to the truth and if he is not willing to sit then tell him then you have to leave him. Sometimes things have to be put on the line for the better part of life and if he is or if he does not sit down with you your better with out him and find someone who does love you for you.
2006-11-01 14:12:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
all I can say is you are not married so if you feel he is cheating it is easier to drop him like a bad habit. From what you have said it sounds suspicious. What would you think he would do if it were turned around?
2006-11-01 14:12:37 · answer #5 · answered by amberrenae1979@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to move on god lets things happen for a reason so leave him now it does not get no better you need to move on andfind some one who loves you and keep it real
2006-11-01 14:17:45 · answer #6 · answered by connie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh yes he is cheating if hes hiding alot of things from you
2006-11-01 14:11:29 · answer #7 · answered by ♫♥♪♬♥♪Try Me♫♥♪♫♥♪♬ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
LEAVE HIM COZ HE'S OBVIOUSLY CHEATING ON YOU.
2006-11-01 14:11:33 · answer #8 · answered by Obria 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yep, he's cheating
2006-11-01 14:27:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋