MY BOYFRIEND WANTS TO KNOW IF I WILL "STAY" IN LOVE WITH HIM. WE HAVE BEEN DATING ONE MONTH NOW. I AM A SINGLE MOM, WITH 2 TEENAGERS AT HOME. MY CHILDREN DO NOT CARE FOR HIM THAT MUCH BECAUSE HE TENDS TO BE VERY DIRECT ABOUT WHAT HE THINKS AND HAS NO PROBLEM SPEAKING HIS MIND. NORMALLY THAT IS A GOOD THING, BUT MY CHILDREN FIND IT OFFENSIVE. THEY THINK HE IS RUDE. I KNOW HE CAN BE "GRUFF" AT TIMES. SHOULD I DROP HIM IF MY FAMILY DOSEN'T LIKE HIM AND THINK HE IS WRONG FOR ME? DO THEY SEE THINGS I DON'T?
2006-11-01 03:11:47 · 14 answers · asked by wwjd 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't even know him and I can already see things from your question! You have 2 teenagers who don't like this guy, so most likely you will have problems with THEM, this man-child wants to know if you are going to "stay" in love with him after only 1 month of dating? How are you supposed to know that?He doesn't care how he talks and is offending your kids, and I know you probably don't want to hear it, but your kids have to come first...you are all they have. He can replace you, your kids can't.
2006-11-01 03:20:31 · answer #1 · answered by angeleyes 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well teenagers sometimes put blocks to their parent having any relationships because they want their parents back together. They may also dislike that they are finding out that there are people who very direct and gruff. Especially when they are attempting to get in between you and him in a way that is constructed to cause increase tension BTW the 2 of you without looking like the bad guys.
2006-11-01 03:43:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's going to be/stay involved with you, a parent, then he needs to learn to act like a team player. Would you put up with your kids being rude to you, or to each other? There are more appropriate ways of speaking your mind than getting gruff.
It has only been a month, so the 4 of you ought to wait and see where things go. NO relationship ever is "grand" the first couple months.
Also, if he's already asking you, after only one month, if you will stay in love with him, this sets off alarms in my head. Sounds obsessive. Give it a trial run if you like, but do watch for the signs.
2006-11-01 03:19:20 · answer #3 · answered by moonshadow 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately our family and outsiders do seem to pick up on things that we don't that is purely because we do not want to see these things!
I would personally get out now as your children do not like him this early on it is unlikely to change!
I am not saying you should allow your children to control your life but you can hardly blame them for disliking someone who is rude which is something every mother tells there child is wrong! He should really be trying to get on with your children if he cares for you so much not being rude to them!
I hope this helps!
2006-11-01 03:17:34 · answer #4 · answered by Updowndizzy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course they see things differently but as long as you like him, he's not totally rude with you and things are not getting abusive why not continue this realtionship. Remember your children are already teenagers and therefore they will be heading off to college soon, getting out of the house, working and so you'll be left alone...better have someone you truly like/love to spend time with when they are all gone and grown!!!!!
2006-11-01 03:15:39 · answer #5 · answered by lasugarfree 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You made a mistake and you fixed it. It was something he used to complain bout right but you fixed it. Now after you fixing it, him doihe same thing isn't cool. Get ready for nothing good cause the way he's going =/ god knows what he has in mind. You should give him space and do whatever you said your going to do because if he doesn't want to work it out with you somethings going on.
2016-05-23 02:40:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My opinion, you can never let a guy you are just dating get between you and your children, Them not liking him will cause friction between you and the kids, and maybe they can notice things about him you can't because they are out side of the circle so they see him more clearly then you would. You like him for him and you don't want to see any flaws in him. good luck=}
2006-11-01 03:15:52 · answer #7 · answered by babygirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In love after a month?????????? PLLLEEAASSSE!
ok so really... if your kids so not like him maybe you should look into why. its hard enough to bring anyone home to teens but if they dont like him for a reason and not just because hes with you. Your kids should be the first thing you think of
2006-11-01 03:16:32 · answer #8 · answered by ice_princess 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it is all about what you want. How do you feel? How does he makes you feel? You are the one who will be with the guy, not your teenage kids. Maybe you should talk to him about this and see if he could change his behavior a little bit!
2006-11-01 03:16:57 · answer #9 · answered by Child of God 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ONe sign of a bad boyfriend is when they are rude and offensive to your kids.
2006-11-01 03:16:10 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋