I met my bf by a Biz trip in China. I am living in Bkk. It started out great and unbelievable that I am still in the LDR that I didn't expect it to be. In the first few months. We met each other every 3 weeks. Then once every month.
Last week we had the argument about his plan to see me. He will be going to Malaysia for a biz trip and I thought that he will stop by at see me. The problem was, he told me that everytime when we are together , it started out great. Then for serveral days, he is ready to go home! and said May be i can't handle the serious relationships? What the heck should I think? then he said or maybe too much party or so that made him wants to come home. He also said. "I just concered , it seems like your happiness is dependent on me. I am not willing to accept it right now".
Should I push forward this relationship? I asked him do you want to make this relationship work? He said "I would like to make it work in a relaxed manner"What does that means??
2006-11-01 02:41:10 · 8 answers · asked by BB 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Instead of him coming to Bkk from KL, he told me that I should go to China with friends in the following week, so then he will spend time KL in the weekend!
2006-11-01 02:58:15 · update #1
11 Mths old of the relationship. We already agree to date exclusively! and we 'love' each other. Does he afraid ?or getting close to be the commitment Phobic?
2006-11-01 03:04:35 · update #2
That means stop pushing! He wants to take things slow and he believes you're rushing into things. Relax and don't force him to do anything. Let him make his decisions about you himself.
2006-11-01 02:47:20 · answer #1 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he is probably trying to tell you that he might be interested in seeing other people and here you are asking to see you more. You should back down a bit and get your life in order, make sure that you're happy with or without him, and whenever you speak to him always sound happy and excited and just make sure that he knows you love the way things are, that you are ok with seeing him when you both can that it doesn't change your life, that you have a life without him!
2006-11-01 03:00:27 · answer #2 · answered by wantstoknow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means you are being clingy. Please don't think I'm trying to hurt your feelings, I'm not. Back off just a bit, act like you could live with or without him and his interest will pick up. If you don't want to get into playing this game then move on and find someone else.
2006-11-01 02:45:19 · answer #3 · answered by momma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LDR's do not work well unless both are truly committed. Sounds to me like its either to early to tell, you are expecting and pushing to much, and he is not ready. Drop it now and save yourself the heartache
2006-11-01 02:43:41 · answer #4 · answered by JoeP 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Terminate the relationship Immediately and move on to better things.
2006-11-01 02:46:10 · answer #5 · answered by Dr. Rick 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he actually said what he wants. He wants to continue seeing you but doesn't want it to be serious.
2006-11-01 02:44:57 · answer #6 · answered by alltheanswers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LONG DISTANT RELATIONSHIPS RARELY WORK OUT TRY LOOKING A LITTLE CLOSER TO HOME (sorry if that upsets you)
2006-11-01 02:44:42 · answer #7 · answered by mustang_rws 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no youre too far apart...they dont work out
2006-11-01 02:43:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋