I am 24 years old and a recent law school graduate. I am content with my virginity. However, I get very uncomfortable when family and friends talk about sex. In addition, people assume that when a man has never had a relationship with a woman he is a homosexual. I am heterosexual but some people see my celibacy as repugnant.
Please feel free to comment.
2006-11-01 05:05:35 · 29 answers · asked by wayne b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know how you feel and its not as bad as you might think it is.
Actually the others dont really care much and the only one who would care is the girl that would be your first hit - and I wouldnt even tell her. Because its no one elses business actually.
If you are worried about people thinking you are gay- well just occasionally mention some "hot" chick you seen crossing the street, or how you got drunk and lost your wallet in a strip joint.
Just dont take it too serious - it really doesnt matter :)
2006-11-01 05:10:49 · answer #1 · answered by ganja_claus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's great that you are waiting for the right woman. I was a virgin until I was 23, waited for the right man, and I am very happy that I did. Why get uncomfortable when people discuss sex though? I am sure you have done other things with women that may leave you technically a virgin, but not inexperienced as far as how to please a woman or yourself. When the right girl comes along it will be wonderful, and worth the wait.
2006-11-01 05:09:17 · answer #2 · answered by Jessica 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like you said you are content with your virginity. You made the choice to wait until the time is right. There is absolutely nothing wrong with being celibate. You are not the only male out there whom has made the decision to wait, in fact im quite sure there are plenty older than you whom have made the same choice. When it comes to family discussing sexual topics simply excuse yourself from the room. Do not consider your leaving the room as rude it is simply a way to contain your composure and assure yourself you will hold fast to your decision. Don't fall for all the little comments/remarks people give you about being a virgin. In my opinion it takes a bigger man to keep something so sacred until he is sure rather than to just give in to all the temptations. Stay true to your choice and let nature take its course when its time.
2006-11-01 05:24:27 · answer #3 · answered by latrece81 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its great that you have held off. My husband was a 25 year old virgin and I was 22 years old when we got married. I think it is wonderful to find a man/woman who has held onto their innocence intact. When your family starts talking about sex, make an excuse and leave the room. I would only talk about that private thing with a good friend or my hubby but not in a big gathering.
2006-11-01 05:09:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW! That's a first. I'm not a man but I must say that a very good quality in a man. I know I don't you but sweetie I proud of you. Don't let people get to you about this you'll make love to a woman when your ready. And I'll pray that, that woman will be you soul mate or your life companion. Always do whats in your heart and when that time comes you will know it. One more thing most people talk a lot of stuff about who they done slept with but the truth is that deep down in side they wished that they waited also (most of them).
2006-11-01 06:09:08 · answer #5 · answered by feelingjustgothurt 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was a virgin till 24 too. OK I AM gay but i don't think changes anything since I've met gay people having sex with guys since the age of 16.
I believe it's just luck. Some things happen when they are supposed to happen.
2006-11-01 05:26:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a male college student, and I'm a virgin too because I don't believe in sex before marriage. You're following the right path. Don't pay attention to what people say: most don't have any idea what they're talking about.
2006-11-01 05:09:37 · answer #7 · answered by Free Ranger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is great. I went thru the same situation, except I gave in and had sex before marriage and to this day I wished I had waited till I got married. I am married now and the sex is just amazing. Hold on to your conviction and wait till marriage. It totally makes a difference when you fall in love and marry the right person.
2006-11-01 05:11:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It doesnt matter what others have to say to you only you know when the right time to give your virginity up so dont let them pressure you it sounds like you have it going for you a new career now you can start dating and maybe you will find the right women to marry and share your love with
2006-11-01 05:09:50 · answer #9 · answered by Jaime T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good for you!! If only I could go back and do things differently. Try not to let others comments bother you. You're doing this the right way. Because society is so messed up, it makes it look like you are the not normal one. You're doing it the way that God had intended and that's wonderful. I would do anything to be in your situation. God Bless
2006-11-01 05:08:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋