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Question

i really fancy this guy but i dunno if he feels the same.ive known him for ages. i met him thru my ex boyfriend. i was with my ex boyf for 6 years. when i met this guy we got on really well & had so much in common. we swapped numbers as i was training in the same career as him & he would give me advice as its very difficult to get into. later, he kept asking me to meet him for drinks.i didnt agree to this i was in a relationship but he kept on. recently, i split from my boyf(not coz of this guy) & he still texts me on weekends, to meet up with him.i have since met up with him a few times, the first time being my birthday when i was very drunk. i ended up being sick around his flat.he was upset about this at first,which is understandable, but later was OK with it.i have only kissed this guy.he always compliments me and says im sexy.does he like me?why hasnt he asked me out on a proper date?why does he only text me on weekends to meet up?we do live in different towns. is he a player?

Answer 1

Follow your heart on this one. I think it is all to easy for people to accuse him of being a player, but as we have never met him, how can we read his intentions?

It could be that he likes you but is unsure of your feeling - thus doesn't want to come off too seriously. I would say the fact that he has kept the lines open this long makes me think it may be this rather than less honourable intentions.

But as I said, we've never met him, so is difficult to know for sure

Answer 2

Player? He sure has tried hard on one woman to be a player... He may be a retired player.

I don't want to read too much into the information that you gave me. However, texting you is a little too impersonal. Maybe he's not aware of the social taboo of impersonal social interaction.

WHY would he not call? Is he afraid of getting tongue tied or something. Texting a woman for drinks sounds a little geekish to me.

I believe your best course of action is to keep this guy at arm's length. Do not engage in any sexual activity. I think he's harmless, but something just isn't adding up.

He may not be aware of social graces OR he may be trying to hide his calls from someone else. Keep your eyes peeled for clues the next time you're in his flat. Call him during the week to say, "Hi.." If a female answers, don't assume it is a wife. He may be living with his sister or mother.

Take down the time and date... If a female does pick up, say the phone number and have ONE digit off that is for example. 675-1842 is his number... Ask is this 675-1845... "No" May I ask what number did I dial? That way you have the number repeated and you know you didn't misdial.

Then ask him, "who was the female that answered your phone on (date) and (time)???" If he plays dumb... Say, "If you want to play games, go talk to Milton Bradley or get you a Barbie Doll... I'm looking for a real man."

Answer 3

Hm. I don't know if you know this or not, but a lot of guys do this when they are just looking for some booty. Apparently, this guy PROBABLY sees you as an easy target, and that's all he sees you as. I mean, granted you got sick all over his apartment. But, I've always seen it this way... if a guy likes you, I mean, REALLY likes you, and something like that happens. He wont be complaining about your lunch in his bathtub, but he'd be making sure you were okay. Maybe getting you some water or something to help settle your stomach.

If I were you, I'd reevaluate this situation and if you, and ONLY you, feel that this might be going on, then you might want to take action and find another person to start hanging out with on the weekend.

Answer 4

He may be, but then again you may be with a very sincere person. He may feel that you need time to get over you ex. Don't be too quick to jump in the relationship. Just wait and see what he does when the question comes up. If you want to know that bad, then ask. You never know if you don't ask, then you'll always wonder "what if".

Answer 5

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Answer 6

Seems to me he's more interested in a physical relationship with you more than anything else. He obviously was trying to put the moves on you while he knew you were with someone else, not because he was looking for a relationship with you. Now that you're single, he only tries to get a hold of you on weekends and not because he wants to take you on a proper date but to possibly hook up. He sounds shady to me when it comes to a serious relationship. Be careful.

Answer 7

I'm going through exactly the same thing, He only texts me at weekends or when he knows I'm going out so i get pissed off and say to myself that's it but then when I do see him he pays me so many compliments and is so nice I get sucked back in, I think we know deep down what they are after but dont want to admit it, I think the only way to really find out is to start playing hard to get .

Answer 8

The questions you are asking here you may want to try asking him. From his answers, you can determine if his a player or not. Then you can make the decision on if you want a romantic relationship with him or if you want to remain friends. Good luck anyway.

Answer 9

As I guy, I can confidentely say that if a guy says you are "sexy", he is probably just interested in you physically. If he were interested in a relationship, he would likely be much more polite about his compliments. I would definitely say he's a player. Be careful with him.

Answer 10

I don't know if he is a player but if I was going out with a girl for six years and she split up with me and then started going out with one of my friends, that 'friend' would no longer be on my list of friends.

Maybe he is thinking about his mate, I know there is no way in a million years I would go out with one my friends ex's.