I feel like I have no purpose here. I'm forced to live a life that I don't want to live because I don't want to be a failure,but at the same time I feel like I have already failed. I always fail in EVERYTHING I do. I see a counselor once a week, but it is not helping at ALL!
***I HAVE NO INTENTION ON TAKING MYSELF OUT OF THIS WORLD***
2006-11-01 04:58:55 · 16 answers · asked by stress77mulah 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I had a counselor who didn't help me either. Have you talked to your doctor about anti-depressants? If you are to this point, that may be your only way out of this. They really help so don't hesitate!
2006-11-01 05:07:53 · answer #1 · answered by Kimmy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have felt this way many times.One thing you always have to remember is that everyone has a purpose and everyone is put on earth for some reason or another. Also you may think your failure at everything but your not, nobody can fail at everything, you probably just haven't found someone you enjoy. If you feel that your living a life that you don't want to live maybe you need to reevaluate where you are, for example maybe you need better friends or maybe you need a better job. Take a minute and step back and think to yourself what could I change. When I felt the way you did I had to take a step back and realize that the people I was friends with were the real reason I was unhappy with my life. You may think that you seeing a counselor may not be helping but it takes baby steps.
2006-11-01 13:10:21 · answer #2 · answered by nathan920ca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen you do have a purpose here. Life is what you make it and you can take it in any direction you like. I know the experience you describe because I've been there. I saw a councilor weekly and was prescribed tablets. Eventually I thought 'Sod it! I'm in control of me' I started to look at the good things in my life and what I had going for me, not what was against me. I threw the tablets away and didn't take any more. I stopped the counseling sessions as i knew more about me than she did. I faced the world, grabbed it by the neck and shook it. I used my confidence and after a year of depression and misery I got a new job where I am successful and respected.
Work to your strengths. Whatever you're good at, concentrate on that. Whatever you're bad at ... improve. Learning is fun. It makes you more knowledgeable and able to enjoy life better.
You will have lots of friends but you'll find that if you feel sorry for yourself and mope about they won't show as much interest in you. Show your vivacity and the fun side of yourself. Have confidence in yourself and value yourself and, hey, don't forget, you've got hundreds of friends on 'Answers'. Just ask the question and they'll be there. I know there are some kookoos but, then again, there are everywhere.
Best wishes to you for whatever you want to do. Go for it babe.
2006-11-01 13:08:21 · answer #3 · answered by quatt47 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish that we could be friends I have been through the same thing and still sometimes feel depressed and here what I do I have realized that I am here on earth kind of like an angel and I know that there is a reason why things happen I think that is is because God knows that we are strong enough to deal with it life is good and you are not failure you still can fix that How old are you write me back lets talk we have alot in common................
2006-11-01 13:02:52 · answer #4 · answered by bethbaird1222 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God doesn't make failures or mistakes, you are neither, you come from the same beautfiul divine source. Does your counselor know how you feel? There's more than one counselor out there, but he/she can't help you if you won't tell them that you feel stuck or are not making progress. You have a right to expect the best effort from your therapist in your treatment program. And guess what? If you get that done for yourself, it's a success! I'm glad to hear that you want to stay here in this world.
2006-11-01 22:10:50 · answer #5 · answered by Boots4ACowgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've felt the excact same way before and i've seen people in your situation before that get over it, im not saying you can just get over it like that, you need to talk to people, get friends, better friends or just talk to your old friends, find out what you really like, even if you hate things around you, you could search the internet like launch on yahoo(launch.yahoo.com) and chekc what music style you actually like, try the same with clothes, maybe you're just not fitting in, you don't want to be the same as everyone else, I changed and it made me happy, everyone pressures you to be the same but once you're proud to be different you shouldn't have the pressure of failure, the less you care aobut them the more you care about yourself. I always find that people who get through feeling suicidal turn out to be some of the best people in this world, and just rise above the normal social.. copy everyone else scene. If you want to know more you'll have to make this the best answer and tell me in a comment because i keep my information private. It's your choice though..even with this situation.. no pressure of failure. It's all your choice, just like your life.
2006-11-01 13:06:16 · answer #6 · answered by Aaron 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find something to give you a purpose. Volunteer for an organization that you feel passionate about. Like children (coach for the local rec dept or YMCA), love animals (Humane Societies are always looking for dog walkers), like to help people (volunteer at the local hospital or nursing home). All of these organizations are limited on cash and in need of additional help. Some other options are Red Cross, Salvation Army, local food bank or Soup Kettle. Or find a singles club or church that you enjoy. Good Luck! Remember, everyone is put on this earth for a purpose, it is your job to find yours.
2006-11-01 13:05:31 · answer #7 · answered by gkneenc 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in somewhat of the same situation as you. I was a great student in all of elementary school and I was in the top of my grade in 6 and 7th grades, but in 8th grade I am struggeling to keep my grades above failing due to my ADHD. I sugest just taking it easy for a while and finding somebody or something to live for. If you can't find a person try getting a puppy, they give alot of love and attention and you are their best friends, you are everything to them, and they can be everything to you. You also may want to go take a depression test to see if you can get some medicine.
2006-11-01 13:10:05 · answer #8 · answered by ►♦◄ bow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Join a support group. If you want to be by yourself, join a library. Pursue a hobby, Take a walk in the park and count your blessings. Everyone has something to be happy and thankful about. Do social work. Go and help handicapped or less fortunate people. Try to bond with your family and really understand them as human beings.
Misfortunes and setbacks occur in everyone's life, but they always come to pass and seem trivial afterwards.
2006-11-01 13:07:21 · answer #9 · answered by yakkydoc 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i dont know what to tell you because I feel the same way, I have a bf and lots of friends and they dont help, im still very depressed, nothing ever changes to make life better or worth living. sometimes i wonder if there is a medication I can take to just go to sleep forever.
2006-11-01 14:14:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋