is love marriage or arranged marriage the best?

Question

ameenasulaiman
[e-mail]

Answer 1

love marriage nothing beats love

Answer 2

Personally for myself, love marriage. Although I can see the idea behind arranged marriage. You don't get caught up in the goo goo mushy gushy stuff that sometimes clouds your vision and keeps you from seeing the obvious that this person might not be right for your or how women think they can "change" a man sometimes. I could do an arranged marriage if I knew the man wasn't a chauvinistic, abusive jerk and had the same ideas about marriage and family as I did.

Answer 3

love. no contest.
there is a rider to that of course..when i say love i mean both the guy and gal should accept the responsibility that comes with love and get into the relationship as adults. then it works.
however, there is an element of luck and god's grace that leads to the perfect love match. if a person isnt that lucky in this lifetime..then arranged marriage is a good option instead of going nuts looking for a partner.
the problem with arranged marriages is that some times people tend to settle for less..they think they have to make it work..or else. so the ball ends in your court. ie you should be able to be happy on your own with or without a partner. then any decision will work out right in the long run..because you have a solid foundation in yourself to hold you through thick and thin.

Answer 4

I have seen many arranged marriages which, on the face of it seem very successful. However, those marriages have been on the basis that the couples have a chance to meet and get to know each other before any definite commitment is made. And also they are in societies where there is a lot of support from the families.

Love is not a reliable way of picking a partner. Often it makes us blind to glaring incompatibilities, and also raises our expectations, sometimes to an unrealistic level.

Answer 5

I believe that a love marriage is best. I admit that I don't personally know anyone who is in an arranged marriage, but I can't imagine being married to someone that I don't love or having my parents pick out my husband for me.

Answer 6

Arranged marriage isn't marriage, it's a contract, a business deal; in short, it is prostitution. The only difference between an arranged prostitute and a street prostitute is that a street prostitute sells sex to different men most of the time while and arranged prostitute is contracted to one man only for a lifetime. All of the men I have met who are on an arranged contract cheat. They all say the same things: you learn to love the person, which as they are constantly cheating in search of the love they never had, you know never happens, they cherish the kids produced by the contract (sincerely wishing they could get rid of the ball and chain that produced them that they pretend to love so much) and they expect women on the outside to fall all over them whether they are divorced or not and in spite of the fact that they have that hidden life somewhere WITH kids. A love marriage on the other hand is extremely hard to find these days, women rushing into marriage to beat their time clock and to ensure a free and easy ride in life are too much in a hurry to fall in love or think about what it really means and men are superficial looking only for looks and women aged 26 and under with large breasts, who usually don't know their heads from the other end, are frightfully uneducated (men like them completely ignorant) and shouldn't be marrying at all, much less producing scads of children.

Answer 7

Tho there's probably a lot to be said about an arranged marriage and as long as both parties are willing to make it work, there probably is nothing wrong with it, but I'd rather be in love when I get married and have the chance to get to know the person I plan to spend the rest of my life with.

Answer 8

well it depends on the place u live in ie the country, if arrangement marriage is prevalent then i would say arrange coz many times its seen if tht love marriage wont work n then the girl is blamed so its better to be in a safer side, but this situation is genrally in the east, not the west so for westerners love marriage is the best.

Answer 9

You can find the arranged marriage only in the developing countries. If you live in the U.S and the Europe, forget about the arranged marriage because most people don't like the idea of restriction or intervention in their private affair.

Answer 10

Lot of Love marriage ending with divorce ...
Arrange marriage might work sometimes if both person have understanding each other.

Answer 11

love marriage because it is your choose and no one is pressuring you to marry some strange person..i once had a arrange marriage, well just engaged but i hated it and i called it off and ran of with my boyfriend at the time...