(Just to get this out of the way, I'm 14)
I have only 3 sort of friends in school. Everyone hates me, and I don't know why, and I try and I try to get them to like me, and they just call me dork brain and everything. Out of the three friends, I really really like the two girls of the group. Everytime I see one of them, I melt into a puddle. But when I asked one of them if we could be more than friends she said it'd be weird. I asked the other one about why she'd say something like that, and she said that she had never had a boyfriend before and hated making decisions like that.
What should I do next? I'm 14, everyone hates me, I have no girlfriend, and I've never been to a party (Well, except for the one last night that the girl I thought liked me invited me to... ><) I'm really depressed, because I never get to hang out with anyone my age other than school. I hate school breaks because all I do is sit at home and sleep and watch tv. Never talk to anyone, never anything.
2006-11-01 04:16:01 · 16 answers · asked by Jay S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't get depressed, dear! And don't feel like you have to try sooo hard! IF you have to try that hard to get someone's attention, is thier attention really worth having?
You are still so young with so many opportunities ahead on the social scene! I remember feeling the same way when I was your age....it's a difficult age to be, especially in this world today. My daughter is 12 and just started at the Jr.Hgh this year, she too feels like nobody likes her or that she is a social misfit.
You will grow out of this feeling sooner than you think and life will take a different turn for you.
Please don't persist to view your world in the negative, if you do that WILL be all that you see.
Broaden your horizons a little...look for some diffrent groups to join, whether they be through school, a church, a youth group...you can check in with your school guidance counselor, let him/her know things you like to do and maybe they can direct you to some activities where you can meet people who share in your interests.
2006-11-01 04:25:36 · answer #1 · answered by secret_oktober_girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make some new friends by joining a club or maybe find someone online that you can talk to. this is an idea for you post a question on here asking if anyone in your area__________about your age would like to be online chat buddies . and then if you hit if off online and the kid is your age and lives near you then maybe you could meet up and hang out. but before you could meet up and hang out better let your parents in on it first to make sure they would be okay with it. and as always never give out really personal info on the net. just post the city you live in. and don't give out phone #'s or your whole name or address online. just to safe. and don't worry about partys they are not as fun as they are made out to be i been to a few that were so boring. anyway just try to be more outgoing and as to the girl stuff if she don't want you after you have tired everything you can to be her b/f then you will just have to be friends with her or forget about her. you are young and you will find the right girl when your older so don't worry so much about it right now. and don't slip into a depression when you feel that way find something to do to keep you busy and take your mind off of it all. keep your chin up!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-11-02 18:10:55 · answer #2 · answered by ♥musiclover♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me too. I only have one friend though and she does not even want to spend time with me any more because she has a boyfriend. My boyfriend recently broke up with me and that is something that hurts. I take Internet schooling and never get to go to school. Listen your friend was right she considers you like a friend and not more. I would tell her that it is best to start out as friends and then get into a relationship, rather than just jumping into it. You guys are still young and there will be hope. Depression and being different is apart of growing up. Remember, different is cool. I am.
2006-11-01 12:22:04 · answer #3 · answered by unknown 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok umm wow im sorry to hear that but ummm first thing you need to stop feeling sorry for yourself not everyone in the world is going t o li ke you thats just life you have 3 friends that good at least your not alone talk to them open up b/c if your not true to yourself then no will never know who you are stopping trying to get everyone to like you your trying to hard and maybe people feel your being fake and you don't want that. You need a new attuide don't go to people but bring people to you laugh more smile more make jokes Girls LOVE boys who can make them laugh thats our number one rule... look in the mirror and say this is a new year and a new me do let no broken heart get you don't b/c you will become stronger trust me... GOOD LUCK!!!!!
2006-11-01 12:28:09 · answer #4 · answered by Erica 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Kid relax!!! Your only 14 and have your WHOLE life ahead of you.. Stop trying to rush the future and expierence everything NOW.. Slow down take your time and enjoy the present.. Dont worry about what people think about you either.. Usually its those people who are so cool now who gain 50 pounds after school is over and gets all fat and ugly, while guys like you and I learn to be sexy and funny and have great lifes latter in life, when it actually means something.. So relax.. And if you REALLY want that girl, I will give you the secret to making her yours...
Stop talking about "oooh what if this and that", walk up to her, dont say anything and just kiss her.. Make sure it means something... Stop saying and start doing... Actions speak louder then words bro..
2006-11-01 12:23:59 · answer #5 · answered by hockeytwn09 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hey I was kind of like you my freshman year...I just came out and everything I was with someone and then that person broke up with me. ...
1st off do not try so hard dude serisouly...you are young and I am assuming you are not in highschool yet, but if you are then just be yourself and if your not in highschool then just wait and see how many people you are going to meet.
2nd off more then likely the girl you like prob thinks of you as a brother and that is more then likely why it would be so wierd for her to see you two as a couple..for granted there is no telling what could happen down the road in the fun game of life.
3rd you are young dude...dont worry about parties yet...you will get plenty of chances to go to parties when you are older...serisouly even I do get invited to parties and I actually even have had to turn some down just because I felt like I was partying way to much.
Just give it some time.
2006-11-01 12:23:44 · answer #6 · answered by Jay D 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Welcome to adolescences. It was like that for me too. You never really fix that. I think I had it worse than you did though. When I was your age, I was onto my fifth middle school. I didn't get my first boyfriend till I was 15. I also had zero friends. What I could suggest, is that you get a great hobby. Woodworking, or hiking in the woods, swimming, painting, sculpture, Skateboarding, roller blading, biking, Etc. If you like sword fighting or things of that sort, see if there is am Ampt guard chapter or a SCA chapter in your area. they are great people and will always make ou feel welcome. You also get to beat the crap out of people with padded weapons of all kinds. I did ALL of those things. Had to have something to pass the time. Good luck.
2006-11-01 12:23:09 · answer #7 · answered by gin 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're 14, so you're probably a freshman in high school, right? Believe me, life is pretty much designed to suck for you right now. The next few years will be a lot better. For now, just do your best to get through it and try to start making a place for yourself. Good luck, try not to let it all overwhelm you.
2006-11-01 12:20:33 · answer #8 · answered by francesfarmer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must have an interest in something such as music, skating, swimming, etc., right? Grab a hold of a hobby and indulge in it. Find things to do that will keep you busy, make you happy and just be yourself. When you're happy, people will want to be around you and before you know it you'll have lots of friends.
2006-11-01 12:22:28 · answer #9 · answered by texirocks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I mean this in the most sincerest way...
when you get older and look back at these problems you will laugh. Find comfort in the fact that real life after school is absolutely nothing like this.
Good Luck and hang in there.
2006-11-01 12:19:26 · answer #10 · answered by babyj248 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋