I have a little sister in law she is 12 and I have a great time with her when I see her, she lives in kentucky. I keep up with her and since I am good with children, I know what they want. She wants a friend to talk to and play with up her and I am that person. I get down to her level and play dolls, but make up on, and do other girl stuff. When my in laws see this, they think I am weird for playing with a 12 yr old. I have a 2 yr old and a 7 month old. I have stuff a great time with her, and they look at me weird for having a great time, I think they are jealous that they can't have a good time with her. What can I do to make our time more precious? What can I do to get my in laws off my back?
2006-11-01 02:07:07 · 6 answers · asked by fourcheeks4 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
well you seem like just a girl who likes to be a kid and have fun with little kids. explain that you are in touch with kid side of you and are ok and actually like hanging out with this girl. get them to understand that it is a mutually fun experience and no harm is coming out of it. maybe they will understand, if not then it doesnt really matter because they arent your judges in the end....you know that you arent doing anything wrong.
2006-11-01 02:10:35 · answer #1 · answered by hatin_u_always 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your in-laws that you see a child as a precious thing. You wouldn't hurt her for the world. Maybe they are worried that you will try something with her since she's at "that age," as some people put it. No matter what, do not neglect the child. If she likes playing with you, continue to do so. If you start ignoring her, she will think it's her fault, and be hurt. Invite the in laws to watch you interact with the girl. Every 12 year old girl needs a guy who's not her father to look up to. Mine was my brother's best friend. She sees you as her friend, maybe even her big brother, and there's nothing wrong with that.
2006-11-01 10:15:08 · answer #2 · answered by tinkerbell24 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know this could be a really good thing for the 12 year old! In a few years stuff will come up in her life that she will want to ask questions about and not really want to talk to parents...like sex or boys. Having someone in her life like you could mean the difference between making the right and wrong dicisions in her young life. And speaking from expearance...you can never make in-laws happy! If you are ok with playing with the 12yr old and your hubby is ok with it why should it matter what his stuffy parents think. Anyways I guess what I'm trying to say is follow your heart and you could be that little girls hero.
2006-11-01 10:16:42 · answer #3 · answered by ice38034 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There isn`t really anything you can do to "get them off of your back." They are being critical of you, and if it wasn`t this it would probably be something else. Another thing is do they want you putting makeup on her? Maybe you should ask permission to do this. Some parents, especially older ones, do not approve of a girl this age wearing makeup. Be careful not to overdo the makeup, using only lip gloss and the lightest eye shadow you can find. You can fix her hair really pretty and put pretty clips and bands in it. About the dolls, I wouldn`t worry too much about that. I think it is great that you think enough of her to play with her. Continue to be her friend and play with her, but watch the bounderies that her parents may not want you to overstep. Caregivers and teachers get very involved with the children that we take care of and teach. We get down on their level also. I think you are wonderful for doing this.
2006-11-01 10:16:32 · answer #4 · answered by Sparkles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
instead of seeing you as a flexible person who can adjust to people of all ages, they think you are weird. I am tempted to say don't bother with them. Just do what you are doing and they will appreciarte you.
2006-11-01 10:09:45 · answer #5 · answered by Selene 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them that you love kids. That you can't wait to have your kids be her age. Just forget about them and keep doing what ur doing....I would!
2006-11-01 10:45:14 · answer #6 · answered by LeeLynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋