My mum threw me out because she found out that i had an older boyfriend. were not together anymore adn i am living with him, i dont like school at the moment as i feel i have lost all my creativity. and to top it off i feel depressed and i am seriously considering killing my self,i have to force myself to eat,m and i cant sleep. ive done loads of stupid things in the 16 years that i have been alive and redemption seems impossible and to be honest i dont want to deal with life anymore, ive never liked life ive always done crazy things for attention and basically im a nut job
so what should i do before i kill myself, i want some fun things i could do?
( going to the doctors is not an option)
2006-11-01 05:53:24 · 52 answers · asked by Weirdo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hes not my boyfriend anymore adn i think he hates me,ive got to move into this lodge type place and i really dont want to so killing myself is the best option,
2006-11-01 05:59:56 · update #1
you sound like a typical teenager to me. it was how I felt and my bf lasted three years and was 12 years older than me
go out and have fun and forget the worries and in a couple of years you will start to come out of it and life will start to be much better
email me anytime, I always answer non nasty mails
2006-11-07 23:22:46 · answer #1 · answered by Amanda K 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Go breathe the salty ocean air, see how huge the ocean is and the world is and how small you are. A string of mistakes is not the end of the world.
Or climb a mountain, sit in a forest, float in a lake and watch the sky. Feel a breeze on your cheeks.
Watch animals. Life gets hard for them too. They just keep plodding along and things eventually do get better.
Get the most luxurious and best smelling bubble bath and body gel, lotions and shampoos. light some candles and love your body. It is an awesome thing to have. The heart beats, the eyes see, the skin feels..
When you get out put on something that make you feel good. Brush you hair and feel how soft and clean it is.
You have strong muscles that can get even stronger if you want. You can do just about anything that you imagine.
Do some dreaming and imaging, think of what would be fun to you..even exciting
Then make a plan to get there. Step by step.
In my opinion, one should not leave this planet without traveling and seeing different countries and cultures. That is the most mind blowing thing to me.
Now I'd like you to think about this: You found out that that man was not a good boyfriend for you. That is what your mother could see before you from her maturity. She didn't want you to get hurt and start feeling this way.
That is what she was trying to prevent by being hard on you about it. She took the most extreme measure by kicking you out. It may have seemed extra harsh because she had been decieved and scared to death for you and not know how to stop you (which she couldn't).
Now you and her are on the same side. You have learned a big lesson. You can also see that yes you did need some adult guidance to help keep you safe from things that one at your age just does not have the fully developed brain capacity to completely fathom.
I don't know your mother and you may still decide that she is not the best one to help you finish growing up, but there are other adults who would love to be there for you you can find them. try runaway hotlines, search every resource. Go to the library and have a librarian help find places and numbers for you to call. When you find the right place and people for you......
You will be so proud of yourself.
That is the ultimate thing you should experience in your life that you are living now!
2006-11-01 06:15:27 · answer #2 · answered by Tarpaulin 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Pull yourself together girl and stop being so melodramatic. Your 16, we've all done crazy things when were 16. Some people, such as myself, continue to do crazy things when there 26 and no doubt i'll be doing crazy things when I'm 36, 46, 56.... It's called life and it's hard. To be honest this is probably not the worst thing that's ever going to happen to you, but as you grow up hopefully dealing with life's tradgedies will get easier. You're only young, you've got so many wonderful things to see and do and discover. Life is **** but sometimes it goes the other way to and that's what makes it worth it. If you are really depressed then you need to go to the doctors, it is an illness like any other and needs to be treated. Take care.x
2006-11-01 10:04:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Redemption is never impossible, it only seems that way.
We have all done stupid and crazy things to get attention, but maybe in the wrong place.
Please do not give up on life, as I feel you have much to offer in the way of help to others like yourself.
If you have any close relations or friends, discuss your problems with them.
Never be afraid to say "sorry"
There are loads of help lines out there, but I do not wish to tell you what to do. You are you, and whatever has happened in the past, be proud of yourself! Look to the future. What you did yesterday can not be changed, but what you do tomorrow is in your own hands, and I'm sure you can do a lot more than give a funeral service extra work.
Think of things that you are interested in, or things that you feel are wrong with the world, then think what you could do to help and make a contribution to others.
Killing yourself is not an option, because you then never have the chance to show your full potential in life.
Hold your head up high, be yourself, and keep asking and answering questions for many more years, you never know, you may be able to help somebody who is in your own situation, and help them get through this difficult time.
Please take care.
2006-11-01 06:53:34 · answer #4 · answered by Dr David 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unless you are a terrorist do not harm yourself. Even if for the world you are just a person for other people around you look at you as if you were their world. If you have never heard anything good about you does not mean that no one has ever appreciated your presence.
I am not trying to save your life with a simple note, and if you want to be selfish enough to let go then just do it, but at the end you will be the loser. No one knows about tomorrow, you cannot change your past but you can do a lot of things to improve your future. Live with dignity! and do not give up! Try some voluntary work in the comunity or mission work and you will find the true person in you. Give it a try before you say it is too late!!
2006-11-01 06:15:52 · answer #5 · answered by ville009 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dear Gina, Teen years are the hardest ones to get through, don't give up, we ALL do loads of stupid things. I felt the same at that age and even did do something real stupid, but today I am happy with who I have become and have overcome. I used to put myself down for doing dumb things, but as I got older I realized it's just an age thing and stopped knocking myself out.
Get yourself back in school and look for a part time job, keep yourself busy. Set some goals and work on them. Ask yourself where you would like to be in 5 years and make it happen. Try calling the kids help line in your area.
2006-11-01 06:14:27 · answer #6 · answered by Gabriele 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At least if you stay this side of life, you know what to expect. If you end your physical life, what guarantee do you have that this will help you at all? How do you know you won't just be floating around "in spirit" still feeling exactly the same anguish but cut off from your parents and everyone else you care about, knowing you can never EVER undo what you've done and get your life back, and completely unable to speak to them or tell ANYONE how you're feeling? You cannot know what to expect "on the other side" if you do this. Apart from the being dead aspect, it's a huge risk.
At the very least, you should put off doing this for a few weeks to see if you still feel the same. I felt just like you do, from the age of 5 till I was about 19 or 20. You have got to learn to go through hard times - you will come out a stronger person, able to help others. If you hang on, I'm certain you'll come out of this eventually and find there's plenty to live for. Death will come by itself in its own good time. Take what life brings, good and bad, and try to value the time you have. You're far from the only person to go through things like this or do stupid things. You're only 16 and you have to go through a learning process just like we all do.
2006-11-01 06:09:41 · answer #7 · answered by Specsy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you can adjust your life and start living a healthy life.
I feel sorry to lose an honest girl like you. Look at your words "I did crazy things for attention...". That is what most teenagers do, and they don't even know it. But you are way mature and honest at this early age.
No don't kill yourself. Stop seeing your current boyfriend and go back to your mom's place.
By killing yourself you are not only hurting yourself, but the whole human race. There is a great potential in a girl like you. I am not saying this to make you feel good or anything. But your very existence is a proof that earth needs something from you.
What do you know if you are going to be a scientist who will discover a cure for AIDS? What if you are going to be the next great Economist ?
See what I mean? You are hurting us all.
Your existence is a blessing for us all. I don;t even want the most stupidest , scum of the earth, drama queens to die. Let alone such a great teenage like you.
So please do us a favor. Go back to your mom. Adjust your life and start working on your creativeness.
2006-11-01 06:01:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
At 16 you really shouldn't even be considering killing yourself sweetie! Life can seem like a **** place sometimes, especially when you fall out with family or friends but believe me things are really never as bad as young think they are. Mums can be harsh sometimes but usually they have your best interests at heart. You left your mum to live with a man who seems not to care for you, OK that was a mistake but it's not the first one you have made and I doubt if it will be the last one as you go through life. Everyone makes mistakes its part of life and growing up and NO mistake is so bad that you should want to die at your age. Please don't consider it as an option. I lost my nephew when he was your age and I can't tell you how much we all miss him so terribly ,all our hearts were broken and still are.So please go home to your mum if you can.And dont' worry about being a 'nut job' I've been one all my life, there' s a lot of us out there.
2006-11-01 07:51:38 · answer #9 · answered by Pocket Battleship 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hiya gina, firstly u announcing that u want to kill urself is a cry for help. i knew a girl just like u, she was crazy and did crazy things. in fact she was a nightmare! all she ever went on about was commiting suicide but the thing is no one actually gave up on her. yes they despaired. ur mum probably threw u out because she just couldn`t cope anymore. can u not comprimise wiv her? meet her half way? i`m very sure that ur mum wont like lowering u into a six foot hole in the ground. in fact she`ll hate herself for it. u committing suicide will leave a lot of devastation to the ones ur leaving behind. a really good starting point would be to go see ur mum and say just 2 words.....i`m sorry. just saying that will open up a whole new world for u. the girl i was telling u about did exactly that. she was same age as u and now she`s 22 and happy and building a good life for herself. going to the doctors wont help u but going to ur mum will. i know u don`t like feeling like sh*t every day. no one does, but u can do something about it. i had a major falling out wiv my dad wen i was in my 20`s and thats exactly how i felt and i hated it. making the first move and apologising to him was the best thing i could of done. i don`t know if u got on wiv ur mum before all this happened but the one thing i can guarantee is that u love each other even if u don`t want to admit it. u CAN fix things between u. all u need to do is apply urself. ur mums angry wiv u because she loves u and she doesn`t want to see any harm come to u. forget everything else and just sit and think rationally about wot i said
2006-11-01 06:37:00 · answer #10 · answered by graham f 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you kill yourself your will never get to play games on a 256 bit computer with quad core processors and stuff. I think you'll miss a lot of other stuff too. I'm supposed to have 7 years to live on average from diagnosis - but they missed the diagnosis over 7 years ago - so I'm on borrowed time! I just do my best with what I have. I gambled online today and won £98.00 - it was interesting! I've also taken a new drug - that is a gamble - I won't know until tomorrow if I am going to get a good reaction or bad reaction - last time it was really bad.... But that is life - full of challenges and risks.
2006-11-01 06:06:20 · answer #11 · answered by Mike10613 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋