How old should someone be when they lose their virgity?

Question

I'm 17, and in lovve with someone that truy loves me back.(We have been dating since i was7...thats 10 years) Should i lose my virginty to him...and when?

Answer 1

Nope!!!!!! Are you prepared to have a baby and provide for that child for the next 18 to 20 years. Are you and your friends working a job that can provide for a child if something happens. Can your friend support you and a child if you become pregnant? Do you both have the means to pay rent, utilities, child care, transportation costs, food, clothing and education for yourself and the child? Can you both move into your own place if you get pregnant so you won't put the burden on your parents or his parents. It wouldn't be fair for them to raise you and your children. Do you think both of you are mature enough to be parents if something happens. What I'm saying is this. There is a unforeseen factor that comes into play if you too sleep together that you cannot control (even if you take birth control or he wears protection), you still may get pregnant. And if you do, your life will be changed forever. Do you want this. Life is full of challenges and there is nothing wrong with that, but you don't want to put into motion something that will effect your future without you planning it. Another thing is you are only 17. Sure you feel for this fellow and I'm sure he is very nice, but you are both still children who believe you're are in love and want to go further. You must understand there are many stages of love. One thing you must know, people change with responsibilities. The meaning of love changes as people get older. It's not only about feelings and emotions, and right now, all you and your friend are dealing with are emotions. You haven't had to deal with anything else. Also remember, people also change with age. As you get older, you may start to see things differently. You may want to date other people, you may want or get the opportunity to travel, you may want to go away to college, your parents may get sick and need you to care for them, anything could happen. The last think need is to have a child and you and your friend are not prepared to provide and I say provide for it properly. The cost of raising children in the 21st centure is very high. Can you and your friend provide health care for a child? Continue to love each without becoming intimate. I know It's hard and I felt the same way as a young girl and unfortunately I gambled and lost. I become pregnant at an early age and believe me, my life changed forever. I wish I had waited and lived a more fulfilling life as a teenager and young person, as opposed to being a parent too soon in my life. Don't Do It. Talk to your parents and your school counselor. Please be paitient.

Answer 2

Sweetie, if you feel the need to ask us, than you probably should not. When the time is right, YOU will know it. Don't allow anyone else to influence your decision. It has to be right for you.
There is no definitive age, because age isn't the issue. What's important is how mature and ready for the consequences are you and your BF. I'm not just talking about the standard getting pregnant, or disease, I'm sure you've heard those before. They are all true. But having sex adds an unpredictable element to your relationship. It may not change anything, and you two will go on just like before with no problems or issues. It may even be just perfect for the two of you. Or, it could change everything, and there you'll be with no BF or in a damaged relationship that may or may not last.
Be careful, this is a decision you only get to make once.
If you choose to do it now, then you've done it and you have to deal with it and whatever comes with it. If you choose to wait, then you still have the option to do it at a later date, and few consequences.

Answer 3

I think that you must have more opportunity to meet other young men before you take How can that next step in your relationship.
How can you know if know what you really want when you have
not gone out with another person. Your virginity is a precious
thing. When you know in your heart that the time is right you will
know it., but don't let curiosity lead you into a Hasty decision

Answer 4

How can you "date" at 7 ? When you sleep with someone, it changes the whole chemistry of the present situation. There is no set time for loosing ones virginity. If you think you are emotionally ready to handle it, then I guess go ahead...but you need to also be ready to handle a breakup, if one comes shortly after.

Answer 5

the only thing i can tell u is when u found that person that u actually think about making that step with then u know thats the right person if theres a doubt in ur mind then dont do it but usually u jus know and when ur really sure about it its the most wonderful experience u cn have!!!!!

Answer 6

well, i think you should wait to have sex until you are ready to take care of the possible consequences, i.e. baby, std, ect.

now days it's great that you have made it to 17 being a virgin, dont take it for granted. dont forget that this really is a HUGE decision even though most people act like it's not.

only you can know if and when you're ready.

Answer 7

The longer you wait the better for you. There is only 2 % chance that your relation will last for additional 3 years.

Answer 8

Some 25 years old who are not ready to lose their virginity. I think you have to be mature and mentally able to handle it. It is a big step and you can never go back to "holding hands." Don't rush, you have your whole life ahead of you.

Answer 9

I was 14 when I lost mine, it was fun. She was 15. Then I had a gf that I dated for a year and she was 15 also when she lost it....so 17 shoudln't be bad according to my experiences..

Answer 10

You should wait until you feel you are completely ready and know that this is the man that you want to spend the rest of your life. Your virginity is sacred and losing it to someone you plan to marry is my suggestion...good luck.