i can't and i don't know why. how do i deal with always needing a male companion in my life.
2006-11-01 05:06:58 · 14 answers · asked by Simone H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You CAN, it's simply that you CHOOSE not to....there's a difference in being unable and being unwilling...
Perhaps counseling would help you realize that you don't need anyone but you...and having a boyfriend/partner doesn't make your life great or complete...and think about it, it's so NOT flattering to find out your partner is with you because s/he doesn't want to be alone, not because they really dig you...it's unkewl to realize you've been settled for...
Learn to like you and like your life w/o a guy there...that's when you'll be ready to be a good partner and to have one...
2006-11-01 05:10:25 · answer #1 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was in the same issue recently...and Im still kind of in withdrawl...I have a guy friend though and I dont think there's anything wrong with having male friends to get your mind off that person. Sort of like an opiate. Just dont make it sexual and let that person that youve been a relationship and that you want to try to be alone for a while. If that guy really respects you then he will understand and hopefully remain friends. The guy that Im dealing with is like that now but I let him know up front. However if you feel that you just dont want to be around males then just leave them alone. I like having a male perspective on life...sometimes female friends arent enough.
2006-11-01 13:50:42 · answer #2 · answered by Tash 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to restore the balance to your life. Being dependent on another person, and unable to function without them, is a serious issue. You might want to consider counseling, as you are obviously aware of the problem, but need help finding a solution.
2006-11-01 13:09:21 · answer #3 · answered by Jack 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have a 'dependency issue' then you will just go on to find someone else to depend on. Instead, depend on him until you feel you can go it alone, then leave him. Maybe by then you might not want to.
Maybe you are saying your boyfreind thinks you are too clingy or something. In this case, if you don't make him happy then find someone who wants to be depended on.
Don't forget, we all depend on each other. This is sort of normal.
2006-11-01 13:13:17 · answer #4 · answered by mince42 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you need to do is focus on the things that really matter: Your career, your home, your friends, your family, your activities. Set your mind to these things and make some success from them, and you'll feel more independent. If you really think you should leave your boyfriend, do it. Otherwise you'd just be leading yourselves on.
2006-11-01 13:15:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should figure out why you are so co-dependent on men and work on that. dont worry about how you are going to leave him just do it and leave him alone. you are gonna want to call him but fight the urge to do so. if you leave him and he doesnt act like he want to get back with you or is casual about breaking up, then you know its over and he cant temp your or manipulate you into staying with him. i know you dont want to be alone but you dont want ton continue getting hurt either.
2006-11-01 13:14:19 · answer #6 · answered by MiaDiva28 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only way to become stronger and truly independent is to be alone. It will be really hard at first but you can do it.
2006-11-01 13:11:17 · answer #7 · answered by texirocks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only way to get over a habit is to do it. believe me you wont die if you spend some time by yourself. actually it is healthy to do so, do some soul searching
2006-11-01 13:10:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are going to need to learn to stand on your own two feet, I will not kill you not to have a man in your life if anything it will make you stronger.
2006-11-01 13:08:51 · answer #9 · answered by Eyes of Green 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you find you a man that is god for you and buy you stuff and act like he dates you not ignore you or mess with other girls in front of you like my boyfriend he acts like we dont date anymore and sometimes play with other girls that is why i think it is time to let him go.
2006-11-01 13:11:06 · answer #10 · answered by shawty miller 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋