Okay, please don't judge me... I have been through alot... We have been together 3 years, but we broke up... I am 18... He is 18... I have been pregnant, got an abortion, wanted to become pregnant again, so bad I would have done anything... Even some shameless things, but I did change ma mind... Then now look at me, not on purpose I am 2 months pregnant... I am mad, and I don't want another abortion, but I don't want to keep it becaus eI don't want him to think that this is a way to get him back... Should I just turn ma back on him, have ma baby, and leave tha choice of him being in tha babys life to him... But, by me trying to involve him, he is so rude, he tells me he doesn't respect me, hates me, don't care, doesn't love me, and he love all these other girls... What do I do??? And, when will I be over him... Helpful answrs onli, please...
2006-11-01 05:46:45 · 15 answers · asked by whyme? 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
If you dont want the baby and he doesnt want the baby, put it up for adoption... Let someone who cant have kids take care of yours!!! Give someone the dream of having the child that they want but cant have!!! please dont have another abortion because that can cause you to never have kids again!!!
2006-11-01 05:50:50 · answer #1 · answered by spaz050201 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, putting your life in the hands of strangers......How about this. You have a gut instinct on this. LISTEN TO IT. This is your life and your baby and your boyfriend (or ex). Make a good smart decision and one that YOU can live with for life. It seems from your past questions that you wanted to be pregnant. Was this just for him? If so, know that, deal with that and move on. You've already had 1 abortion, how many could you have before you really regreted what you've done. However, maybe a baby for you is just not right. Have you considered adoption? People pay you a lot of money, because some would do anything for a baby. It could really help get you back on track....get you some money for college, a place to stay, and the peice of mind that you did something RIGHT.......for a change. Really consider all of your options, be healthy, get to a OB/GYN soon. And, sister, I'm here for you. Email me at cmobley631@yahoo.com. We've all done things we're not proud of, myself included. I won't judge you, sounds like you need some help.
2006-11-01 16:09:54 · answer #2 · answered by 4in5yearsMom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand how you feel about having an abortion and then wanting to get pregnant again. Its called guilt. Now you have gotten yourself into a difficult situation again. I don't feel that this particular time abortion is the answer. What did it solve for you before? Ask yourself, really, are you any better off because of the first abortion? Honestly, I think you hit the nail on the head. You should have your baby, give him the choice, tell him to take it or leave it, hold your head up high, and raise your baby. It will be tough to do alone. It will be incredibly painful to have a child by a man you love knowing that he abandoned you. Believe me, I know. I am not judging you. You should follow your heart and do what is best by you. Good luck and GodBless.
2006-11-01 13:55:29 · answer #3 · answered by micg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about him! think about your unborn child! If he doesn't want to be apart of the child's life, then it's his loss! He's just saying those things because he thinks you tried to get pregnant on purpose! It's not all your fault because he could have worn a condom! If you decide that you don't want the baby, put it up for adoption! It'll be okay! Look at it this way, you have the best part of him and he can't take that from you unless you let him! If it's meant to be, it'll be, but you don't have to be with him in order for you to give your child a good life! Good Luck and Congratulations on the baby!
2006-11-01 14:34:06 · answer #4 · answered by angellove 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are financially able to support your child than I would say that you should keep the baby. If you aren't and don't want to have another abortion than have the baby and give him/her up for adoption. If you keep the baby than be prepared to care for the baby all by yourself and to insure that he doesn't bother you have him sign away his parental rights. Good luck to you and whatever you decide I wish you the best of luck, But, whatever you do, DO NOT take his sorry a** back ever!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-11-01 15:30:04 · answer #5 · answered by juicie813 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are two separate issues here - the boyfriend and the baby. The boyfriend doesn't sound like he is ready to be a family - most 18 year old guys arent. You need to let that one go.
The baby - if you have a family that is TRULY willing and able to help you - keep it. If not, you need to really figure out if you can do it on your own.
2006-11-01 13:51:35 · answer #6 · answered by ksmpmjoll 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whether or not you can parent on your own is really up to you. Don't count on him being a part of the babies life. He sounds emotionally abusive, and I think it would be better for both of you to not see him again.
You can always put the baby up for adoption. There are open adoptions if you would like contact with your baby while it grows up.
2006-11-01 13:57:20 · answer #7 · answered by psycho_chic_in_training 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have the baby and put it up for adoption. This way a loving family will get to be parents and you can move on with your life. Trust me, it is the best thing to do.
2006-11-01 13:49:19 · answer #8 · answered by rosie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Listen!!You need professional counseling. Go to a therapist or minister or whomever BUT get help! You already had one abortion and if you do it again you will end up emotionally disturbed over it . As far as the BUM- Kick Him To The Curb!!! You deserve so much better than that!!! Don't allow him to abuse you further. Get Out NOW!!! I wish you SMART!
2006-11-01 13:53:03 · answer #9 · answered by Bijous 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You could always have the baby and put it up for adoption. If you decide to keep the baby you need to walk away from him give him time and let him decide if he want anything to do with it. Don't be pushy.
2006-11-01 13:51:34 · answer #10 · answered by momof2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋