ive been with him for almost 2 years, i just moved in with him a few months ago. right before i moved in i was in job corps in sw/se dc. when i was in there he rarely saw me or talked to me and he started freakin out b/c i wasnt around anymore and how he was so hurt by it. so i dropped out of jc in dc and moved in with him. hes been alot meaner to me and always asks mem if i want to move out and keeps calling me a lesbian (best friend turned gay and i have another friend thats a suicide girl) so according to him "i must be gay". dumbass... anyway. i dont know what i should do. id rather hear another solution than to leave him unless any of u really believe i should. but the fact is, if i moved out he would miss me again and then cry and moan b/c im gone and then i would take him back. im tired of his games, hes imature but i wanna be here when he finishes growing up, hes slowly growing up but of course not quick enough. please give me some advice! good advice.
2006-11-01 06:03:43 · 26 answers · asked by snagglepuss731 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
oh.... and we use to have sex 2-5 times a day, now its MAYBE once, 2 on a GOOD day. and he always picks fights with me now, even during sex sometimes. communication just sounds like bitching to him. and his response is always "then why r u with me" but i cant get him to tell me he wants me to leave. i think he thinks im gonna leave anyway so why try to keep me around.
2006-11-01 06:08:49 · update #1
The harsh reality of life is that you may have to do that which you do like for you own mental health.
These comments he makes are not from someone who loves and cares about you, but is demeaning and manipulative.
You said it yourself "he's immature". You must leave and he must grow up
2006-11-01 06:14:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl he is pushing you away! Why would you want to be with someone who makes you feel low? He obviously wants you out! Look since you don't want to break up with him I strongly suggest you find your own place and stop living with him because he is not "mature" enough. However if he starts that moaning again about you being away from him then spend the night don't move back in! However you need to start thinking about moving on. If you two argue during sex then you BOTH obviously have a problem. Your problem is him and he just have some issues. However I just wanted to give you some alternatives to dealing with this man but I honestly believe you need to dump his immature a$$. Because once he grows up his personality won't change and he will treat you the same way just with different aspects on life! Good luck!
2006-11-01 06:25:25 · answer #2 · answered by miss_peaches 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey that was your biggest mistake. You should have never moved in with him. Even though you didnt' see each other enough that pretty much is what kept your relationship strong. I also wouldn't be surprised if he was cheating on you. My boyfriend is also addicted to sex but the problem is I don't want to give it to him as he no longer turns me on in any way. I think the reason I feel this way is because he is living with me. The sad part is your probably no longer appealing to him. It may be hard for you to accept what I am saying but truthfully that most likely is the case considering how he talks to you. He is slowly losing the love he had for you at one point and eventually all you guys will do is fight until you break up. In my situation, I am now foolishly cheating on my bf and although I feel bad, I can't stop because this other man sexually turns me on and satisfies me. See what you can do to either spice up your sex life with you partner but the first step is to move out. You guys are around each other too much and he's getting tired of you.
2006-11-01 06:13:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can only take your own advise on this, and try to wait him out.
I can only tell you though, that men mature and they do grow out of some bad habits, but the habits they can consistantly go back to to satify their child ego's will not change.
Basically what I'm saying to you is, if you never leave, he will never change, because you are available for him to do what he always does, thus entrenching these behaviors ever deeper in him.
I'm sorry to have to tell you that. I'm saying it, because of personal experience, a person doesn't even see that what he is doing is wrong, because it's so normal, and it seems like there aren't any consiquences.
Good luck.
2006-11-01 06:10:51 · answer #4 · answered by MisterO 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand where you coming form because I just got an almost threen year relationship and it is hard to let go, but if you are not happy you need to let go. Especially if you have already talked about it and things are still not working. If you care about him tell him how you feel and hope that he changes if he doesn't all it's going to do id cause you pain and misery. In that case you should give him some time to grow up meaning you should go your seperate ways and if it was meant to be trust me you will be back together.
2006-11-01 06:10:17 · answer #5 · answered by black beauty 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand why you "wanna be here when he finishes growing up".
WHY?
What purpose will it serve you in YOUR life?
Look, there are people who give you positive energy and then there are people that suck the life out of you and leave you in the dust.
Can you guess which one best describes your boyfriend?
From the style of your typing, I assume you are a young 20-something chick,
Here's a quarter, buy a clue: life will get better, there are better people out there and you have to improve your own lot in life OR wallow in the hell that someone else created.
Now, go cut your losses and move on with your life.
Good luck.
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2016-10-21 02:30:19 · answer #7 · answered by turrill 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-11-01 06:10:45 · answer #8 · answered by babygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's taking you for a ride girl. He wants to keep you on the string, connected to him so he rules your life, and he's having a big power trip turning the taps on and off. Get out while you can, and this time if he cries, don't go back. He's not your man, the only person he cares about, is himself.
2006-11-01 06:09:35 · answer #9 · answered by pitmanette 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2006-11-01 06:08:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋