I have a beautiful step-daughter whom I deeply love and cherish. I understand her standoffishness(forgive the fake word) because she's only spent one summer and a few holidays with me in her life. She spends the school year with her mother and step-father 10 hours away. But she'll be here for her birthday and I want to get her something perfect. She will be eight. I don't want to have to ask her mother for a variety of reasons and as her innocent voice reminds me "dad is clueless." I know she's a disney kid, high school musical, cheetah girls, ect, but I really want to get her something special that would help bridge the gap between our personal relationship. I love kids, I get them, don't get me wrong. I'm actually a primary school teacher myself. I'm just looking for a little extra help this time. Any ideas?
2006-11-01 01:42:02 · 6 answers · asked by molshka 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
well sounds like you are off to the right start and you seem to love her very much. so weather she says it or not that goes a long way.!
now for a gift try not to out do mom that can really make a mess why don't you call mom and ask what she is doing and try to stay under that any gift you get she will like and i don't know if you can really brigade the cap with a 8 yr just her know that you don't hate her mom will go a long
hope this helps ~¿Ô
2006-11-01 01:51:52 · answer #1 · answered by 32606 3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you dont know her well enough to buy somrthing out right Take her to the mall and tell her that you are going to treat her to a shopping day. Tell her that she has x amount of money to blow on what every she wants with in reason. Take her to the hairdresser to get her hair done but dont have it cut or colored with out consulting her mother. Then take her for her first manicure. There is nothing like doing girly things with what could be a new girly friend who knows she might bring out your inner girl again. Don't try to imperss her just be yourself. Kids hate it when grown ups try too hard they can smell insecurity like a shark smells blood. Just don't have any expectations then there is automatically no presure. She may also feel very protective of her mom and is loyal to her. So tell her that its okay if she doen't like you but that is no reason to not enjoy her birthday. Tell her you love her dad and because of that you love her to. What ever you do don't try to be her mother. Kids feel guilty if they like the "Enemy" its alot to deal for her, so you be the adult.Right now the best thing you can hope for is friendship and the worst should be at least a truce but always be true to yourself first. If you take her shopping maybe watch a movie you will start to see what her likes and dislikes are in a more natural and relaxed way instead of asking other people. Then next time you will have a better idea on what to get her.
2006-11-01 02:43:08 · answer #2 · answered by Chillypepers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is she in to reading? My eight year old granddaughter loves books. It would be grand if you could get an autographed copy of her favorite book. Even though that might not be possible, get her a book which a qualified bookstore owner should be able to help you with. Have her name engraved to her from you with a special message. It will be there for her to read all of her life. Also throw in the Cheetah girls thing or two just to show her a fun side of you. Best of luck dear.
My granddaughter loves the LIttle House on the Prairie series and books about horses. The Snow Pony is nice and the author will autograph if you email her.
2006-11-01 01:46:59 · answer #3 · answered by Catie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest a "girls day out" with lunch, a visit to the spa, shopping for clothes, a movie and ice cream sundaes at the end of the day.
2006-11-01 02:35:41 · answer #4 · answered by silver2sea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there is a "Mommy and Me" Store near you have her party there! It is a store where you and her get to make dolls and also get manicures! So it can be something you both share! Invite lots of mothers and little girls! It is something like build a bear, but it is dolls!
2006-11-01 01:52:40 · answer #5 · answered by Blondie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could make her present from you a day of lunch, movie and shopping. Let her choose her own present, maybe something for her room at your place or a pet.
2006-11-01 02:00:21 · answer #6 · answered by Netto 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋