my boyfriend of almost 4 months is stressed out to the max he has alot of bills right now to. and i cant do anything right we live together with his family. he always yells at me for laying down even for 5 mins. i only do childcare and he works 40 hours a week and his ex g/f is saying she is peg wtih his kid even after we found out its not his. i love him with all my heart but in some ways iam losing my mind because i feel like iam not doing anything right i make sure the house is clean everyday he has clean clothes and food in him everyday what should i do or say?
2006-11-01 05:18:31 · 11 answers · asked by brandy_hollifield2000 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
comfort him ask him what u can do to help... maybe take him out on a relaxin nite on like a friday after all his bills are done
2006-11-01 05:21:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First I must ask this: Why you are living with a man you've only been dating for 4 months?
My second question is this: How do you know the ex isn't carrying his child? Did you do a DNA test? Don't assume the child isn't his. It very well might be even is she slept around.
You are taking care of children which is exhausting work and you are catering to this man like a mother would. Your work week well exceeds 40 hours and he's yelling at you!!!???
If he's treating you this bad after just 4 months, imagine how awful he's going to treat you when he lets his guard down.
Get out of that house and out of that relationship, it's only going to get worse.
2006-11-01 13:32:54 · answer #2 · answered by eightieschic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can only do what you can do - you said you do child care - is this your child? if so then the problem may be coming from the fact that you and him live with his family...if possible - you should get a job, if only part-time to help with bills and find your own place to live...and if you are truly tired - lay down - he'll just have to deal with it...you will be no good to anybody if you dont get the rest you need, caring for kids is harder than men think...and if he is still stressed tell him he should work more hours - overtime - 40 hrs is not alot now-a days...i work 45 - 50 every week- it really wont kill him until he can get caught up
2006-11-01 13:25:55 · answer #3 · answered by beachnut222000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are in fact doing all these things that he doesnt appreciate then thats not very nice. I understand that he works 40 hours a week and that in and of itself is stressful, work is called work for a reason but he shouldnt bring his work issues home if thats what hes doing. To a degree I understand why he would get frustrated at you for certain things but that doesnt give him the right to yell at you. You are in the role of a wife from what I am reading and perhaps neither of you are ready for that transition especially if you dont have your own place.
If you are EVER in a relationship that makes you feel bad or uncomfortable you need to leave.
2006-11-01 13:24:19 · answer #4 · answered by ♥♥♥ Pink ♥♥♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down with him. Tell him that your feeling just as stressed as he is about the situation. Tell him everything that stresses you and make him tell you what stresses him. Make this a regular activity. Do it at least once a week, discuss your feelings. Make a day of the week where you both just take a small break and do something fun or romantic for the 2 of you, if you both must break down and cry then so be it. As long as you understand how each of you feel.
2006-11-01 13:27:56 · answer #5 · answered by Lakie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him to just relak and that you worked all day too and that your tired too and it's not like you didn't feed himand have the house clean when he came home. maybe you can try giving him a massage or something to relax him.
2006-11-01 13:22:28 · answer #6 · answered by juicy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My suggestion is move out, get a better paying job, and get on your own two feet...then you won't have to worry about other people fussing when you want to relax...be independent and self suffiicient and date guys who are also...
2006-11-01 13:21:40 · answer #7 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a new boyfriend or maybe go out on your own for a while.
2006-11-01 13:28:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him 2 go 2 councilling or just be friends right now b/c it may turn violant
2006-11-01 13:22:15 · answer #9 · answered by dellangal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you need to set something romantic get a hotel room just u and him massage and you knoe just relax no phones no nothin just u n him
2006-11-01 13:21:57 · answer #10 · answered by Nena 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋