My 12 year old daughter was invited to go to an indoor amusement park (within West Edmonton Mall) with 2 other 12 year old girls. The birthday girl's parents were just going to drop them off and pick them up 6 hours later!
2006-11-01 02:23:45 · 20 answers · asked by Pandora 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
firstly, mature looking has nothing to do with mature acting.it's
mature looking that will get your daughter in trouble, and if she isn't mature acting, the consequences can be severe. at 12
years of age there is no reason why a parent or guardian can not be with them, just give the girls space to have fun, but close enough nearby to intercede if needed
2006-11-01 02:35:38 · answer #1 · answered by universalist49 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well...mature looking is one thing...and mature acting is another! Does she display good use of judgement? Are her friends nice and do they have manners? There is a lot to consider here. All kids are different. My daughter is 12, very mature, uses good judgement and runs with a great group of kids. She has been going to functions of that sort since she was 10. My son on the other hand, age 10 and my other daughter, age 8 are very different than the 12 year old ever was...I won't be letting them do anything like that until they are 35!! LOL!! One thing that I do insist is that she carry a piece of paper with emergency information on it and that at least one of the girls has a cell phone....usually my daughter. Give her some basic rules...stay together, don't talk to strangers, etc. etc. Chances are...she is probably more ready for that independance than you may think.
Good Luck!
2006-11-01 02:34:33 · answer #2 · answered by Sunshine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoa here. Bad idea if no parental supervision at all. Girls this age are silly and make wrong decisions. Even if your daughter does not act this way, she will be pressured into being "cool" if the others decide to leave the mall or talk to strangers. I would diffinitely rethink my daughter even going over to this girl`s house also. Her parents may not there when she is visiting her friend. Also does she spend the night at her house? Are the parents there then or have they gone out? These parents do not sound to me as someone I would let my daughter run around with.
2006-11-01 02:41:48 · answer #3 · answered by Sparkles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I would let her go. Maybe try to set up a plan with her and her friends? Get them to call you every now and then to check up with you. Or go to the mall yourself and meet up at different areas to see how they are, make sure they don't leave eachother behind.
Six hours is a long time to be alone and they might get bored and wonder off! If you feel really uncomfortable about the whole thing, but still want your daughter to go, you could offer a neighborhood girl some money to go with them and watch em.
Hopefully it works out! Good luck =)
2006-11-01 22:04:04 · answer #4 · answered by Lola 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No they shouldn't be in the mall alone, and that includes if they DIDN'T look mature. Sure looking mature can make it worse but not looking that way is bad. The reason is because all areas have people who prey on the young. Of course the mall is one of the best places to look. Being mature looking will just make it easier to try to get them without anyone being too suspicious. My feeling is IF you can you should offer to chaperone for the sake of the other girls. I'm guessing you proably can't but I think someone should be there watching them.
2006-11-01 02:34:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would request a chaperone. That's pretty dangerous. Unchaperoned parties are okay if they're at someone's house or something, but in a very crowded place like a mall..? I would worry.
2006-11-01 02:28:31 · answer #6 · answered by ♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No!! First of all, just because you're daughter is "very mature looking" doesn't mean she is mature. Second, what kind of friends is you're daughter hanging out with if her parents are allowing her to be alone for 6 hours? Anything could happen to anyone of those girls. Please don't allow you're daughter to go. If she really wants to go then why don't you chaperon? That way you can witness how "mature" these girls are.
2006-11-01 02:31:28 · answer #7 · answered by jakesmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went to events like that with friends at that age. Make sure she knows not to leave the mall with anyone at all ever. She will be okay and she will have a fun time. A cell phone would not hurt any then she can call if she has any problems.
2006-11-01 02:33:19 · answer #8 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOPE, a 12 year old should not be wandering a mall for 6 hours.
2006-11-03 21:37:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Check out the lemons answer, but for me! Drop them off? Go incognito. Being there would be an asset. 12 year olds are different now a days, but still need guidance.
2006-11-01 02:37:44 · answer #10 · answered by lin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋