My son has been acting rebellious for the last few days. Mostly he gets into something that makes alot of mess and just spills all over. A few days ago it was salt, then it was coffoe grounds, and today he spilled paint on the carpeting.
My son is four, but he has just recently been diagnosed (?) as being legally deaf and he hasn't devoloped to his age. We were recently told that he may have a condition where he may have the mental capability of a child or even a baby all his life.
I'd like to know if maybe this is just something he can't control or .. i just would like to know what you all think!
Thanks in advance!
Kristy
2006-11-01 04:18:50 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Well first of all, deaf or NOT I would NOT allow him to tear up my house.
What you might be dealing with is NOT so much rebellion as anger & frustration. I suggest getting him into a program A.S.A.P. to start him learning to communicate with sign language. They learn more quickly when they are young. You will need to go as well to learn to communicate with him & be able to teach other family members to communicate as well.
This will give him something to focus on....Talk with his pedicatrician & ask them to recommend helpful prgrams that would benefit your child & you.
Good Luck to you both...
But remember, that just because he has a handicap does NOT mean you should not discipline him for his actions. Also, CHILD PROOF YOUR HOME & place items where he cannot reach them & install childproof cabinet locks. For his safety & your sanity....
2006-11-01 06:21:35 · answer #1 · answered by More Lies & More Smoke Screens 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, a 4 yr. old should be punished for things like that because they know better. But if the doctors are saying he might have that condition where his mental capability is that of a small child or baby his whole life--then that's a different issue. If he truly has that condition, then he probably just doesn't know any better or realize what he was doing was wrong.
I really wish I could help, but I think your best bet would be to have a long talk with his doctor or a specialist on his condition and just learn about what it is and how to deal with him when it comes to things like this. God bless to you and your little one :-)
2006-11-01 04:25:14 · answer #2 · answered by CelebrateMeHome 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for your unfortunate news. You could maybe try having him assist you cleaning up the mess so that he can put it together that when he spills something, he has to take time away from play to clean it up. Try not to leave paint laying around where he can get it (I know this is hard with a 4 year old, they get into everything). He could be frustrated because he can't communicate what he wants as well. Best of luck!
2006-11-01 04:23:14 · answer #3 · answered by Shannon L - Gavin's Mommy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The first thing that I would do if this were my son is to get some referrals to centers in your area that deal with children who have developmental issues. Two of my cousins have Down Syndrome and they are functioning fairly well thanks to their mothers' early intervention. Your son probably needs some more structure and some more outlets for his "creativity". I would also strongly suggest that you look for support from other parents who have children with similar issues. They will be able to give you hints, suggestions and moral support. Keep after the doctors about the hearing and the developmental issues because there may be a surgery or procedure to help with the hearing. It sounds to me that you're going to be a strong advocate for your son. Through all of this, please don't forget to take care of your own needs, all of your needs.
2006-11-01 04:44:53 · answer #4 · answered by Susan G 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't spank your child. It is PROVEN to make children more prone to violent behaviors and have trust issues with their parents. Ever watch Nanny 911?? You can get some really great parenting tips from that. Look in your community for support groups of even talk with your local school's special needs program teachers. They should be able to give great advice on how to handle a special needs child.
2006-11-01 04:30:32 · answer #5 · answered by GK2006 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
wow, well i suggest that u take him to a child neurologist for some evaluations and ask him for advice on how to deal with the behavioral issues. it will be a big help.
2006-11-01 04:23:41 · answer #6 · answered by POOCHY 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this can be controlled dont blame his behavior on his problems spank him and or put him in time out you still need to punish him/ or this will only get worse.. my brother is deaf in one ear and my mom never used it as an excuse plus he is laerning diabled because of dislexia
2006-11-01 04:22:24 · answer #7 · answered by kleighs mommy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is just curious. Keep your place safe and tell him no. If you refuses to obey you, give him something constructive to do. If that fails punish him (time-out, room, spanking, etc).
2006-11-01 04:24:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Please get counseling because your son is probably not understanding what is happening to him and he may be trying to get your attention
2006-11-01 04:44:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try useing 1.2.3. magic. i did it with my daughter.
2006-11-01 04:27:05 · answer #10 · answered by twisted 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋