2006-11-01 04:28:00 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I hesitate to say we have "A" soul mate, I believe marriage is something you have to continually work on and compromise through, and the idea of a soul mate tends to bring to mind some kind of sublime bliss that does all the work for you because you were "destined" to be together. Having said that, I DO believe that we are certainly more compatible with particular types of people such as those that share our long term goals, our faith, want children (if we do also), etc...but I think it's possible to love more than one person in your lifetime, such as in the case of the death of your spouse, I believe it WOULD be possible to love again under the right circumstances.
2006-11-01 04:37:40 · answer #1 · answered by lookn2cjc 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I believe that there is such a thing. You just know when you have met yours. I knew it wasn't my ex-husband, then after we divorced I knew the man I dated for almost 4 years wasn't it either. Now I am about to marry the man who I have absolutely no doubt in my mind is my soulmate. It's an amazing feeling of simply knowing. It's a fascinating connection between two people. I wish I could explain it better...
2006-11-01 04:34:44 · answer #2 · answered by ♥ terry g ♥ 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I met my 'soul mate' in 1983. I heard a voice talking in the crowd and turned around to find the source of this voice. I was mesmerized and it wasn't by his looks. Something drew me. A 'what?' He began calling me 10 times a day. He would rush up out of no where and say 'Hi!'. It was very strange. We are married and don't even need to verbalize anymore. We know about each other, thoughts and feelings. We even take each other's physical pain on. And yet we are independent of one another and lead our own lives.
And when I researched my genealogy, we are distant cousins.
2006-11-01 05:08:13 · answer #3 · answered by a_delphic_oracle 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Warning -- sappy answer!
I never thought there was such thing until I fell for my husband. I feel like we are the same person, just walking around in separate bodies.
How did I know? It took a loooooong time. We were friends for a couple of years, then started dating, but I wasn't sure. Finally I realized there was no other person on the face of the earth who loved me as he did, who knew me so thoroughly, who put my happiness ahead of his own. And I realized I felt the same way about him.. We out and out worship, adore, desire each other... My friends tell me he and I have the only truly *happy* marriage they know of.
I used to think "soul mates" was just a load of romantic poopy, but now.... I know I never really loved anyone until him.
2006-11-01 04:35:26 · answer #4 · answered by Chickyn in a Handbasket 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
When people say soul mates, they typically mean that ONE person who is MEANT for them. This person has been CHOSEN by god, the universe or whatever, and is their DESTINY.
Wow, I'm dramatic!
Anyway - I don't really believe that. I can't say it's not true, but if it is, that person should come labelled. Because it's quite possible to pass them by.
What I do believe is that there is more than one person out there for us. Some will fulfill some needs, others will fulfill other needs. They aren't all candidates for marriage; some should just be friends.
As for how you know them - I hate to sound trite, but you "just know." Anyone in a happy marriage will say something similar. You just plain KNOW.
2006-11-01 04:39:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes. There certainly is.
I fell in love with a girl she was 17, and I was 20. Because of religious differences I could not continue the relationship.
I went off and got married and she did the same.
During my married life I would lay awake for hours. In my mind's eyes I would see her crying. Almost 30 years later I met her and we compared notes. It was amazing. We had a beautiful love affair that lasted about 2 years before her husband found out and wanted to kill us. I got divorced and she still lives with her husband. I still think about her, but will not risk another affair.
We should have left well enough alone. It is sad as we went to all the places we did before. The sex was the best we ever had.
2006-11-01 04:37:38 · answer #6 · answered by va3jrj 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I kind of think "soul mates" is something you and your beloved create together. I mean, yes there was an instant connection when I met my husband, but that real bonding of the soul I think is something that's been developing over the years
2006-11-01 04:33:27 · answer #7 · answered by daisyk 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't know if I believe in "soul mates", but I think you just know when you've met the right one, it's an indescribable feeling
2006-11-01 04:37:01 · answer #8 · answered by tawnycarter@sbcglobal.net 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
The concept of soul mates tears its self apart if one person accidentally marries the wrong person.
IE: John is meant to marry Sue, but doesn't meet her so he thinks Sarah is his soul mate and marries her. Sarah's soul mate was Tom but she was just a friend to him so he looks else where and marries Erin. John and Sarah aren't happy together because they aren't soul mates so they get a divorce John decides that Erin may be his soul mate, and convinces her to divorce Tom for him........in the end no one is happy and no one gets married to their soul mate.
And I don't believe in destiny any ways.
2006-11-01 04:30:24 · answer #9 · answered by isoar4jc 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
yes I believe there is such a thing as a soul mate. You will know when you find your soul mate when you find someone that truly loves you very much. I found my soul 26 years ago and I know he is.
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The notion of "soul mates" has been around a very, very long time.
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Reincarnation: Some believe that a soul mate is someone with whom a person has shared other life times through reincarnation.
The soul mate could be a friend, business partner, parent, child, sibling, spouse or other family member. These soul mates can be of the same or opposite sex.
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This concept was the basis of the movie, "The Butcher's Wife" where the idea of "split-aparts" searching for one another was explored.
People all over the world believe that we are all searching for someone to make us whole and to share our journey of life with.
A dictionary definition is: One of two persons compatible with each other in disposition, point of view, or sensitivity.
Someone for whom you have a deep affinity . A person temperamentally suited to another.
Predestination: The movie "Still Breathing" examines the thought that people are drawn together as soul mates by destiny or fate and that being with our soul mate is something we have no control over. This idea of predestination and connection even after death between soul mates was also examined in the movie "What Dreams May Come".
Making Life Come to Life: Richard Bach describes soul mates as "A soulmate is someone who has the locks to fit our keys, and the keys to fit our locks. When we feel safe enough to open the locks, our truest selves step out and we can be completely and honestly who we; we can be loved for who we are and for who we're pretending to be. Each of us unveils the best part of one another. No matter what else goes wrong around us, with that one person were safe in our paradise. Our soulmate is someone who shares our deepest longings, our sense of direction. When we're two balloons, and together our direction is up, chances are we've found the right person. Our soulmate is the one who makes life come to life. "
Profound Connection:Thomas Moore describes a soul mate as "someone to whom we feel profoundly connected, as though the communication and communing that take place between us were not the product of intentional efforts, but rather a divine grace. This kind of relationship is so important to the soul that many have said there is nothing more precious in life."
Feeling at Ease With one Another: We don't believe a soul mate is the ideal or one and only person in someone's life. Our definition of soul mates is people who together want to work on making their marriage a great one. Their relationship feels like a natural fit, and although they need to work on their marriage, it is not hard to do. When soul mates first meet, there is an immediate sense of being at ease and connected.
General Belief: Most believe that soul mates can accept and love every part of the other's personality and that life with a soul mate is easy and natural.
Soul Mate Challenges
Although you may assume that a partnership of two soul mates should be able to handle challenging times well, that may not always be the case. Just because they are in tune to one another, are each willing to take responsibility for their role in contributing to the conflict, and are both committed to making the marriage a successful one -- the marriage can still fall apart if other essentials such as love, respect, and communication are missing.
Many people have probably already married their soul mates and simply don't realize it. The danger in believing in the concept of soul mates is taking your marriage relationship for granted.
If you start looking for perfection in your spouse, or think that everything in your relationship should immediately click, and that there won't be any problems, you are setting yourself up for a dose of heavy disillusionment.
There can be temptation to bail out of an unhappy marriage because you think your spouse isn't your soul mate. If you think that marrying your soul mate will mean a life free from hard times and conflict, you are not facing reality.
If you think you've not married your soul mate, don't just walk away from the relationship for that reason alone. Spend some time getting to know yourself a bit better first. You can't find your soul mate if you haven't found yourself
2006-11-01 04:36:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋