I know my FI and if he gets a couple of drinks in him, I don't think he can resist smashing cake on me. It's just his personality. I have tried talking to him about and he swear he'll never do it and then laughs about it. I was wondering if anyone has just seen the couple cut the cake and skip the whole feeding it to each other bit.
2006-11-01 05:43:44 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
We are getting a very nice wedding cake.
I just hate the smashing thing... I was even at a wedding where the bride and groom did it nicely to each other so the grooms friends grabbed cake and smashed it on him. The bride was pissed!
2006-11-01 06:42:00 · update #1
I am with you on this one, I got married in August, and I totally skipped the cake smashing thing, I think it is absoutly stupid, and nobody even said anything, it is your wedding remember if you don't want to do it DO NOT DO IT!!!!!!!!!
2006-11-01 07:27:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I've never seen the whole feeding thing skipped but I did go to a wedding where the bride wore a bib over her dress when it came time for the cake part. Its always an option if you don't think you can trust him not to smash the cake in your face.
2006-11-01 05:46:11 · answer #2 · answered by stephanne1978 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I've been to a couple that skipped that part because it was less expensive to include the dessert with the meal cost than to add on the extra expense of a cake.
If you want to include a cake for cutting (for the pictures sake), instead of feeding each other, you & new husband could cut the first pieces and present them to your parents/mothers, that way you'd have photos of you cutting the cake and if your husband is feeling a bit on the playful side, I'm sure your mother (or his) would quickly squelch the smash cake in anyone's face urge. Another alternative and want we did, was cut the cake and then I put a small piece in my mouth and my new husband kissed me, getting a piece of cake that way. It's called "bird kissing", and evidently they do it in Jamaica instead of just feeding a piece of cake to each other. But you get great pictures, the groom never has to touch cake, and the pictures of children's faces as we kissed/shared our first piece of cake are priceless!
2006-11-01 06:16:00 · answer #3 · answered by Survivors Ready? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have never seen anyone do the eating smashing thing. I know for my wedding, we are not going to cut into our cake the night of our wedding and if we do it will just be a little cut and just enough to taste but we will not do any smashing. Also we aren't going to be eating the cake the night of the wedding. We are going to eat it the day after when we open our gifts.
2006-11-01 06:21:48 · answer #4 · answered by Butterfly Kisses 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
At our wedding, we never did any feeding/smashing. We cut the cake and passed it around. I didn't even eat any cake because I didn't like that particular type of cake. I simply said, no thanks, no cake for me - end of story. You're the bride, you can make your own rules, and if you say "no" to anything - no one can *make* you do it. Believe it or not, there's absolutley laws about how the wedding should go; there are some guidelines, but what you make of them is up to you.
2006-11-01 05:49:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have never been to a wedding where they skipped feeding the cake to one another. But I didn't want my husband to smash the cake into my face either. I expressed my concern to him. I told him how stupid and immature I thought it was. I told him about my concern for the pictures of the rest of the evening. He promised me that he wouldn't do it. And he didn't do it. Tell him that this will be his first test as a married man about his trustworthiness. That should do the trick.
2006-11-01 05:59:33 · answer #6 · answered by KC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes in the UK its not a usual thing to do, we just cut and eat the cake latter in the evening. But if you are really worried then what about doing at the very end of the evening just before people go home that way if your husband to be does do the cake in your face thing then it wont ruin your dress till the end of the day
2006-11-01 07:10:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I actually think the cake smashing thing is kind of mean. I mean, you spend ALL that time on your appearance...not to mention money. Then how do you clean yourself up afterwards? What a mess!
I've never been to a wedding that involved this mean food fight. However, most of the weddings I've been to involved the "cake feeding" thing. Including my own. We did it politely and it was cute. But we didn't wreck one another's clothes and hair with frosting. Yuck!
2006-11-01 05:59:26 · answer #8 · answered by CuteWriter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. I've been to at least one wedding where they did not cut the cake at all. Either skip it or threaten your fiance to NOT smash in your face.
2015-12-16 09:37:19 · answer #9 · answered by B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I both despised the cake smashing thing - and he's a pastry chef so he made our wedding cake - it was simply gorgeous and delicious - and we fed each other nicely. We also didn't do the garter thing or the bouquet toss - both "traditions" we found disrespectful and just tacky. I was so happy and relieved about that!
Good for you for being mature!! Maybe make sure your husband hasn't had anything to drink beforehand - or cut the cake right away, the second you enter the reception hall. He should be able to handle himself - if he can't, why are you marrying him?
2006-11-01 07:39:54 · answer #10 · answered by Rachel 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋