My boyfriend and I knew each other when we were younger and recently got together. Weve been together for 1 year but he's very controlling and I don't hang out with anyone but him. We have however been hanging out with our mutual friend, lets call him Mike. Me and Mike are good friends but he is better friends with my boyfriend. We flirt but it's nothing well at least I thought it was nothing. Ive been thinking about him alot even dreaming about him. I wrote him a harmless email but I think my boyfriend thinks we like each other. Should I pursue him or will it ruin all the relationships involved?
2006-11-01 03:32:29 · 17 answers · asked by Jaime P 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you are not happy with the bf then let him know and let him be, but do not, I repeat do not go for the best friend you will be the one at the end who will be hurting. And then they will be laughing at you so save yourself from the humility honey!
2006-11-01 03:42:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO NO NO!! Friend is OFF limits.. if he is that controlling now, just wait a few more years when he is worse.. If I could turn back time and break it off with my ex husband when the controlling started, I would have been so much better off... You need someone that loves you for who you are and try not to own you. You should be able to have your own friends you hang out with without your boyfriend. It is only natural to be turned on by his friend. Especially if he treats you better than your boyfriend. You deserve to be treat like a princess. I am on my 2nd marriage and my new husband treats me like a princess most of the time.... I can go out to the bar with my friends if I wanted to. It is because he has good self esteem about himself and he knows he doesnt have to keep me on a leash. You are not his dog. You are a princess!!!
2006-11-01 11:46:57 · answer #2 · answered by Rochelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you need to get out of the relationship with your boyfriend! I don' t think that he is going to deal with it to well! And then what kind of friend is your boyfriends, friend if you and he are tipping a little behind your boyfriends back? I think you are about to bring a whole lot of heartache to these friends.
So stop your flirting and move on. At lease get out of the relationship with the man's friend.
2006-11-01 11:39:56 · answer #3 · answered by Child of God 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You definitely should break up with your boyfriend if he is controlling you. That is a bad scenerio. It usually moves from controlling to abusing after marriage. So, leave him. As to the other guy. He probably just looks good because your guy is so controlling. Don't go for his friend, either. Because you'll still be around your control freak if you date his friend. Just go find someone better who loves you and doesn't try to control you.
2006-11-01 11:38:04 · answer #4 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should get out of the relationship you are in if you aren't happy. There are to many guys out there for you to be unhappy with the one you are with. I also think you should leave the friend alone. Are you sure the only reason why you are falling for the friend isn't because you don't have contact with anyone else?
2006-11-01 11:40:37 · answer #5 · answered by Sweet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break up with your boyfriend.
it doesnt matter if you fall in love with mike, james or bryan. fact is, you dream about another man than your boyfriend. This is a clear sign, that something is not right in your relationship.
Sometimes you have to cloese a door in life - and a window will go open..
2006-11-01 11:37:11 · answer #6 · answered by langstrumpf 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats how it happened to me
My friends GF thought we'd be better together so she went ahead tempted me came to my house in see thro's lay on my bed and all that stuff. Then one day sha came in as I was showering.
She came to the shower place tiptoing and waited as I came out. In my house I dont dress from the bathroom, I just move on in a boxer.
She went crazy when she looked at my feet and chest.
She showed me her boobs I mean she threw off her bra and I love boobs to confess so we ended up in bed.
The relationship however never lasted for long as we began feeling too sorry for my friend I walked away from her.
Dont try that. CAUTION.
2006-11-01 11:41:29 · answer #7 · answered by Storm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because your BF is controlling, you should dump him. As for the friend, don't go there. Plenty of men in the sea, my dear. Don't mess with a guy and his friendship and just dump the BF to the curb. That's not healthy. Move on!
2006-11-01 11:37:00 · answer #8 · answered by Dr. Kat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You won't do anything but make them both angry if you put the moves on the friend. If you won't want to be with the bf, do you and him a favor and bail out now. Why waste time? If he's friends with this guy, they might be more alike than you think. Move on alone.
2006-11-01 11:35:41 · answer #9 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should tell your current boyfriend what is going on... maybe tell him you need some time to yourself and during that hang out with the other guy. Just be honest, honesty has never hurt anyone... it will work out best for all parties
same with just following your heart
2006-11-01 11:36:08 · answer #10 · answered by swingorstrikeout 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋