he left a 4 yr. relationship,went to another woman.he is 52 yrs. old and he says he dont know whats wrong with him.i gave him my whole heart. he stays with her every night and i cry everyday.im going thru a hard time right now and hes not thier i call him everyday but he is so cold i ride by his house and when hes not thier i cry more.please help me im hurting so much,
2006-11-01 04:00:50 · 4 answers · asked by candissamber 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you need to take some time away from him and NOT take any of his phone calls. Change your email.
Believe it or not, there are other guys out there and you will only heal once you have given yourself distance from him for about six months.
I know because I was you six months ago.
2006-11-01 04:06:29 · answer #1 · answered by LordzAbove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree focus on yourself. Stop driving by his house and calling, thats on;y making it harder on you. Keep a friend around who is funnyand entertaining, stay busy, exersice and don't answer when he calls. I know it's hard i've been down this road but you need some time to grow a resistance towards him, those 4 years have brainwashed you. Trust me eveything will be fine. U can also find something about him u don't like and vow to never date someone like that again, something solid, like my ex smoked and I did too but he did it really early in the morning before he got out of bed, he'd have to hae at least three! When he left the idea of it made me sick so I quit cold turkey that was enough to completely turn me off from him.
2006-11-01 12:12:48 · answer #2 · answered by do you know me? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should just stop calling him and stop coming by his house. Suck it up for a week. If you want to see if he will go crazy maybe try to go on a date wearing something you know he loved to a place you know people will be able to tell him they saw you with someone (like a bar, restaurant he goes to a lot.)
By leaving him alone for a week or two you let him wonder what's going on in your life. He will think have you met someone, got over him, killed yourself... He will need to call or come by. Just act as if it's been a year and you are a new women.
Good Luck!!
2006-11-01 12:08:36 · answer #3 · answered by kat_burk76 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to move on...........or stay miserable. Your choice!!
You and about a zillion other people have gone thru this............
Mr Happy
:o)
2006-11-01 12:07:14 · answer #4 · answered by hagtagg 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋