Im writng this paper for english(so this means i have to turn this info in so could u pleas keep it clean) on spanking and even though i am totally opisite of my position i need some #s to put in the paper so i would like to no what u think and no about spaking issuses and if u think it sould be a form or corparal punishment. All help is greatly appreciated!!!!!
2006-11-01 04:43:12 · 7 answers · asked by LovelyHeather 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
First of all, there is a huge difference between abuse and spanking.
I was a very rebellious/belligerent child. Putting me in my room didn't work; I would defy them and walk right back out. Everyone spanked me... my grandfather said that he spanked me more than all his children and grandchildren put together. I believe if they had not spanked me, I would have ended up in prison or worse. As it is, I have had zero infractions of the law in my life (not even a speeding ticket). But, they also gave me lots and lots of positive reinforcement (that is just as important). I love them with all my heart and I'm so glad they wailed on my bottom... I really needed it. You just have to be consistent!
Those people who give those rubbishy arguments against spanking don't have a clue. I have a super high self-esteem and spanking didn't teach me to hit... I got spanked for hitting people. Look at how the children are ending up these days. Just how many school shootings, violence, rebellion, etc. have we had from children who were not spanked? As people quit spanking more and more, these things will continually go up more and more. Just look at the statistics from back in the days when people spanked. Spare the rod...
2006-11-01 05:37:20 · answer #1 · answered by Questioner 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't consider it a form of "corporal punishment", when my kids are acting up, and I've given them a few warnings or tried time-outs, and they are continuing to act up, then they will get a spanking.
I don't think spanking is necessary or effective for all children, however it has worked for my kids.
I'm also a nanny, and the 5 year old that I take care of, hardly ever acts up. When he does, I just need to give him "the look" and say knock it off, and he stops. However, I do see this child throwing tantrums around his mom that I often think he could use a spanking for.
2006-11-01 04:53:53 · answer #2 · answered by who-wants-to-know 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I spank my son. He's 2 and quite stubborn. So, if he's not responding to me at all when I tell him no, I will ask him to hold out his hand to me and I will smack him on the top of his hand. Most of the impact hits my left palm, so it doesn't really hurt him, and he hears a solid whack which definitely gets his attention. If he does something really bad, like try to run out into the road, or open the oven, I will pull him aside, tell him how dangerous it was, bend him over my knee and give him two smacks to his bottom. He's still in pull-ups, so it's not painful, but it is loud. My husband and I have set out ground rules for this kind of punishment, so that we don't cross the punishment-abuse line in anger and maintain control of the situation. Because your children will learn how to manipulate you if they sense that you aren't in control when you discipline them. Control is everything, the day you hand your child control, it's all over, there isn't anything more you can do. And, yes, it follows the definition of corporal punishment which is to cause physical pain without injury. Because a smack can sting for a few moments. But as long as it doesn't leave a mark, and falls only on the top of the hand and on the bottom, and only with a hand, no other object involved, it is the most mild form of corporal punishment in existence.
2006-11-01 06:37:52 · answer #3 · answered by Jennifer M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A good parent doesn't need to spank. Consistency and sticking together as parents are the most important. If the kids know that mom and dad feel the same way, they will know they can't win. Consequences for bad behavior and rewards for good behavior. Kids like to be rewarded more then punished.
2006-11-01 06:40:14 · answer #4 · answered by TK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think children need more than just "sit in the corner and think about what you did..." for 5 minutes. They need to have a good swat on the butt--but only if it's well deserved.
Children who are spanked grow up to actually respect their parents, unlike those who aren't spanked. It's not abuse--it's a simple way to get their attention for bad behavior.
2006-11-01 04:49:30 · answer #5 · answered by CelebrateMeHome 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
some kids dont always learn there lesson if u just take there toys away sometimes they need a spanking but one to where they arent left with a bruise my son gets into alot of things that he isnt suppose to get into so i spank him on the hand gently not to hard and tell him NO and i give him a reason y i did what i did like dont do that because u can get hurt and i love u and dont want to see u hurt....
2006-11-01 05:52:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My view on spanking :
It's another tool to discipline kids. Not the only one of course but it works. However you must use it in the right way,I mean. Kids must know that bad behavior would get them consequences and spanking is one of them.
So in the end it's up to them if they earned a smacking.
2006-11-01 05:30:05 · answer #7 · answered by pacodez 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋