My mom has been with my step-dad for about 9 years now and i feel as if she is choosing him over me. and i dont like it. I am 12 now and she acts as if i am still 3 . She has changed since she met him. He made her into a monster. She doesnt do anything with me anymore. And soon enough i am gonna make her choose. Me or him. What should i do"?
2006-11-01 03:19:49 · 14 answers · asked by Breeeee<3 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
don't make her choose baby gurl, cause youre gonna loose! Just about every 12 year old girl thinks her mother is a monster.
2006-11-01 03:23:15 · answer #1 · answered by Sunspot Baby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never put anyone to choose between two people they love. The best thing you can do is to communicate with your mother and step father and let them know how you feel. Tell them that there should be time where their is family time with all 3 of you, mommy and daughter time and maybe there's something you would like for you and your step dad to do with out your mom being around this way you can know him alittle better than what you know him now! Give it a try and see what will happen. Family counseling always help especially if it's from a pastor.
2006-11-01 11:27:15 · answer #2 · answered by brown sugar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't want to do that..I am a mother of a 17 year old girl that used to feel the same way..I still have my husband, and my daughter.... Why don't you try to sit down with your mom (no step dad around)....and talk with her...try to explain to her how you feel......if you attend a Church....you could get some counseling from a pastor (even if you don't attend Church...they will help you)... maybe if your mom sees you reaching out for help...she will be willing to go with you...in any event...you have to consider your mother too....You will be 18 before you know it...grow up and leave home..if you make her choose between the two of you...then when you leave..she'll be all alone...you don't want that for her do you?? you can also confide in your school counselor.....anyone that has professional training can help you get through this...Your at a tough age...hang in there....you'll get through it....why don't you try asking mom "can you and I go shopping or to see a movie, just hang out and spend some time together...just you and me?" (or whatever it is that you are missing doing with your mom).......I bet she would LOVE the idea!
2006-11-01 11:39:56 · answer #3 · answered by Shelly B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your mom was with ur step dad for 9 years that means u were 3 years old when they got together so how can u know ur mom suddenly has changed because of him? There must be something else thats going on. I can understand being angry with ur mom for other reasons and if u feel like she is neglecting you and not spending enough time with u then you should write her a letter it always works for me!!! Me and my mom did not get along when i was young and learned that we could communicate best by writing to each other how we feel. Im now an adult and me andmy mom get along like best friends. Life is always tough being 12. Best Wishes babygurl, Melissa.
2006-11-03 13:53:07 · answer #4 · answered by melissa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I been through the same thing but my mom has only been with my step dad for 3 years and she chose him over me. I would say don't make her choose because it's just gonna make things worse, ya'lls relationship will probably detiorate(sp?). If you have any older brother or sisters or maybe like a close aunt or uncle maybe you should ask if you could stay with them for a while, maybe then your mom will realize how much she misses you. Hope things get better for you. =]
2006-11-01 12:00:55 · answer #5 · answered by -мari♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can not give your mom an ultimatum. You are a mere 12 years YOUNG. You can talk to her, and say you wish she would spend more time with you. You can't make her do anything. And the sooner you learn to stay in a child's place, the better for you.
2006-11-01 12:50:17 · answer #6 · answered by shondak 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a family member that is in your same shoes. U should pull your mom to the side & discuss how u feel. But, one on one. if she does not listen then express ur feelings on paper. She needs u to get the point across without attidude. Or it will get u nowhere. Ur mom is not trying to keep u out of her pic, but she might not be aware tht ur feelin tht way. give her a chance. good luck!!
2006-11-01 11:33:17 · answer #7 · answered by sheriff groupie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are trying to run something.Did you talk to your mother and tell her what you feel?They have been together for nine years and now you are having problems with this? Come on ,you`re not getting your way about something and now you what some pay back.You better watch out you may get your feels hurt again.
2006-11-01 11:27:43 · answer #8 · answered by Step 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Baby i don't think is a good idea to put your mom in this situation.....is better if you talk with her and let her know how are you feeling and what do you want,,,,,,,,she loves you .....just try to be more close from her.
2006-11-01 11:26:56 · answer #9 · answered by haki 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u r still young
before it time to choose
settle urself
be on ur foots
then decide
2006-11-01 11:24:47 · answer #10 · answered by trinka905 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋