How do i win over a woman thats stuck on an abusive ex?

Answer 1

unfortunately first this woman will have to win over herself. The power an abuser has is incredibly,dangerously strong. It is hard to overcome,hard to even recognize. Give this woman encouragement, and compliment her, but be careful, it is quite possible that she will back away because she doesn't know how to respond to compliments any longer. If you take into consideration of her past abuse while trying to win her over, I'm sure you'll be careful and mindful of what you do and say.
Also keep in mind that- she will most likely believe that she isn't good enough for you and that she deserves to be abused, because that is what the abuser has trained her to believe.
I wish the best of luck to her and thank you for wanting to help a fellow human becoming!!

Answer 2

You may have met a woman that is a 'co-dependent'. If that is the case, I suggest you read up on the subject--because it will definitely affect you. You may also want to read up on restraining orders and consider that this couple has the potential of having a negative impact on your life. You could get caught in the middle and wind up being the loser in the group. If she's worth it, and you really like this woman, share some reading material with her, suggest counseling so she can realize her role, and tough it out. In any event, good luck with that.

Answer 3

actions speak louder than words. show her all the things that would make her feel good. the only reason she is stuck on this relationship is because she doesn't know of anything else. most people are afraid of change. the more you show her how special that she is the more she will start to realize it herself. that is a healing process. if you really care about her you will be patient and if it is meant to be then it will be the most rewarding thing you could have done-helping someone heal and loving someone unconditionally and them doing that same back to you....the best of both worlds.

Answer 4

Please be very paticent with her. She is going to need time to get over her ex. Just be yourself and concentrate on making your relationship the best between you and her. Soon or later she is going to realize that she has a good thing and she will eventually let go of her past. Reinforce that you are there for her and make your relationship fun. It works, I was a victim of abuse.

Answer 5

hate to say it: why would u want some1 like that? women like that (especially those who r stuck one an abusive EX) all they want is the same, and they r messed up. and even if she (eventually) moves on and starts something w/u it will be messed up.

stay away, and find some1 else

Answer 6

Sock her one. For some reason we just like that. Nah I'm playin! Show her that she doesn't have to deal with that. Treat her like she has never been treated. Just don't bee too oppressing, and let her have a lil space to breath and observe for a little while. I know exactly how she is feeling!

Answer 7

well really, you have to be ready for the fight and if she don't want to leave then there is nothing you can do but wait...... and if she does want to leave, I'm sure he will try something stupid, so be ready and you know really what you can do is be there for her too, don't listen to that co dependant s*** I came from a relationship that was abusive and guess what I am perfectly happy,,,,,

Answer 8

I'm having a real problem understanding why you are interested in someone who isn't interested in you. Not a very healthy obsession you are fostering.

Answer 9

I am afraid you cant she is obviously fixated on him and she will not break the cycle untill she is ready. Good luck and god bless.

Answer 10

I GUESS DO THINGS TO SHOW HER YOU ARE NOT LIKE THE OTHER GUY. YOU NEED TO GIVE HER TIME. BE HER FRIEND FIRST. YOU GOTTA GIVE HER TIME TO TRUST YOU LIKE SHE "TRUSTED" HIM.