I have been with my boyfriend for 6 months now and we can't seam to stop arguing over the most stupid things, he thinks I nag too much and I think he is a total *** hole but I know we love eachother. I don't want to have to resort to breaking up with him and we have already sat down and had the "serious" talk but I don't know what else to do, I mean seriously, we argue every day!
2006-11-01 04:56:09 · 21 answers · asked by MJ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Are you that much of a loser that you cannot figure out that you two are not getting along and need to get on with life without each other in the way?
2006-11-01 04:58:33 · answer #1 · answered by IGH3Rat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should not argue but you should discuss things. When a guy gets into an argument, he considers it a competition. The testosterone (sometimes refereed to as the vaginally impaired) takes over and his sole purpose for being at that moment is to win... It is competition. He has yet to learn that when a woman tells you about a problem, she does not want you to fix it, she wants to you listen. If a woman has a different opinion, then she has a right to have that opinion wither you agree with it or not. You can put every effort into an argument and you can win the battle but lose the war. He needs to stop hanging with his male friends long enough to learn how to converse with a woman. There could also be a few things you may say that is equivalent to throwing down the gauntlet. I am a firm believer of going to a counselor before you get married to iron out a few kinks and nip it in the bud. You don't want recoil every time you approach a subject that you may not agree on. Jerk knee reactions can create a conditioned reflex that is hard to overcome in a relationship.
2006-11-01 13:06:29 · answer #2 · answered by Mr Cellophane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The longer you wait the harder it will be to get out. If it is not working after 6 months, it will never work. A relationship should keep improving. If not, it is a bad relationship. When you do break it off, do a self reality check also to see if maybe you need to make some changes and that you are not looking for something that is unrealistic. Usually when a relationship is bad, it is not just 1 person's fault. Both sides contribute. It is like a dance- even if 1 is leading, the other is contributing to the overall success or failure of the dance.
2006-11-01 13:09:50 · answer #3 · answered by Foot Tickler 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If after 6 months you can't seem to stop arguing over stupid things, he thinks you're a nag, you think he's an ******, has it ever occurred to you that this isn't "love" it's more like a bad habit? You're just not compatible! No big deal- you're not married. So break up and see if you can find a boyfriend who isn't an idiot.
2006-11-01 12:59:39 · answer #4 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
6 months. You think you are in love, and that you love him, but really you are just infatuated with him and in lust still with his looks and his physical body. The same with him. You don't want to let go of this *hunk* in your eyes, so you are almost willing to do anything to make it work. If you and him argue everyday. Its never going to work. Look at it like this, you have only been with him for 6 months, a rather short time. Breaking up with him at this point and this early in the game should be fairly easy. If I were you, I would, and I would move on to find and be with someone that I don't argue with. Blessed be.
2006-11-01 13:03:31 · answer #5 · answered by shy&gental 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever thought you were the problem. You said that he says you nag too much. Which i can believe because women are so very good at that. All you said was that he is an a** hole. If that is the only reason you find to nag him, then maybe you are the problem, and you can be the solution.
2006-11-01 13:02:07 · answer #6 · answered by johnsonjrod 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, I hear you. Me and mine never stop arguing either. I seriously think maybe yours has a tolerance issue. Sometimes people get annoyed at eachother easier then others. I think though, you seem like a nice person and if you love yourself, you'll realize that its just going to get old after a while. I've been with mine for 2.5 years and I'm tired. My mind hurts from hearing his voice....my body is nervous all time. My pets suffer when we argue. We're proabably not going to make it. But, I guess things just play out that way sometimes.
2006-11-01 13:06:22 · answer #7 · answered by Jazy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if your arguing over stupid things and do not want to break up cause you love him why not be the bigger person and stop arguing over stupid things and walk away, I mean if there that stupid why argue then, just shut up and walk away, its not hard even if you think your right, its better then arguing over it, get over it and start living a life, maybe you both need something exciting in your life so you can move on over stupid things!
2006-11-01 12:59:47 · answer #8 · answered by Sassy H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Those fights are like slapping you in the face girl. Move on...two hard-heads will not work. You need to be doing more laughing than fighting. Believe me there will be someone out there that does just that. What do you look forward to now....the next fight? Open your eyes and you will see the light. O he probably gets mad if you look at other guys...right? Jealousy will get you know where.
2006-11-01 13:06:13 · answer #9 · answered by Jip Jip 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
...what the? you know what, relationship is just like programming in computer. Trial and error is always there just to make your program run. So it's just like that, too in handling a relationship, still trial and error. So if it doesn't work then why not look for another mr. right guy. I know it's easy to say this, but it's hard to do. But hey! choose between the 2 of this, sacrifice your love to leave him or suffer forever?
2006-11-01 13:09:00 · answer #10 · answered by Manuel Araya 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋