I like this new girl at my workplace. She is currently in training and she's always moving around with other girls in training so I never get a chance to talk to her alone. Everybody in training is fresh out of college. One day, when she was returning from a break with one of her friends, I stopped them on the way and asked them what the recruitment process was for hiring them and also asked them some sample questions that were asked in the selection test so that I could tell my friends that were applying for a job in my company. Not that I really wanted to know, but I had to desperately talk to her and this was the only way I could figure out. A few days later, I received an email from another colleague which said that a company in my town was hiring people that were fresh out of college. I took a print-out of the ad and give it to a guy [is also in training with the girl] and I told them that he could pass it on to his college friends that were still unemployed.
2006-11-01 02:32:12 · 10 answers · asked by Worrier 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I spoke to this guy outside the training room. Yesterday, I caught her walking alone and asked her how she was doing, how the training program was going on and asked her name. Today I received another email about a different company that was also hiring fresh grads, and this time I took the printout and walked straight into the training room and give it to a different guy that was seated right next to the training room door. I didnt look at her.
Between all these whenever we pass each other in office, we smile at each other but one time when I smiled at her, she just kept looking at me with a blank face, no reaction. I dont know how someone can manage that or what it means. Any clues?
2006-11-01 02:32:57 · update #1
My questions are:
1. Are my approaches right or is there something I could do better or am I doing something wrong?
2. I normally like to help people and sometimes go out of the way. However, I sincerely do not know if giving those guys in training information about companies hiring was my attempt [subconciously] to impress her. Do you think she would feel I was trying to impress and if yes, would it have any negative effects?
Any other suggestions/comments welcome. Thank you for reading my boring story, all the same I am hoping you would help.
2006-11-01 02:33:12 · update #2
bite the bullet --- go and ask her out
she can only say no
2006-11-01 02:38:35 · answer #1 · answered by trader1867 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boy..this is a tough one! My thoughts, though, are that if you are interested in someone, it is best to just be forthright with it. By that I mean, don't try to help the 'group', but be specific. Actually, I don't think that bringing print-outs to the group is a good idea. I would prefer that if someone was interested in 'me', that he would come up to me and introduce himself and then offer me help with specifics like sample questions, or printouts, etc. Then I would know that he was really interested in "ME" and not just 'showing off' that he was this terrific guy. What do you do with that info..especially if you don't know it was targeted at yourself? You are giving the girl mixed messages. She is probably wondering what you are doing, and has no real clue that you are interested in her.
Try again. Be specific in your interactions with people. Don't be afraid and hide behind things or situations. A look in the eye, a handshake, and an offer to help with whatever she would need, should be clear enough for her to take the next step--if she is interested. Being straightforward is always the best.
2006-11-01 02:44:37 · answer #2 · answered by Nisey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that there is no way that she even thinks you're interested! You're keeping it all business and she probably thinks you're just being polite. You need to make your intentions more noticeable and stop trying to help out the guys around her. She wont notice you that way! You're being too vague. Ask her questions about her personal life. What do you like to do when you leave this hell hole? What area do you live in? Do you like it? Where are you from where did you go to school? Those kinds of things. What you're doing is a sure fire way to get passed over and unnoticed!
2006-11-01 02:37:08 · answer #3 · answered by Phaylynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask the woman to have lunch with you! As a woman I can tell you that what you've done so far hasn't made her think twice about you. She has no idea you are interested in her. If you hadn't just said you were I wouldn't know. Be up front it will work way better than all of this. You can do it!
2006-11-01 02:36:44 · answer #4 · answered by momma 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
aww ur way adorable...
You have to make her laugh..try to be funny about the jobs or something .. Girls love the funny guy i know i do =] Offer her help with things...when you get coffee and you pass her ask her if she wants nething..when you go to the supply room or w/e see if she needs anything, if you order lunch ask her if she wants to order with you..but be nice, and FUNNY its important.. lol she needs to feel comfortable with you and laughter does it. Feel her out see whats up. When you talk to her, ask her about movies, sports, music...you know the basics...Then when you think its ok, ask her what she's doing for lunch...see what she says... and watch for signs like touching... winking.. and such.. OH AND MOST IMPORTANT !! make sure she is single !! lol good luck babe <3
2006-11-01 02:41:41 · answer #5 · answered by lila 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well she knows you like helping people. But stop wasting time, and ask her out to lunch, or coffee, that's what you REALLY want to do isn't it? While you are busy cutting articles, someone else may ask her first.
2006-11-01 02:36:51 · answer #6 · answered by angeleyes 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So, I was wondering if next time you can just tell me that you like me instead of putting it on Yahoo answers. I thought we were all a little more mature then that.
2006-11-01 02:36:57 · answer #7 · answered by babyj248 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Try getting more personal. Compliment something about her appearance and see how she reacts.
2006-11-01 02:37:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her and her friends to go to lunch together!
2006-11-01 02:38:13 · answer #9 · answered by Blondie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she might be interested in you at all just try and be friends with her and see were it goes
2006-11-01 02:38:35 · answer #10 · answered by BRIAN R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋