What do you use for a spanking?

Question

I was wondering what other parents use to spank their children with?

For me, I use a "rod", which right now is a 15in PVC pipe that has about a 1/2inch diameter. I want to use this, because my children can't ever relate anything other than disciple to the rod. If I used a belt, that could be negatively related to my husband, since he wears one. I don't use my hands, those are for loving, not for spanking. I don't use wooden spoons or other kitchen items, since someday I want to teach them to cook!

Any other parents have ideas along these lines?

Answer 1

HAND TO BUTT ONLY!! anything else is child abuse..........BUT.. in all fairness you do what YOU feel is right! don't let other's tell you what to do!!

Answer 2

I've used a wooden spoon, but rarely did I actually have to use it. Most of the time all I had to do was tell them to behave and start walking toward the kitchen. The conflict was instantly resolved. ;-). These toddlers are now 14 and 16 and neither have an aversion to wooden spoons or to cooking. Now washing dishes is another story. lol
I believe the spirit in which the child is disciplined is more important than the tool used. Never discipline in anger. Make sure you give yourself a cooling off period and administer the punishment matter-of-factly, explaining why it was done, calmly.

Answer 3

It's disturbing that you think it's fun to post obviously fake questions about beating your child with a pipe.

I disagree with violence against children in any form, but even folks who still think it's okay to spank their children aren't reaching for pipes and belts.

On the off chance that you're posting this with any truth at all, then my heart goes out to the little 2 year old twins you mention in your other questions.

Answer 4

Hand to Butt is the best method . . I tried time out and when they were little (too little for me to spank) it worked but by the time they went to school the only thing that really made a difference in the bad behavior was a spanking . . time out only gave them time to plot against me . . .

My Cousins children who are 7 and 10 where only given time out, because she doesn't believe in spanking , they tell their mom to F**k off when she tells them to do something . . the 10 year old who's never been spanked threw a can of Ravioli at her mom giving her a concussion . . While the kids stayed with me they were spanked when they misbehaved and when the 10 yr old said F**k off to me I shoved a bar of soap in her mouth while she got a spanking. My cousin noticed they behave differently when they come to my home now her and her husband are having second thoughts about the spanking

Answer 5

Wow I hear some things on this site that spin my head and break my heart.
Please don,t hit your children. Do you want to be hit all the time? If you were hit what did it feel like to you?Love?
Please use consistent time outs . It really works and talking to you children after wards (briefly ,to explain why that was wrong).
I,m watching a 4 year old at this moment who is the happiest most well adjusted (behaved) little girl and she never get hit only time outs.
Please take the time out to learn new discipline habits. I know you love your children.

Answer 6

That's nuts! Time out and/or taking away a favorite possesion as a punishment should be enough. You need to find out what possesions are really important to your child and if your child is not behaving correctly, tell the child, "You have a choice, you can stop , or you can have your taken away. It's your choice." And when the child doesn't comply, you take the possesion away for a period of time that you determine. If you are very consistent with this method, your child will start choosing to not have his possesion taken away. Bascially, you are putting the child in control (in their mind), but ultimately you are getting what you want. It's like asking the child "which shirt do you want to wear today, this one or this one" and you don't really care which one he picks, but he feels like he's getting to chose and it is all up to him.

Answer 7

Are you serious? You use a rod to spank your children? Isn't this abuse? I don't believe in spank my son. If you teach then to listen they will. I just use time out and it works just fine. My son is 3 years old and has no problem following the rules.

Answer 8

So when you do something wrong, like run a red light, tell a white lie, act rude or ungrateful, does someone hit you with a pvc pipe?


Children learn by example...And in my opinion, you're setting a TERRIBLE example for your children.

Anything
other than time outs and a LIGHT tap on the butt is considered child abuse...A pipe?? Come on, what century are you living in?

Answer 9

If you cannot teach your children proper behavior without abuse then you've got problems and are teaching your kids its OK to hurt people physically. You need to learn impulse control and use your words to explain to your kids why their behavior is unacceptable and give them a time out.
Please put the rod away.

Answer 10

Are you kidding me? I wonder how old your kids are. Try a time out, or put them in their room for a while. Take away a favourite toy or a privalage, like tv or Nintendo. Personally if I knew you, I'd call social services, maybe you should take a parenting course - go to the library for some great reference books on parenting.

Answer 11

Don't spank-especially with an object! Reserve this for a life threatening situation (like running in the street).And then use your hand! That way you will never be too harsh.
Frankly, I am not sure you should be a mother-maybe a prison guard.Are you reading anything on parenting??
You could get hauled in for child abuse & I for one would applaud.Use the rod to hang curtains & try reading!