I look good and am educated (school )M.A. and street (teen f-up) but moved my child to the middle of no where because I did not want him in the city. I can not leave this town for a few reasons. I met one guy and dated on and off 7 years. He has serious commitment issues ( never married , no children, partys very hard (days) but only around 6 times a year, workaholic (I think) but gave me a ring recently. We are engaged.
I love him but do not really have anything to campare it with, am I selling myself short, I never really dated , and I know that I am loyal and strait forward. Should I be thinking these things. ??
I work with children so my job does not present any dating opportunities. I was the youngest parent and oldest college student so those places were out, I do not drink so no bars.
Question, am I setteling due to lack of experience or am I fortunate and should not think of these things?
2006-11-01 05:23:23 · 13 answers · asked by sweet pea 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i was with this guy for the same amount of time on and off. he asked me and i said yes. we were going to be married. but he too had serious commitment issues. he liked to party. he kept wanting to move us here and there and here again. i was like you. i didn't have much of an opportunity to find anyone else. there wasn't a line at my door. then about one month later i met the man i made my husband on yahoo personals. i am sooooooooooooooo glad that i did not settle for what i thought was all i would ever have the opportunity to have.
see, i think you want opportunities. please, do not settle for what you may think is all you can find. i'm trying to encourage my brother to keep looking too. he's in his mid-thirties and still single. he's older than me and now that i'm married and fixing to start a family, he's wondering if it will ever happen for him. it will! i went looking for mine and found him, and fought to keep him as he did me. never settle for second best! never settle! you know what you want. go for it! i guess i'm so this way b/c i'm so happy with my new life with my husband. i want everyone to feel this happy. have fun and God Bless You and Yours!
2006-11-01 05:40:48 · answer #1 · answered by LennyWenny 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-26 22:05:08 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you knew it was the right thing, you wouldn't have to ask. Those of us who married the right person just knew it was right. So if you have to ask, I would say that yes, you are selling yourself short. Sorry to say it, but you'll be better off in the long run. Marriage is a lot of work even with two totally committed people who are 100% right for each other. I have some single friends who are happier than some married people I know and vice versa. Do whatever will make you happiest in the long run.
2006-11-01 05:31:26 · answer #3 · answered by Kimmy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you have so many questions should be letting you know that this may not be the right situation for you. Is his hard partying lifestyle going to be acceptable to you once he is your husband? That issue in and of itself can cause major issues. Don't settle just because he gave you a ring. You should be sure of what you want when you make a committment like marriage. You may want to see what else is out there and you and he are meant to be, it will be.
2006-11-01 05:28:23 · answer #4 · answered by bttrfly0724 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you feel that this is not what you really want then let him know and get out of it, if you go forward with it then you will both regret it. First you need to find out what you really want, once you have that then you can move on to how to get it. There are always ways of meeting good ppl, if you don't drink then be the designated driver for your friends, volunteer ( I know working for no money is not apealing to everyone), religious gatherings, internet, etc.
If you really want to I am sure you can find ppl to date. I understand your predicament on being in the middle of no where, I moved from vegas to a small town in louisiana ( I know WTF was I thinking) where life is a lot slower and I enjoy it, here the "odds are good but the goods are odd" but there are still some women that catch my eye.
So if you feel you are settling, you probably are and if you are not but you feel you are, you won't be happy.
2006-11-01 05:31:50 · answer #5 · answered by ttepinzon 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You state you love him so it does not matter if you have had enough boyfriends in the past to compare him.If he were to go to the other side of the world do you feel that half of you would be gone? Is your relationship with him a happy one? These are all questions you need to ask yourself and then decide. If he is not the right one then you need to wait for the right guy to come along. If he makes you happy then keep him and do not worry if he compares to what you may and may not have missed.
2006-11-01 05:30:41 · answer #6 · answered by The_answer_person 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
people always have the gitters when they are going to say i do. but if you truely feel like you are just settling. then why not just stay engaged for a while and take your time to see if you tryely want this man.word of advice, dating now a days is over rated. believe me your not missing anything. take your time and feel the engagement out first, then make the choice...
2006-11-01 05:33:52 · answer #7 · answered by laydofluv25 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK darling, of course you should think of these things!!!
If you aren't sure of it DON'T DO IT. I mean yeah your getting older and part of me wants to tell you you won't get any younger. This is only a decision you can make?
2006-11-01 05:36:31 · answer #8 · answered by ~Crystal~ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well if he is around only 6x a year then think about that. But if you are in love with him. this is an issue you need to figure out within yourself,,
2006-11-01 05:26:43 · answer #9 · answered by goodlookin.mama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
marry him if he makes you smile every time you hear him and talk to him but if you just like him but there is nothing speacial don't cause no one wants to go to a divorce
2006-11-01 05:28:39 · answer #10 · answered by Tiffany 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋