2006-11-01 01:38:03 · 9 answers · asked by cat_4_ivy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes it is, or you will get bored. Please note that this does not mean levels of schooling or higher education. I am a teacher, my husband is an electrician - very different kinds of post-secondary education and work experience. However, he is "smarter" in certain areas and I may be "smarter" in others, but what is important is the general curiosity and interest.
2006-11-01 01:52:01 · answer #1 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From personal experience I can tell you that, while not the only thing, it may be the most important thing to a long lasting relationship. Their are a couple of problems that usually arise. People who are not on the same plane intellectually usually don't have the same interests. Communication breaks down because, well, you really don't have anything in common to talk about. It's the small talk, just general conversation, that determines how well people will get along. If one person is afraid to say something because they think it may sound stupid to the other person, they'll just keep their mouth shut. And why start a conversation with somebody when you know they wont be able to understand what you're talking about? Resentment starts to grow on both sides, and that's the beginning of the end..
2006-11-01 10:22:55 · answer #2 · answered by Knowitall 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely. A smart girl only feels connected with an intellectual man.
2006-11-01 09:41:22 · answer #3 · answered by citrusy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have to say that, yes, it is. After the initial physical attraction subsides, (and it will if the relationship lasts long enough) you'd better have a partner with whom you have a lot in common. Intellectual incompatibility is a sure-fire argument starter! Believe me, you don't want to spend a lifetime with someone to whom you have to continually explain things! It's extremely frustrating, to say the least!
2006-11-01 09:52:11 · answer #4 · answered by Rembrandt11 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. You need to be able to communicate on the same level. A friend of mine is extremely intelligent. IQ of 162, invents a lot of things, writes---overall smarty. He married a chick who can't read, write, or do basic math. He's miserable. he won't leave because they have kids and is afraid of someone hurting the kids. So he took up drinking. I have known him 4 years and seen him sober 3 times. He gets crushes and obsesses on smart girls. Builds a whole fantasy around them --then is devastated when they don't live up to his fantasy.
2006-11-01 09:46:32 · answer #5 · answered by lovelyncurvy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say so....I don't think I could be with a man that was intellectually superior or with one that was just totally dumb, I don't think we'd be on the same level and I would feel like a partner...i would feel like a child I would think.
2006-11-01 09:39:46 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, yes, yes. The girl I'm with now is abour as dumb as a box of rocks. I think it's time for me to move on. She is very giving and has a good heart, but conversation is nil.
2006-11-01 09:43:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to admit that yes it does have to be . their are so many things u want and need in a relationship but this is only 1 of them.
2006-11-01 09:41:52 · answer #8 · answered by Glenna C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it really depends to a person.
2006-11-01 09:40:54 · answer #9 · answered by jacky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋