I have been with the man of my dreams for almost 2 yrs now about a year ago i found Alot of porn on his pc which bothered me a little at first.i confronted him about it and he said that he liked to look at porn from time to time.OK FINE I have no problem with that what i do have a problem with is sometimes i will want to have sex and he'll say later or im to tired,but then when he thinks im asleep i catch him looking at porn AND He'll denie it. this has been happening alot latley i just want to know why he thinks he has to hide it from me? and why would he rather watch porn then have sex with me we have or had a GREAT sex life.
2006-11-01 02:01:58 · 25 answers · asked by melissaajmsn 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think it's because he has certain needs and expectations of sex, which perhaps he doesn't want to ask from you, because you might not want to do the things he gets turned on about.
It could be a sign that he respects you, and loves you for who you are - but perhaps it is also a sign that he has a depth to him that you have yet to uncover, and that he is unwilling for now to reveal to you, for fear that you might kick him out.
Here's an idea. When he's away from you, sneak a look at his porn stash. Take a look at the things he likes to see, the stuff he gets turned on by. If you find some of this stuff to be acceptable, you might want to broach the topic yourself to him. Let him know that you're enjoying great sex from him now, but that if you want to get close to him, really close, and have mindblowing sex, you're prepared to do some of these things.
And then bring something else to the table. Think about the things you do that turn you on ... and ask him if he can indulge you in a little roleplay, fantasy sex or whatever.
See if this helps.
2006-11-01 02:08:06 · answer #1 · answered by fiat_knox 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-23 02:06:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-07-27 03:56:56 · answer #3 · answered by Gilbert 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some guys become addicted to porn. Some guys just like watching porn on occasion. The way to tell the difference is that if he is passing up real sex for porn, he is addicted. There is hope, though. Like any addiction, he needs to admit that he has a problem and needs to be willing to take the steps to get help. If you love him, you should calmly approach him about it, but be very stern in saying that things cannot continue the way they are. Good luck to you both!
2006-11-01 02:05:55 · answer #4 · answered by EchoCharlie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2006-11-01 02:16:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is getting bored, you need to spice it up a bit, maybe go and buy some porn yourself and when he gets home, ask him if he wants to watch a great DVD you just got, and watch it with him, you will see how he will be if it makes a difference, if he has sex with you the way he used to, then it really was just him being bored, and if nothing changes, then maybe he is trying to tell you something, maybe he is not feelin this relationship anymore. Good luck!
2006-11-01 02:06:01 · answer #6 · answered by wantstoknow 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I view porn once in a long while but never have I turned my wife down for sex and then gone to view porn. The things with porn is that it ends up distorting a person's view of sex if they consume it too much. Porn is an illusion and some buy into that illusion. hope you husband hasn't cuz your sex life may start deteriorating.
Try asking him what he likes about porn so much that he would pass up sex for it?
2006-11-01 02:07:17 · answer #7 · answered by St.Anger 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Possible that he might be bored with sex, and thinks that porn is more exciting, also in his mind you might not be meeting his expectations of what he see's in porn. He's may want you to be like the women in the porn he's looking at.
He needs counceling for a sexual addiction, because he is chosing porn over you, and thinking of himself. He should be thinking of you and your feelings before himself, because if he's starting this now, if you get married, it will only become worse unless he gives it up.
I know because I let that garbage consume me, and it almost destroyed my marriage to my wife.
Hope that this helps. Take care and God Bless
2006-11-01 02:07:06 · answer #8 · answered by Bryan M 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he has a fetish and is embarassed about it. I don't know what type of porn he has but there are several genres. You may want to have a heart to heart talk about it. Good luck.
In my opinion, if he cannot trust you with the truth, then the relationship is already rocky because trust is a big issue for a real relationship.
2006-11-01 02:05:30 · answer #9 · answered by joe19 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Offer to try some of the things he sees in the porno's. Or let him catch you watching some porn. If he see's that you are into it too, maybe he'll loosen up a little.
2006-11-01 02:05:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋