I am 15 year. and there is a guy who always asking me out and I do want to go out whit him but my parents don't know them and they always want to have a talk whit him before we go out that's why I don't go out whit him it makes me feel emberasing, what can I do to do go out whit him but that my parents don't know about that.?
2006-11-01 05:46:34 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You shouldn't go out with him unless your parents know about it. Your parents are just trying to protect you and make sure that you are safe. They'll be able to tell things about him that you won't be able to yet. Let your parents talk to him, if he really likes you, he'll understand.
2006-11-01 05:49:37 · answer #1 · answered by lynnca1972 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Avoiding your parents and breaking the rules is not the way to go. This guy may or may not be a permanent fixture in your life, but its a guarantee your parents are and trust is what they gauge everything from - the more they trust you, the more you will be able to do.
Be upfront with your parents and tell them he is asking you out and you'd love to go out with him.
Be upfront with the guy. Tell him your parents want to meet him and that sometimes they can be a little embarrassing. You'll probably find his parents tend to embarrass him as well (that, my dear, is universal).
In the end, you can do something by just having him stop by and meet your parents one afternoon and maybe sit outside and chat OR you can actually do something like a little cookout where both sets of parents can meet (his and yours) and you guys get some cool time together to get to know one another.
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2006-11-01 13:51:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't have anything to hide then what is the probably if he meets your parents? You are 15 not 51. You should be glad that your parents want to meet him most girls your age parents could care less who they date then when the girl gets pregnant they want to hoop and holla. Let him meet your parents so they embarrass you if he really likes you then it shouldn't even matter if they are embarrassing or not. He must be older than you if you don't want him to meet your parents or maybe he is more experienced than you either way let your parents meet him. You may not like it but your parents do look out for your best interest.
2006-11-01 13:53:06 · answer #3 · answered by sharethalove 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to imagine but your parents opinions are probably based on life experience, most likely (assuming they are not jerks), and they want only the best for your future.
At 15, you probably have 3-4 years of life experience (although I didn't really get together until I was 25, lol)...verses their 20-25 yrs of life experience.
I'd do as they ask, until your brain is fully developed because your frontal lobe, the decision making part of the brain is still growing.... yes it is.
2006-11-01 13:54:12 · answer #4 · answered by dave_martin_7777 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, listen to your parents on this one... I know it's hard for a 15 year old to do that, but in this case they're thinking of your best interest... I'm sure they won't embarress you. Invite him over after school just to hang out for a little while and let your parents get to meet him. If he wants to go out with you he'll agree, unless of course he's a 35 year old pervert.
2006-11-01 13:57:28 · answer #5 · answered by MKM 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
#1 you shouldn't be dating til you are 16
#2 your parents know more than you and are suspicious for a reason.
#3 going behind their backs is an immature thing to do and will only cause you more trouble than it's worth.
#4 Don't rush your life, boy trouble is big trouble!
2006-11-01 13:58:14 · answer #6 · answered by wish I were 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay... i can already tell you that any dating at your age is not going to lead to anything serious. i been there and i dont know any one that married their 15 yr old crush. so just have fun be safe, and dont worry about your parents they already know what you are doing and what you are going through although they might be in denial, or if you want to test this guy, to see how much he cares about you tell him to ask your parents him self for permision to take you out on dates. and then just let the chips fall where they mae.
2006-11-01 13:54:01 · answer #7 · answered by hardjesus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your parents are suspicious of him, there's probably a reason. They're just looking out for you, what's the matter with letting them talk to him? If he refuses to talk to them then he doesn't really like you as much as you thought.
2006-11-01 13:49:33 · answer #8 · answered by LittleRaysMama 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Listen to your parents. Having a talk with someone is not going to hurt him and he should respect you enough to come in and introduce himself to your parents if he wants to take you out.
2006-11-01 13:49:40 · answer #9 · answered by dragonrider707 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't go out with him behind their back. If he's a good guy, he'll want to do things that won't have potential of getting you in trouble.
2006-11-01 13:49:33 · answer #10 · answered by Yay for Summer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋