Where am I going with my life???

Question

Lately I have been someone who I dont want to be. I started my second semester of college in August, and at first I was doing alright, then I started skipping class. Now I skip almost every day, don't try, its like i have no need to want to go. I feel like I'm failing at life, I keep asking myself "what are you doing with your life?". Ive also picked up smoking and I stay up way to late when I have class in the mornings, which is why I skip alot. But all of the sudden I have this 'i dont care' attitude and I dont like it. Its causing me to get stressed out and be angry alot more than I used to be. A large part of me wants to be in college and do well, study when I need to, go out when I have free time. But the small part of me that doesnt give a ****.. seems to override the better. Has anyone else gone through with this sort of thing? I just need some words of wisdom here to help me out...

Answer 1

A few words of advice for you, you don't know what you want to do with a career choice, but...you are not going to want to go out and earn a paycheck either, I have often thought that it should be mandatory to work at a lower paying job such as fast food restaurants, Hotel maids, door people, garbage men, and all the other necessary jobs people need to do. It makes absolutely no sense that Movie stars can command twenty million per movie so that we can pay THEM to pretend to be somebody else....to entertain us, find something you may think you want to try, do you have a passion for anything? Only you can decide this for
yourself, and people like me can only give you advice, the rest is up to you, and you are not alone in your feelings. It is easier to cop out and so much harder to work or do the things you want.
I have slept in my car and been homeless for lack of funds that I
wasn't able to provide for myself. It is important for you to be able to provide for yourself.

Answer 2

Well young man I have a question for you. Who is paying for your education? That said if your answer is your parents you should be talking to them. I don't know why young people think they can't talk to there parents. You should have a concealer there at collage and you can talk to that person too. You said that your in your second semester maybe you just have to many classes and since you can't keep up with all the work your just giving up. Try one or two less classes and take classes you need to take that you like. If you don't have good study habits you can join a study group my son did that and he was a strait A+ student. Also try studding early in the morning before classes. When I was in collage that was the only way I could get through. I had all the information still in my head for the day and I didn't have to fight sleep to study. You sound like you know what you need to do but just need to commit. It is your future and I see to many young people just through it all away. Then latter in life complain that they didn't have a chance to do something with it. You call the shots...You decide...Best wishes...

Answer 3

You need to find your purpose in LIFE. Once you do this you will get motivated to follow to it.
To find your purpose write it down. Think seriously and write down what you want out of like. Then write the things you can do to accomplish your goals. Start tackling them one at a time. Also are you depressed? Go to the health food store and get a natural cure for depression. Depression is the leading cause of the "I dont care syndrome?"

Here are some reasons to get motivated:

YOu are just allowing life to pass you by and that is a dead end street.
You cant get a great job and make great money with an education
You can meet the woman/man of your dreams at college, so start looking.
You need to be social to make friends and you really need some for your mental outlook.
Life is what YOU make it. It can be fun and exciting again but you have to get involved and make it so.

I suggest you get involved in a on campus club or sport or group. You need contact with people in a good clean way. The more contact you find the more you want to be there and the more you start looking at the girls or guys they more you get involved. If you become isolated it only make things worse. It is a downward
spiral.
I saw that happen to my mother and it ruined her life. I knew I could be better become more and so I worked at it. I got the education, met the man I love, and made a wonderful life.

Now it is your turn. Get up and get to work. I will bet all my money on you (if you put your mind to it). Please try.

Answer 4

You wrote: "causing me to get stressed out and be more angry a lot more than I used to be" Sounds like you already had issues and now have decided not to deal with them.

I did the same thing on my third semester in college. I didn't even take the time to "withdraw" from classes and got a big Zero for each class, which took my GPA down horribly.

Go see a college counsellor, then maybe a professional counsellor.

I did go back to college, but had to go armed with a Dr's note to the Dean and plead to him for a "withdraw" so my GPA would go back to where it was.

Take care..please consider the consequences and go seek some help quickly.

Answer 5

Hey, at one time or another pretty well everyone falls into a sort of malaise or depression which results in a feelign of uselessness. During that phase you could just crawl into bed, pull up the covers and wish the world to leave you alone.

Fortunately it is neither abnormal not bad for you. We all need a break once in a while from the pressures of life, the demands of society and all that. So, as long as you are aware it is happening and realize you need to deal with it in a positive way, you are fine.

That said, it is fixing your state of not giving a darn about anything that is a bit rough. From what I see, you need to do a few things.

First, since you are at colllege, you have access to a gym and or pool or other facilities to use to tone up your physique. And yes, I know you hate the sounds of having to go swim or play a sort or otherwise work out but this is essential to getting going again. So, set aside at least an hour every day to go to the gym or pool and do something physical. NJo, you don;lt need the whole hour for the exercise, but you do need to change beforehand and shower and change after so it gives you time for that.

Second, get your butt out of bed every morning at the same time and be sure it is early enough to shower, dress, eat and get to your class. And just because you dont have a class some days or it starts later than other days, isn't an excuse; you get up at the SAME time every day. Yes it is gonna be tough to start with but it will work. Oh, and don't force yourself to bed to begin with, your body will just get tired anyway from being up and moving every morning and it will tell you when bedtime is.

Third, join something. A club or other group that meets weekly. Whether they play chess, discuss various cultures, engage in meaningful conversation or play a sport go sign up and attend. I don't care if the only one you find is AA, just join and participate. and never miss a meeting even if you don't feel like going.

Fourth, set aside at least half an hour a day for your music. Whether you play through a song, work on technical skills or just goof around with your instrument, you have to maintain this minimum level if you are to feel good about your musical interests. (And I know you want to so do it!)

Fifth, find a good place to work on courses - an empty classroom, the library or any place other than your room. And bars or other noisy venues are NOT good places to study. Also, keep a list of all upcoming work to be done - assignments, reports, tests, etc for the courses you are in and th eorder in which they are due or occuring. Then each day go to your study place and complete the current assignment or report for one course. And one it's done, cross it off the list and head off to yoru club meeting or the gym or whatever is next.

Sixth, eat properly. Students living on their own need to find ways to get a balanced intake of all the different food groups and not eat TV dinners or Kraft dinnet all the time. Those in residences need to be picky about what they eat and make sure to hit on the vegetables and fruits more than all the grease or potato/rice stuff. And no matter how busy your schedule, takign time to eat, like taking time for exercise, is absolutely essential.

Seventh, find the college guidance or career planning office and set up time with a counsellor to discuss your current courses and degree program as well as your possible career options. You might be in a program that is takign you where you want to be or you might not. Talking with a counsellor will help you come to understand your goals and current status better.

I could probably keep going but I think I have pretty well covered the main tasks to get you started. So, feel free to print this out then set to work on putting each thing into action starting right now! No, not later today or tomorrow - NOW!!!

And, if you want to discuss any of this further, post a comment and I'll try to respond as soon as I see it.

Answer 6

it seem to me that you what answer about why thing are and why are we put on earth? this question that we ask yourself we may never know the answer to. has there beena change in your life sytle or some major drama happen in your life? from the information you gave me i really dont know what is wrong or why you feel this way.

if you like i could gave you my email address and we can talk

i have my assicaite digree in counseling