Can you say "I love you" too much"?

Question

My boyfriend and I have been together nearly six months and he says "I love you" about every five to ten minutes or so... Every time we exchange words, make eye contact, pass each other in the hall... whatever. He calls me from work every day... sometimes three times a day... is pretty needy as far as attention goes, and explains to me in detail every thing he does during the day.

I know he loves me... he is always thinking about me, asking me if I need anything... but I feel like he's too attentive. I feel like he's chasing away every silent moment we could enjoy together, and the words "I love you" are becoming just noise. I don't even say it back half of the time because It's just wierd to say it over and over and over again in a matter of minutes.

I don't mean to be ungrateful because he is a good guy and I do love him... I just want more out of or communication than saying I love you back and forth.

Am I being too critical? I don't even know what to say to him about it.

Answer 1

"I feel like he's chasing away every silent moment we could enjoy together, and the words "I love you" are becoming just noise."

Well said. He obviously says it too much for you. So, your question is really what to do about it. Find a gentle way to say what I quoted above as that comes to the heart of it. When you consider what exactly to say, imagine if you were him. How do you feel he would react? Tailor your approach based on that. Start with writing it out, see how it looks on paper and repeat it verbally. What you wrote above demonstrates you are capable of articulating your message appropriately.

"I love you" is one of the most powerful things anyone can say to another. The power of that phrase should be respected and not diluted with a too frequent use.

Whatever you decide, I hope it goes well for you both. Cheers!

Answer 2

It seems like he's saying it a million times and trying to show you affection because he is lacking affection back and thinks that he might get you to say it more often. He's insecure about the relationship and he wants to know that you think of him as everythhiiinggg. He wants to feel loved just as much as any girl would want to feel loved and maybe he doesn't get any from his family or any care from his friends so you may be all he has. Give him more attention and watch. He'll probably slow down after about a week and if he doesn't then talk to him about it and tell him jokingly "why do you always wanna say it every few seconds?" But yet make it sound like it's a real question. Best of luck!

Answer 3

This is a good sign that “he explains to me in detail every thing he does during the day”, but it can be too much too. I think you should take interest in it and ask questions back, if you are interested in him. It could be a little bit frustrating, I know but it is a way of communicating with you because you are too silent.
I love you – well what language do you use. In some languages one can love the car or the dog some other you can’t do the same. Te me gusta mas in Castllion has a greater value. Ich libe dich in German might not be strong too. The Scandinavian languages Jej älsker dig is very strong word, yes indeed they are.
In a love situation, you can’t have it all; it is a question of giving and taking.

Answer 4

I think it important that I guy lets his woman know how much he cares about her multiple times in a day but every 5-10 min is a little extreme. Especailly if he's saying the same thing. At least he should get creative with it and as the saying goes actions speak louder than words. Women need to feel that they are loved ans sometimes words can become vain.

Answer 5

Some years back I kept a Praying Mantis as a pet, and they only eat live food! Consequently, I acquired the skill of GENTLY capturing live flies in flight, or off any surface, so that I could feed my Mantis uninjured and active prey. Most moving incident was late one night when on arrival home I found my Mantis shedding its skin. I watched, enthralled, for over an hour and I shall never forget seeing my Mantis gradually extend and spread its brand new rainbow-shimmering wings. Next day I released it onto a grapevine in my garden, the same garden in which I subsequently found a swarm of very tiny, recently hatched mantids! They are the cutest little creatures you could ever imagine.

Answer 6

Sing the song, "more than words by extreme". Then have both of you sing it together. And tell him that there are better and deeper ways for him to show his fiath in love for you. Tell him, his creativity is very appealing, if you can in this case.

Answer 7

I can not get enough of my bf saying he loves me, sometimes I call him to tell him I miss him and love him and sometimes he does it back to me, but I would probably get sick of it every single minute of the day, talk to him tell him how you feel, and at least you will get it off your chest and he will know how you feel, if you want communication in your life and more then saying I LOVE YOU tell him next time he says it to you tell him how it is making you feel, but remember to tell him that you feegl the same way he does but that if he can not say it as much he can show you instead of saying it. Good Luck!

Answer 8

Yes and no.To much starts to sound as if you're hidding something.Not enough also sounds the same.During intimacy yes or of the end of a phone call,but not every couple of minutes,then it's plain insecurity or a lie.

Answer 9

Yes you can say it to much! Talk to him and tell him that you love him too, but that ya'll dont have to say it every 15 sec. If he has a problem with that I don't know.

Answer 10

It is so nice to know that somebody is that in loved with you... Be happy, but if this is really enjoying try to discus with him and tell him that your conversation must include some other things. And if this words are said too often they become used in time and they will lose their meaning. :(