I've come to realize, thanks to YAHOO!, that everyone's financial and life experiences are completely different. I'm tired of hearing the negative comments being thrown back and forth between the two groups. I admit I have done it as well, but I finally recognized it's ridiculous. To each their own. Let's just all hope that everyone does the best they can with their own situations.
2006-11-01 02:38:53 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I have done it both ways, I worked full-time with my first 2 kids and the last one I stayed home with him because he has down syndrome and we have a lot of therapists coming to the house each week, and it was my choice to stay home. there are days that I wish to God that I could be back in a working environment that will PAY me for all the work I do throughout the day and to be able to have conversations with adults would be like cherry on top of life's cupcake! But then I look back and see myself working 40 hours a week and still trying to keep the house clean and the laundry done among everything else and at this point in time with my son I can't physically or emotionally handle it...so I stay home. I give credit to all mothers whether they are working moms or stay-at-home moms because it is hard work which ever path they choose.
2006-11-01 03:36:23 · answer #1 · answered by julie's_GSD_kirby 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I've been both a working mom, and a strictly stay at home mom. BOTH jobs are hard, and yes, being a mom IS a full time job. Women who are stay at home moms often say "Those working moms are lucky.They should be glad they don't have to spend all day changing diapers and washing sippy cups." Whereas teh working moms say "I'd give anything to be at home with my kids. Let so-and-so come do my job then go home and play mommy all evening." I've done both, and both are hard. Lets just give credit to WORKING MOMS everywhere, whether they get a paycheck or not!!
2006-11-01 10:45:21 · answer #2 · answered by tinkerbell24 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Probably not, as long as there are people who feel the need to influence others to their opinion, which all of us do in some aspect of another. Typically the things that go into the work outside/stay home debate are base morals, held very strongly by at least one side of the coin. Those are usually the things people will argue the most about, although i agree we should let others live their lives, unless they ask.
2006-11-01 10:42:14 · answer #3 · answered by lovesmikey 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I wish I could stay at home, but I "financially" can't. Plus I think I'd go insane being home 24/7. I never liked being home, even before kids. I'm the working type, even though I hate it, but i hate being home too.
I hate getting put down for being a working mom, along with other reasons to that nature. Everyone has to do what they have to do.
But at least when I go to bed at night, I can go to sleep with a smile on my face knowing that everything we have, I worked for, I helped contribute to. And that, that makes me feel good every day!
2006-11-01 10:53:00 · answer #4 · answered by jevic 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I know some women must work to provide for their families, and I think that those women are amazing.
However, I also know women who need to "fulfill" themselve by working outside the home (in other words, they admit they don't need to, but they want to). I think that's atrocious. Women who choose to have children and are able to stay at home with them, but choose to go out and "fulfill" themselves (meaning they're not getting fulfilled by raising the children they brought into this world) are incredibly selfish, IMO. That won't change.
My DH and I are not rich by any stretch of the imagination. But when my first was born, I stayed at home with her and took a night time waitress job to supplement our income (I have a college degree, so I chose to go outside my field so I could be home yet still make enough money to assist with the bills). I eventually quit that job because *gasp* it was bad for my daughter to have a mommy who worked late at night and was too tired to actually parent well the next day. So my DH and I made adjustments. We stopped going out to dinner. Date night was at home with a pizza and a movie after she had gone to bed. Our only "leisure" expenditures were on birthdays, and even then they were very frugal.
I believe that children who are brought into this world deserve to be raised by their *parents* if there's any way to accomplish this. Unfortunately, in this economy, it's difficult for many families to do - in that case, anything parents do to keep their children fed, clothed and housed is doing the very best for their children.
But these women who hire nannies (I'm a nanny now, btw) so they can go "fulfill" themselves and not "waste" their college educations are basically telling their children that their own career ambitions are more important. I really feel sorry for those children. They are put second by their parents, regardless of the excellence of care they can hire.
I will never agree that a woman who chooses to work over being with her children is doing the "best she can with her own situation." I have actually heard some of these women moan, during their 6 weeks off work after the delivery, that they're "bored" being at home with the child, or that their children just aren't mentally stimulating enough to make them happy. It makes me shudder.
Yeah, I've been a SAHM for over 4 years now (I am a p/t nanny and that job allows me to take my 19 month old with me). Yeah, there are days that I'm bored. Yeah, staying at home with a 19 month old has its moments where I feel like my brain is in a big block of ice.
But my children will always know that I didn't pawn them off on someone else 40-60 hours a week so they could get "fulfilled" by a job - what must that make a child feel like?
2006-11-01 10:49:59 · answer #5 · answered by tagi_65 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I used to say that when we had kids I was staying home. I didn't believe in daycare. But i'm not meant to stay at home. I'm meant for the workforce. My kid learns so many new things each day and is very socialized. So to me it was worth putting him in daycare. I don't have enough patience to stay home all day and teach him things he needs to know. I get too bored. So yes, to each his own. Those women who can afford to do it, more power to them.
2006-11-01 10:48:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Amen. Live and let live. The same goes for the breast/bottle issue. You can debate it from now until the end of time but everyone is stil going to do what's best for them and for their familiesand nobody should put someone else down for that.
2006-11-01 11:01:39 · answer #7 · answered by Miriam Z 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
That's whats up!!! yes we can all get along i had work full time for 8 years and my husband and i had our 4th baby and last one ...............so i have been home now for 2years and its not easy i tell you i give stay at home moms a lot of props......................its amazing how he can be a mother a maid a vixen a wife an accountant ext . and still have life left to get up in the morning wow its hard work i tell you .......you clock in and never clock out ....but that goes for any mommy ..............so all i got to say to this is god bless us women and give us strength to keep trooping and let us all get along ...................
2006-11-01 10:54:21 · answer #8 · answered by mari 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have three childen and work FT because of finacial reasons, my best girl friens stays at home with her two children and we don't ever find it a conflic, she is able to stay at home and I am not that is it.
2006-11-01 10:41:17 · answer #9 · answered by Jody 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Amen, however I must admit I am insanely jealous of those who can afford to stay home! I wouldn't criticize them - I think they are incredibly fortunate.
2006-11-01 10:40:56 · answer #10 · answered by In Luv w/ 2 B, 1 G + 1 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋