I know that it is not right, but I have tried to talk to him and just get cussed out. I realize revenge is not the way to go, but I can't help it. He also left oweing me about $5000. I want him to hurt like he has hurt me. Any ideas? I thought about trying to get him fired from his job, but don't know how. Also, I am not into anything that will damage him physically or damage anything he owns. I know that it is not right, and I have tried to forget, but I can't. Not saying that I will even do anything. Maybe if I go over more senerios in my head, I'll realize how stupid it is and it will help me forget.
2006-11-01 04:13:23 · 27 answers · asked by aafes12345 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
why? its over and he doesnt live near you anymore. take him to small claims court for the $5,000 and then use the judgement to make his employer take the money out of his check. tracking him down and getting him fired or other stuff is stalking and you will go to jail. is your revenge really worth it?
2006-11-01 04:21:39 · answer #1 · answered by fat_albert_999 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know what? Your gut is telling you what to do in your first sentence -- listen to it! "I know that it is not right" and you're right, because revenge never achieves what you want. It usually lands you in trouble and the other person involved just laughs at you again...not what you were looking for, eh?
I don't know where you live, so I don't know the laws, but what about taking this individual to small claims court for the money he owes you? If you really have an open and shut case, then you needn't be scared about doing this. If, though, you are doing this only for vengeance... forget it, as the judge will read you the riot act and send you packing!
Perhaps the best idea is to get a few sessions of counseling to get yourself back into tip-top shape. Get to where you are feeling really good about yourself and can see past the old boyfriend, and look at all of the possibilities in life instead. Believe me there are so very many things you could be doing besides wasting your energy on this guy ;o)
Cranny55
2006-11-01 04:29:50 · answer #2 · answered by Cranny55 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, for starters, if you succeed in g etting him fired (which you almost c ertainly wont) you can say bye bye to the five big ones you say he owes you. If you have absolutely clear, documented proof that he does owe you this money, you can take him to small claims court, prove your case, and they will garnish his wages for you to recover that money over time.
Second thing is... look, if he is the scumbag you make him sound to be, he is going to p ull this same kind of behaviour on somebody else sooner or later, and at one point he'll get his. You probably will not be around to see it or know about it. But it WILL happen, and he'll get the grief from it, be sure...
If you do NOT have the proper proof of the debt that you can take it to Small Claims Court, you'll just have to eat that $5,000, and write it off as the cost of a lesson well learned. One way or the other, move on, and do not sink to HIS level of behaviour by trying to "plot revenge". It rarely brings satisfaction, and could even backfire.
2006-11-01 04:26:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly....seek therapy if you are this upset. If he cheated on you, he should not be worth the time or effort to "plot revenge" on. As far as the money issue, again if you are that upset by it and can prove, via receipt or written and sign documents that he owes you that money...seek legal advice. Don't do anything that can later come back and be pinned on you. You never know what the future has in store for you.
2006-11-01 04:18:33 · answer #4 · answered by lethalseduction85 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, if he cheated on you after you too were together for over 7 years..somethings wrong..so just leave him alone, don't have him involved with your life ANYMORE!! I know it hurts, but you will be much better off in the long run, so don't worry about it..Surround yourself with people who really care about you and eventually you will get much better!! the same thing happened to me...email me if you need to talk!! I hope it all works out for you!!
2006-11-01 04:17:22 · answer #5 · answered by DefLeppardxXx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best revenge for him would be for you to meet someone, fall in love and live happily ever after.
In the processes of attempting to get him fired, you could very well get yourself into trouble.
Let it go honey.
2006-11-01 04:17:53 · answer #6 · answered by Simply Lovely 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
particular, it incredibly is quite a lot dishonest, in spite of the indisputable fact that, and permit me factor out i'm no longer on "his side" using fact what he did replaced into nevertheless incorrect, yet i'm able to think of the region wherein he did it. If he replaced into looking forward to you shifting obtainable to be with him, then you definitely by surprise pull out, he's definite to experience disillusioned, at a loss for words and lonely. those thoughts can extremely actual effect in dishonest, extraordinarily in the event that they have been ingesting (it incredibly is probable at a marriage). this would not propose what he did replaced into genuine. He nevertheless cheated on you, you nevertheless have a real to be offended and disillusioned, in spite of the indisputable fact that, to me i think of this implies if he says he's sorry, he in all probability is. it incredibly is not any longer like it incredibly is been an ongoing element, it incredibly is in basic terms a one off. on the different hand, while you're no longer around him all that a lot, i think you haven't any longer have been given any way of choosing up on the reality that it would possibly no longer in basic terms be a one off? i'm unsure approximately what i might do on your problem, yet in answer on your question, particular, it incredibly is dishonest. xx
2016-10-21 02:23:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best revenge it is let him go, if you still pay attention to him, he wins. That is probably what he is after, your attention. So get over it and never contact him again. If you really want to get him, get a collection agency to get your money back. Give them his home and work phone number.
2006-11-01 04:17:10 · answer #8 · answered by xorosho 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mind is screaming stalker alert but I will give you an answer anyway take him to small claims court Judge Judy or something like that but I don't recommend Judge Judy she seems nasty and bitter and would probably yell at ya
2006-11-01 04:17:23 · answer #9 · answered by jo_jo_baby2004 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe if you grow up, you'll realize that people hurt people sometimes, and that you're acting like a spoiled child and potentially opening yourself up to quite a few negative consequences.
2006-11-01 04:16:38 · answer #10 · answered by francesfarmer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋