My boyfriend and I love each other ... but he wants to have sex. I do too, but I'm a virgin and very tight down there. I'm really afraid that it'll be extremely painful for him to penetrate me or that it won't "fit".
2006-11-01 05:32:35 · 21 answers · asked by Elle 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm 18 and i've been saving myself for someone I really love - my boyfriend
2006-11-01 05:33:30 · update #1
It really doesn't matter wether he wants to have sex, its you as well. Do you want to lose your virginity to him? If you love him and everything, and you want to- go for it. It is going to hurt a little bit, but don't trip on that- it'll make it worse. Work on it, he can loosen you up with his fingers for a couple days, and get it less tight. To make him feel better, think about giving dome or something- pleasure eachother. It isn't as bad as you think, and once you've done it a couple times- whoaaa my, its the best!!
2006-11-01 05:35:22 · answer #1 · answered by Fran Y 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off there is nothing wrong with waiting for the right time. And chances are you will never know when that is. It will just happen. Second - if you have questions about pain and fit, get a few vibrators and have a blast with yourself. It will give you an idea of what you like, it will loosen you up and minimize any pain.
2006-11-01 05:37:19 · answer #2 · answered by bocasbeachbum 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not a good idea, sweety. It doesn't sound like you are ready for this yet. If you are going to do this though, get a dildo and loosen up with that. Make sure to get condoms.
2006-11-01 05:50:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I HAD SEX FOR THE FIRST TIME AT 21 AND I WAS SO SCARED BUT I SAT DOWN WITH MY BOYFRIEND EXPLAINED TO HIM I WAS READY AND THAT HE HAD TO TAKE HIS TIME CAUSE I AM TIGHT AND IT WILL HURT AFTER WE SAT AND TALKED ABOUT IT...WE HAD SEX AND LITTLE WHILE AFTERWARDS BUT HE WAS SO GENTLE AND IT DID HURT A LITTLE BUT IT WASNT BAD HE MADE ME VERY COMFORTABLE..ALSO MAKE SURE YOU VERY HORNY AND WET THAT MAKES THINGS BETTER..IF YOUR NOT WET ENOUGH GET SOME KY JELLY BUT I SUGGEST TO GET WET ENOUGH ON YOUR OWN IT MAKES THE PENIS SLIP IN BETTER....JUST SIT DOWN AND TALK TO HIM I BET IT WILL BE OK...ALSO THINK THIS OVER FOR YOUR SELF YOU REALLY SHOULD HAVE SEX WITH SOMEONE YOU CAN TRUST AND PLAN ON BEING WITH..BECAREFUL AND USE CONDOMS REMEMBER BIRTHCONTROL DONT WORK ALONE IT NEEDS HELP
2006-11-01 05:40:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alot of the time your first time can be a little painful but,if your partner is slow and gentle it should go well.There are alot of creams and jellies available for just this thing.Make sure you are both relaxed when the time does come.
2006-11-01 06:25:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should wait until ur really ready, u may think u are but ur not. when ur really ready u will be mentally prepared to handle that pain. and yes it does hurt if its not done properly. foreplay plays a very important role for first timers. it kindda loosen up that area by making it wet enough so the pain wouldnt be so bad.
2006-11-01 05:41:46 · answer #6 · answered by Keagen2000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
fisrt you go girl for staying a virgin so long.second there are things you can use to help you out. k y jelly. does wonder to help ease it in. also don't tense up when he trying to penetrate you, you need to stay relaxed so it wron't hurt some much. and take your time. take it real slow and you should be fine.. rock his world girl ..haha..
2006-11-01 05:40:39 · answer #7 · answered by laydofluv25 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to be very blunt you should get a dildo (not a big one) and use it a couple of times before to get loosend up. and if you can't get one let him finger you with 2 or 3 fingers.
2006-11-01 05:38:50 · answer #8 · answered by James C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweety, Save your virginity for your Husband not your Boyfriend.
2006-11-01 05:45:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Save your virginity for your Husband
2006-11-01 06:04:13 · answer #10 · answered by ?Quesion&AnswerMan! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋