I have been planning my wedding for a few months now but after losing my father almost three weeks ago I can't seem to get anything done.Its not that I don't want to be married,its that I feel so sad and lonely at the thought of him not being there to give me away.I haven't really done anything besides purchase my gown.I couldn't wait to wear it,now I don't want to see it.I have a very close friend in my fiances family that I would like to ask to do the planning for me,but I'm afraid that is asking her to take on such a big responsibilty that she may not be able to handle because she has her own family to care for.So how do I carry on with the planning? Should I ask her to help me since shes great with this type of stuff?
2006-11-01 02:36:45 · 10 answers · asked by miss.douchebag 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
A good friend will do almost anything to help a friend in need. Ask for her help. She will probably be grateful to do something to help you thru such a difficult time. List the things you have done & the things that need to be done. Then prioritize the "need to do" list. Helping you get organized as to one task at a time will help you feel in control. Asking for her recommendations will further enlist her help in planning your wedding without you just handing it all over. Don't hand it all over to your friend. You will want to have memories of planning your big day. I hope this isn't a cruel point to make but your dad would most likely want you to remember your wedding as a happy memory not a sad one. Although this is understandably a sad time concentrate on what your dad would wish for you & this should help you get thru the tough days. Hope this helps, dear. Peace & Congratulations on your Marriage!
2006-11-01 02:53:10 · answer #1 · answered by curiousgeorge 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you haven't put down a big deposit on a reception or anything, consider postponing the wedding for a few months. You might even consider changing the kind of wedding you'll have--perhaps a smaller group going to some beautiful destination would be fun, beautiful, and different, because your life without your father is different, too. If you suggest some changes to your fiance as a way to really be able to enjoy your wedding, the two of you can probably come up with something really amazing as a way to celebrate your life together.
If a lot of money has been spent and you need to stay with the arrangements as they are, then by all means ask people for help. Perhaps you could break down the job into more manageable tasks and that way a few people could help out. Ask someone to research a florist, another to handle the cake, someone else to audition DJs or bands, etc. That way your friends all get a chance to support you, and nobody is too overwhelmed. Also, since people are human, if someone falls through on their commitment, there isn't as much for you to have to "clean up" after them!
Allow yourself some time to grieve. Don't try to make your wedding what it would have been. Share your feelings with your fiance and let this draw the two of you even closer together. I wish you both the best.
2006-11-01 10:53:10 · answer #2 · answered by Yogini108 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should ask her and I am sure she would be honored..... this is a tough time for you and I think you should ask as many people as you need for help, your mom, maid of honor, grandparents friends.... you need all the support you can get right now and i am POSTIVE that your loved ones will more than be willing to lend a helping hand. I think you should ask a few people to help with the wedding. I am so sorry for your loss. But I am so glad that your getting married and you can start a new life and a new beginning. GL
2006-11-01 12:13:12 · answer #3 · answered by totallylovableandinlove 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having someone's help planning your wedding is the best idea. I wouldn't postpone the wedding. I'm sure if she's a friend she'll love to be able to be a part of your wedding in this way.
2006-11-01 13:58:51 · answer #4 · answered by stephanne1978 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask for help and hopefully the people who know your situation will understand and let you lean on them at this time. I have learned that there is nothing wrong with asking for help !Good Luck to you and your fiance.
2006-11-01 10:40:31 · answer #5 · answered by IT'S JUST ME ! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you postpone your wedding? Let yourself mourn your father's death. Your fiance should understand. Postpone the wedding and planning until you feel ready to take it on. Take care of yourself.
2006-11-01 10:41:17 · answer #6 · answered by married2004 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did you pick bridesmaids? I'm sure they would be more than happy to help you with this, that way the responsibility won't be on just one person.
I'm so sorry about your father. Good luck to you.
2006-11-01 12:23:33 · answer #7 · answered by AmyB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Express your feelings to her and I know she will be more than happy to help you out. What are friend for? Friends are always there when you need them most.
2006-11-01 13:43:50 · answer #8 · answered by . 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should ask your maid of honor and bridesmaids, after all its part of their job as your bridesmaids
2006-11-01 11:34:35 · answer #9 · answered by H0T_SAUZE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are companys that plan very beautiful wedings
http://www.weddingmanor.com/
2006-11-01 10:40:44 · answer #10 · answered by l_k_s_1986 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋