ok here it goes I'm livin with my mom she's single, When I was 6mth baby she my my father left.For the past 16yrs she's been single, now 4 about 2yrs she finally met someone, he's not that perfect (well everyone got a past). I know about it and my mom too,well they both decided to get marry,the problem is that I got to go live with them and its so hard to accept things this way. Here is another problem I have a boyfriend he's finding out about this guy my mom is with he"s doing some research on him,I'm scared of the things he might find out because there is alot of things about him (bad) So If my boyfriend finds out is there going to be a problem for "US" is he going to accept the facts, I got a hard time accepting it what about him.I love him and I want things to work out for us so far everything is okay but now I'm scared what is going to happen??? So can someone tell me what i'm supposed to do here???
2006-11-01 02:31:26 · 9 answers · asked by sweety 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
what??
2006-11-01 03:17:40 · answer #1 · answered by Sunspot Baby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your old enough to have a boyfriend. Your old enough to move out. Why stay there? Move away from these problems in that house. When you living under your mom's roof you except whoever she has in her life. Your boyfriend has no right interfering with your mom's relationship. If your mom is happy leave it at that. If your not stay away from them in the house or move out. Your mother comes first before your boyfriend so tell him to stop meddling in other people's affairs. Sounds like your boyfriend is not all that perfect either.
Take care & good luck.
2006-11-01 02:51:43 · answer #2 · answered by X-Woman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mother is grown, and you cannot tell her what to do. Should your boyfriend dig up any UNKNOWN dirt on this guy, then by all means, bring it to her attention. Not knowing what sort of "past" he had it's hard to give you advice. Was he convicted of a crime of sexual nature? Was it a violent crime? These factors would certainly weigh heavy on your mother's decision to marry this guy. Aside from that, you can tell your mother your fears and concerns and then stand by her decision. It may not be so bad....people CAN change, with proper help. Don't worry quite so much about this...in a couple of years you can be out on your own and making your own decisions...good, bad and ugly!!
Good luck!
2006-11-01 02:36:34 · answer #3 · answered by ladyw900ldriver 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, you and your mom have your own lives to live. she chose this guy because she feels she can be happy with him despite the facts that she knows about him. On your part, it is normal for you to feel upset about the situation but you have to accept it because your mom has made her decision. You can only meddle in her affairs if and when you see that she is getting hurt and is not happy with the relationship. Your relationship with your boyfriend has nothing to do with whatever bad image he finds out about this guy your mom got married to. He can make all the researches on this person not because your relationship depends on it but only to gather information that he can use in order to protect your mom, in case this guy does something nasty. If he loves you, then nothing can change what he feels for you. You don't have to be scared about him knowing all about the guy. In fact, it is better if you tell him yourself so that you can both discuss what to do in case things get bad.
2006-11-01 02:47:38 · answer #4 · answered by j6shawie26 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not unusual for a child to feel apprehensive about a step parent coming in permanently. I hated my step dad. I couldn't figure him out for the longest time. Only after I moved out of my house were he and I able to get along and I could finally appreciate him for being a father figure to me for 17 years. You may have your reasons for being scared, but give him time to prove himself as a good provider for you and your mom. It will be very difficult to convince your mom that he isn't right for the both of you, especially if she has been single for so long.
Be patient and wait it out. If you are scared, keep the phone next to you and don't hesitate to call the police if he does something dangerous. You don't need to become a real life version of the movie "Domestic Disturbance."
Good luck, be wary but give him a chance. :)
2006-11-01 02:37:31 · answer #5 · answered by tiger_lilly33186 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't really understand the question. Are you worried about how your boyfriend will react if he uncovers some bad info on this guy? I would be more concerned with what this guy has done. If it turns out that he is dangerous, you and your mom should get away from him.
2006-11-01 02:34:38 · answer #6 · answered by EchoCharlie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes wait n watch is the best thing to do. iF ur guy can leave u for ur step-dad he can leave u for a volcano eruption in Fiji.If u find bad things bout ur step u can quietely and cheekely say that to ur mom, so that she may also know.
2006-11-01 02:36:44 · answer #7 · answered by vio_prince 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unless you or mom are in danger...your boyfriend needs to respect your mom and husband....he has no business interfering in someone else's marriage...you need too also respect your mom's decisions as well....if there is love and trust between them and your mom is happy...be happy with her....try....tell your boyfriend to butt out....it's not his life or home...
2006-11-01 02:40:28 · answer #8 · answered by sayasyoulike 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in mi opinion you should think about your mother and do what you think is good for her.... you r young you got the time to setle your life she need s to setle she s faster
2006-11-01 02:34:43 · answer #9 · answered by l_k_s_1986 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋