What can we do to allow her father to let her live with me? She lives in the state of Florida and I have been here with her for the past three months but I am getting ready to go back to Missouri and she wants to live with me now and not her father.
2006-11-01 03:13:00 · 11 answers · asked by leatherandlace34492 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
She is almost 16 its her choice where she wants to live leave it up to her no one can make the decision for her and the decision of where she lives is supposed to be with the best interest of the child in mind so leave it up to her to decide! If not you will hate your self for it in the future and explain this to her dad that she will hate him if he doesn't let her go.
2006-11-01 03:19:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just yesterday, my 16 year old daughter left my home to move to her father's home 5 hours away. She and I are very close, but because she is a strong willed and sassy teenager, we argued often. She wanted to do things her way. This included not studying or turning in homework. She is a bright kid, in advanced classes, but she wanted to be in control. Part of this control meant that she wanted to live with her father and his wicked wife who have done nothing but harass me since we got divorced 13 years ago (he had an affair with her and marry her). The rich doctor and his wife have a problem with paying child support. It is very sad. My daughter idolizes her father and I know she thinks the grass is greener. He barely called her once a month, and now he's telling her he's rescuing her from our stressful home. Little does he know that my daughter will carry her sassy behavior over to his house. The kids don't realize that fun weekend visits are very different from time spent during the school year. A therapist and attorneys have told me that my daughter wants to live with her dad because since her dad and I got divorced when she was 2 years old, she doesn't have any memories of living with him. I was encouraged to let her go, so I did. I know it was the right thing. Otherwise, she would just be resentful and would be even harder to live with. Everyone says my ex wants her so that he can get out of paying child support. In fact, I'll have to pay child support to him. For some reason, his goal is to make me suffer. My daughter thinks he just wants her to live with him, but it's more than that. He told her he would buy her a car, but only if she lives with him. Talk about manipulation. I would say to let your daughter go if she wasn't so young. My only concern is her young age, and her inability to make such a big decision when she can't really understand what the consequences would be. I would wait until she is older and is of the age that the courts would acknowledge her voice in the decision making process (where I live, the age is 12). Good luck. I'm a wreck right now because I miss my daughter, but I know I did the right thing. I'm hoping she'll miss me, her friends, and her life here so much she'll come back. Daddy buying her a car may not equal happiness. It shouldn't.
2016-05-23 02:40:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a common myth that the child can decide for his/herself when at the age of 16. This is not true. Any prior court decisions on custory will stall stand and can be enforced. The court can be asked to re-examine the decision and take the childs preferences into consideration, but that is not a guarantee of changing the custody decision.
If there was no prior decision, then it wall come down to what the custodial parent wants to do. He can consent to your daughter leaving or he can contest it and take it to court.
2006-11-01 03:21:07 · answer #3 · answered by A.Mercer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have her talk to the father and tell him that now that she's going through all this girl stuff, she needs her mom. Tell him that she will visit on holidays and stuff like that. If eh really loves her, he will let her go. Otherwise, get the courts involved, if she says she wants to be with you, and you are fit to parent her at this point, there shouldn't be a problem. A girl needs her mother at that age.
2006-11-01 03:15:32 · answer #4 · answered by Fran Y 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Courts will always go with a young womans decision at this age. Your daughter will make her own choice, just have the court decree updated.
2006-11-01 04:25:14 · answer #5 · answered by badmikey4 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The three of you need to sit down and talk about it. If he has custody, you will probably have to have legal documents drawn up. At 16 she is old enough to decide what she wants.
2006-11-01 04:20:21 · answer #6 · answered by MotherB 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would sit down with your daughter & her dad & discuss the situation. As she is 16, I would think her dad would let her choose where she wants to live.
2006-11-01 03:16:11 · answer #7 · answered by dani77356 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don`t know about Florida but in Ohio where I`m from she could make a choice and that would be it.
2006-11-01 03:19:56 · answer #8 · answered by Step 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
convince him that your daughter can make her own desicions, make a deal w/ him. like, try it for a month and if she wants to go back to him she can.
2006-11-01 03:15:28 · answer #9 · answered by Maria 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might just have to take it to the courts.
2006-11-01 03:15:04 · answer #10 · answered by SweetBuffy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋