We are both in college, and we have been friends for a couple of weeks now. We have spent every night together hanging out and sometimes we sleep together (not sex) and I have fallen in love. I took her out to see a movie and I told her that I liked her a lot and I wanted to do this again. Then she said she also liked me but she didn't know what she wanted right now and didn't want anyone to get too attached and someone to get hurt. After she told me that I wrote her an e-mail saying how much I care for her and that I have never felt this way about anyone else before and if she decicdes that she wants a relationship with me that I would be the happiest and luckiest guy in the world. And I said I would wait as long as it taked for her to make up her mind. Then she told me how much the e-mail ment to her and was thanking me for being so patient. But now I dont really know what else to do other thatn wait. Please give me some advice or any ideas.
2006-11-01 02:10:21 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just wait since you really love her just wait and she may just be a slow starter and it may take her a while to be ready maybe she is a little scared of having s*x too when I was still a virgin I was so scared it would hurt but I am glad I waited to have s*x with the man I thought i was in love with so the pain us woman go tho is not that bad with the right one because you love them so much you can endure a little pain the first time and still enjoy the love I remember it was hard to even sit down for the first couple of days right after I am glad that it don't hurt the man!!!! but the pain is not that bad tell her you have a friend that wants her too know it is not that bad!!! when you have it with the one you love and just be pateint I remember I first told him yes and I told him hurry before I change my mind and it was over before I know it but i did want to say no again but I did not want to be cruel after saying yes!!! I feel sorry for all the girls who have had to go though being raped it is a scare that they rarely if ever get over the abuse to the body disappers quickly but the scares on the mind from emotions take a 1000 times longer to heal I was almost raped twice God spared my twice I at least got the one guy locked up but the other got away becuase so did I and I have know idea where he went I can only hope some one caught him! just make sure you let her know that you know how inportant commication is most inportant in a relatetionship commicattion and honesty and trust!!!!! and patients just remember all that and treat her better than you think you should if you love her as much as you say treat her better than you want others to treat you and if she comes to love you she should do the same I very wise woman told me and I think it is true you should always think you got the better end of the deal that way you will always treat them right!! So as not to lose them!!!
2006-11-01 03:06:20 · answer #1 · answered by mel416 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Waiting is the only thing you CAN do.
But, lets talk about this. You've been friends for a couple weeks, hanging out and such. A couple weeks and your in LOVE with her? Honestly, I doubt that. I'm not trying to be rude or anything, but seriously. After a couple weeks hanging out with someone, I hardly think that you could know her enough to be in LOVE with her. Love is a strong word that a lot of people tend to use too loosely. Take your time getting to know one-another. Don't pressure her too much into jumping into a relationship with you. (This could lead to a very bad situation between the two of you. Matter of fact, it could even push her away.) She's obviously had some problems in the past, or even present, that is affecting her in one way or another.
Why not try and just be friends for a while. Go to the movies, hang out, go late night shopping, or even study together. But leave it at that. Give her, and yourself, some time to get to know eachother and see where it goes from there....
2006-11-01 10:16:30 · answer #2 · answered by shush_n_kiss_me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't make someone fall in love with you. If it is meant to be, then it will happen. Even though you know her, what happens if you push too much and you guys get together in haste and the relationship doesn't work out. Then you lost a love and a good friend. Just wait like your doing. When it comes to females never push!
2006-11-01 10:16:23 · answer #3 · answered by Rachel D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You told her you would wait. So now, that's what you do. Pushing her for any kind of answer or commitment, will only push her away. In the meantime, enjoy every moment of the friendship and relationship that you have with her. Like it or not, the ball is in her court. You made your feelings known, let her decide if she has the same feelings without any pressure from you. I hope it works out for you...
2006-11-01 10:17:54 · answer #4 · answered by angeleyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know, getting someone into a relationship does not guarantee a thing. in fact, what you have now is already like a relationship, without all those invisible relationship rules of course.
the person you love is within reach. she allows you to spend time with her, and "sleep together." so i am sure she is a nice girl and she "liked you too". i admire the fact that she is not rushing into things ( i wonder why you are? ) - she seems like a person who is rational, takes her time to make decisions which only means when she does make that decision, its something she wants.
are you in for such an impulsive relationship? be her friend; her good friend... get on her good side, spend enough time with her. over time, love will make its own way. forcing her to be in a relationship however indirectly speaks of your selfishness.
2006-11-01 10:16:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anna D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just wait and get to know each other more. The more time you two get to know each other before you date the better. To have a good relationship you have to be good friends too. Don't push though because that might scare her off. Let her get through what she needs to and when she ready she'll come around.
2006-11-01 10:29:03 · answer #6 · answered by Jenna 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just wait... Be patient... Go out, do things you normally would do. You've told her, which is commendable. Now the ball is in her court and you must wait. Only time will tell! DO NOT push her or you will loose!
2006-11-01 10:14:01 · answer #7 · answered by T. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WELL, FIRST OF ALL SHE TOLD YOU THE DEAL AND THEN YOU WROTE HER A E-MAIL TELLING HER HOW YOU FEEL. THAT WAS WRONG YOU BACKED HER IN A CORNER, NOW SHE DONT KNOW HOW TO TELL YOU THAT SHE'S NOT READY FOR A RELATIONSHIP BECAUSE SHE TOLD YOU ONCE AND YOU MAKING IT HARD FOR HER NOT TO HURT YOUR...MY ADVICE IS TO CONTINUE TO BE FRIENDS WITH HER AND LET HER COME TO YOU WHEN SHE'S READY OK. BELIEVE ME I KNOW THE SAME THING HAPPENED TO ME, HE KEPT ON BEGGING ME AND THAT MADE ME DIDN'T LIKE HIM, THEN HE GAVE ME TIME AND I REALIZED I LIKED HIM MORE THAN I WAS SAYING
2006-11-01 10:24:44 · answer #8 · answered by luvlilsexy21 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are donig a good job your scoring major points with her let her take her time. you cant make her fall in love wihth you it takes time And its her choice wheter to loe you or not. dont tell her you love her thatl just scare her its to early in her mind just colntuie with the o=i care for you alot. and keep being the good man you are cause its working eve on e and i don tknow you
2006-11-01 10:15:13 · answer #9 · answered by take it or leave it 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter how hard you try, you cannot make anybody fall in love with you. Love just happens to you but to keep it you need to work on it.
2006-11-01 10:28:46 · answer #10 · answered by Eileen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋