i want to breakup with my boyfriend, but i can't because he tells me that if i leave him, he'll may kill himself....can someone help me please...i don't want him to die....i love him, but i just can't be with him....
2006-11-01 02:38:20 · 14 answers · asked by mag b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well you can't stay with him through guilt you have to be fair to him and yourself!
Explain to him that you love and care for him and that you don't want to hurt him but quite obviously he is not in a great mental place right now!
If you truly believe that he will do something silly you need to let his family know so that you and him will get as much support as possible!
Good luck i hope things work out for the best!
2006-11-01 02:42:24 · answer #1 · answered by Updowndizzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to talk to his mom. Tell her that he's threatening to kill himself, so his family will be prepared for this (I mean his depression).
However, to be honest with you, most of the time, this is a bullsh*t line that guys use because they're controlling and know that a girl won't leave them because of the guilt she'll feel thinking he's going to kill himself. A guy used that same line on my older sis, she got pregnant, and now he's no where to be found (he's a loser anyways, so she doesn't care and is glad he's not in the child's life).
Anyhoot, you shouldn't have to stay with a guy you don't want to. Break up with him. It's as simple as that. He's just trying to control you. I bet he doesn't do sh*t.
2006-11-01 02:42:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since it seems u are one of youngsters some type of misundertandings or some hard decisions have to be taken. Hence try to understand him your genuine problem and if doe snot understand speak in some rude untolerating language so that he should loose trust in u and he should hate u and one more thing he definitely will not kill himself these are all only gimmicks to get a girl friend believe me nobody kills himself for a girl now a days. Better put some hate feelings in him and also see his minus points and forget if u dont want to continue.
2006-11-01 02:43:12 · answer #3 · answered by KISHOR K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, you cannot stay with anyone who threatens you to keep you. That is not love; that is ownership.
Second, anyone who tell you you can't leave or he will kill himself, is using emotional blackmail to keep you where he wants you.
He needs counselling, not a girlfriend.
If you really love him, encourage him to seek counselling and RUN! Do not teach him it is ok to blackmail you.
Tell a counseller at school that he is trying to blackmail you, and has threatened suicide. They MUST know, so THEY can help him. They are trained to know what to do. You could actually SAVE his life.
If he really does manage to kill himself, he did not die FOR YOU-no matter what he says or how ROMANTIC that might sound.
He is threatening suicide because he is ill.
Think twice before becoming involved in a relationship again. Teenagers are often unstable.
2006-11-01 03:01:52 · answer #4 · answered by Lottie W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you are concerned for your boyfriend but if he says he wants to die it could be a cry for help and once he gets help maybe you can work things out. He probably doesn't want to die but there has to be a reason hes saying he does .Talk to him and maybe he will tell you why hes feeling like this . Maybe he will open up . Good Luck to you and god bless both of you.
2006-11-01 02:43:55 · answer #5 · answered by IT'S JUST ME ! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as if he is very controlling over you. If you want to break up with him you should just tell him how you feel. And just tell him we could stay friends. ya know he shouldn't be making you feel that way. If he thinks he's in a relationship, he's in it all by himself. Because your not in love with him and he's wanting you to be with him. that's not cool. Just explain to him. If he pulls that "I'm gonna kill myself" trip, just tell him. Do you want me to be miserable? things like that. he should understand if her really "feels" for ya. well I hope this helped some.
2006-11-01 02:45:19 · answer #6 · answered by ♥£eah♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a controlling manipulative jerk if you ask me. If he really had any plans to kill himself he wouldn't use it as a threat. Contact the police and your local mental institution, then get the hell out of dodge! If you want to get out alive, run for your life!
2006-11-01 02:40:44 · answer #7 · answered by p_lo25 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its really hard in a situation like yours. You need to be aware, that if he takes his life, it is NOT your fault. Talk to his and your parents before you break up with him, along with his firends. That way, when you break up with him, everyone will keep an eye out on him
2006-11-01 02:42:07 · answer #8 · answered by raven_sandiablo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is not allowed to put you under pressure.
do you really think he would kill him self?
if so leave him, but tell it also to a close friend of him. (or his mum dad)
But you should know, that you have to do what you want to. you are free and its your life. your life is a gift and no one can ever tell you what to do, coz they have their own life to boss around. be strong
2006-11-01 02:44:39 · answer #9 · answered by langstrumpf 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to break up with your boysfriend you should do it. If he is depressed and doesn't want you to leave by threatening to kill himself his self esteem is not going to get any better if he is with someone who doesn't want to be with him.
2006-11-01 02:43:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋