Well it's like this, i'm 16 in a couple of months and i've been asked out by a girl who's 13 in a couple of months, now i've never been too sure on the age gap because i've liked her for a while and i'm worried my parents will disagree if i say yes....and it gets worse, i've also just found out that a girl my age who i have liked for even longer likes me in that way aswell, i am totally confused and don't know what to do, they are both really nice girls and i really like them both......I need opinions and fast....
2006-11-01 06:02:21 · 41 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
go for the one you really want and like
2006-11-01 06:05:42 · answer #1 · answered by jaqueline 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It is not a good idea for you to see the 13 year old. At your age that age gap is too big. When you are both over 18 then age gaps to a certain extent are less relevant but given your respective ages a relationship is not a good idea.
Your younger friend still has a lot of growing up to do and will probably not have the same perspective as you. If you were to develop a sexual relationship with her you would be breaking the law.
2006-11-01 06:11:26 · answer #2 · answered by pab76 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK - short answer: go for the girl that's nearer to your age. The girl that is only 13 is a dangerous option (for you). Your parents would rightly be worried if you got too serious with her (or anyone at your age to be honest!) but her parents are likely to be a bit of a concern for you too. Just tell the 13 year old kindly that she is a little too young for you.
Good luck whichever way you choose - but do take care - 16 is so very young really (although I didn't think so when I was 16 and no doubt you don't think so either!) - you have so much to learn and experience. Remember that what you do in your youth is always going to be in your past, and the past is something you should create and protect as a thing wonderful to be proud of - and to maybe be able to tell your children and grandchildren .... with pride.
End of sermon!!! Have fun!!!
2006-11-01 06:11:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that you are not going to want to hear this but, a 12 or 13 year old has no business dating. At your young age 2 or 3 years is a big difference. Developmentally you should not be on the same page in life and therefore should not have much in common. See what it up with the other girl. You may be more on each other's level. Or just wait until you are all older.
2006-11-01 06:06:07 · answer #4 · answered by bttrfly0724 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should date the 13 year old as she is far too young for any real relationship, you can't have legal sex with her until she is 16 and that is three years down the line and would you be willing to wait that long. I also don't think that you are taking her parents thoughts into consideration as i don't think they would be too thrilled that their daughter is dating a fella three years older even though the age gap shouldn't matter, there are a lot of differences between you, physically and mentally for it to work. Even though the 16 year old is on a par with you, but take things very slow, don't be pushed or push her into things that neither of you are comfortable with. You are young so enjoy yourself but know your limits and I think the 13 year old is off limits at the moment.
2006-11-01 06:09:11 · answer #5 · answered by GaryUKB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for the girl your own age. At my age 3 years difference is nothing, but when you're 16, the age difference matters more. When you're age 18 and ready for something serious, she'll still be only 15 and that's a no no.
2006-11-01 06:09:55 · answer #6 · answered by F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortanetly, i'd say go for the one thats closer to your age. 13 is a bit creepy. When the 13 year old is at least 16 or 17, it wont be as creepy. Go for the other one right now... It will be better for you to do that anyway. The other one is just too young. Good Luck.
2006-11-01 06:11:44 · answer #7 · answered by colleen b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, your going to be 16!! Relax and enjoy being a young male. You don't have to choose one or the other. Allow yourself to see more than one person. The younger one I would stay away from....your old enough to have a drivers license and she's barely a teenager! If you still like her in a few more years, that will make more sense....but right now, she's WAY too young! Enjoy life, don't stress over who to be with....you're young and like more than one girl because that's very very normal at your age!! Best wishes!!
2006-11-01 06:07:18 · answer #8 · answered by Joeygirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do yourself a favour and stear clear of the 12 year old, 12 IS TOO YOUNG TO GO OUT WITH A 16 YEAR OLD. Ask the girl out who is your own age, that way, you are less likely to get yourself into trouble.
Be Smart, you have your whole life ahead of you.
2006-11-01 09:58:38 · answer #9 · answered by bizzybee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I would go with the one that is your age and it would be a lot easier for everyone. That's what I would do, believe me I have had my Share of girlfriends and I know how that is. So just see if the younger one just wants to be friends and go out with the one your age. So if it doensn't work, then sorry for the bad advice. But I have been there before and that is what I did.
2006-11-01 06:09:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just try being friends to both of these great sounding girls. Honestly in your shoes I'd go for the one closer to your age. Sure the other may feel hurt but it will all work out. Good luck with whatever you decide. But I recomend giving it more time and stronger friendships with both girls.
2006-11-01 06:05:52 · answer #11 · answered by dave_83501 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋