My sister in law comapres my children with her friends children and considers herself as an aunt to other children, but has not been a realy aunt to my children. My children are a gift and everyone I go everyone loves to see a beautiful baby and they love my son, you can look at my pictures on my 360 page. She compares a two year old to a 3 year old saying that they 3 yr old is taller than my son..well, I hope he would be I said. She compares a four, and five year old to my son. Why does she do this, My son hits his milestones two months ahead of what he is supposed to be at. Why would she belittle my children? Her husband said that my son is such a baby. Why wouldn't someone say that?
2006-11-01 03:54:37 · 12 answers · asked by fourcheeks4 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
sounds like she is jelouse. Why doesen't she have kids of her own? Tell her to stop compairing your kids to others. Tell her that you don't apreciate the comments that may be said around the kids as well. I would suggest limiting their time togeather. This can cause the kids to loose self esteem. Be careful.
2006-11-01 04:01:26 · answer #1 · answered by sr22racing 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she might be jealous of you and your children. I don't know how old she is or if she has children herself. I will assume she doesn't otherwise you can bet she would be comparing yours with hers not her friends. You are best to ignore her hurtful comments she probably doesn't even know she is doing this. I myself would more than likely let her know that she is being rude addressing issues of your children and comparing them to other children. All children reach milestones at different times. If she was to tell me that someone elses child is --- so tall, I would probably tell her "That's great, I hope they don't go too much more or they will always be in the back row on photo day at school!" If you take the high road which I woudn't but advise you to do, Just ignore her and tell her how rude she is.
2006-11-01 04:07:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people are jealous and the only way they can feel better is to make someone else feel bad. My oldest daughter always did the same thing to my middle daughter about her son. Well now my middle daughters son is a joy to be around and the oldest daughters son is a terror. He pitches fits if he doesn't get his way, he gets to decide where everyone sits in the car when they are going anywhere. I can not take my oldest daughters children anywhere. But I can take the middle daughters children anywhere I want and know that they will behave.
2006-11-01 04:09:45 · answer #3 · answered by nana4dakids 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say to her, "Last time I checked, I'm the only one of the two of us that pushed a child out of their body, so until you have more 24/7 parenting experience or anything remotely positive to say about my child and how I am raising him, get over yourself and consider yourself lucky that I even allow you to bask in my child's radiance." That would get her to shut it! LOL Seriously, some people are ridiculous about comparing children's abilities and don't even realize how it makes other people feel. If she didn't stop doing it, I would change the subject when ever she starts in about it and tell her you are just not going to have another one of those conversations with her, period. Good luck, it stinks, I know.
2006-11-01 06:07:12 · answer #4 · answered by disneychick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She might just be jealous of you and the kids...just ignore her and if she says anything to you just let her know that you dont like how she tries to belittle your family and that its your choice not to put up with her
2006-11-01 04:22:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anita 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next time she starts in on you just tell her you don't want to hear it. Let her know how you feel. She could be doing this because she is jealous of your family. I take it she has no kids.
2006-11-01 03:58:46 · answer #6 · answered by faybe 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh hon lots people say things just ignor her. She probably does it because she is unsure of herself underneath. By comparing she can see if her kids are on track. Dont let her get to you.
2006-11-01 04:05:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
shes jealous maybe
sometimes other people say all this crap about other peoples kids because they think xyz is best...
but its in thier head
sometimes its best to ignore but she'll continue to do it and if u are really fed up..u need to do it back to her..
compare your kids to her friends kids and say how urs are better.
hopefully she will get the message and shut up
2006-11-01 04:12:51 · answer #8 · answered by Arsh S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it bothers you so much then stay away from them she may be your sister in law but you do not have to tolerate that. she has a problem with you for some reason so let it go and forget her.
2006-11-01 04:08:14 · answer #9 · answered by CHAEI 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she is extremely jealous because she doesn't have any children of her own.
2006-11-01 04:05:19 · answer #10 · answered by stocks4allseasons 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋