My boss is also my father in law and sometimes he gets into these moods where he acts like I have committed a crime and hates me. He yells cusses and second guesses my every move. I have worked for him for 10 years and he can be so demeaning. I have a tendency to get angry and sull up, but don't ever say anything to him because he is kinda scary. Any suggestions?
2006-11-01 01:24:05 · 14 answers · asked by MC Workin 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I'd suggest you call your friend after work and discuss it over a beer!
2006-11-01 04:26:54 · answer #1 · answered by dph 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get a new job. He does this to you because you are
#1-accessible
#2-family...he may feel that he is "allowed" to do this to you w/out suffering any consequences because you are family
#3-letting him...you have not said/done anything to stand up for yourself.
Tell him how he is making you feel and inform him that unless there is a change, you will look for other employment. Just be prepared for any changes that DO occur to be only temporary...hard to teach an old dog new tricks.
Your best bet is to keep family and work seperate, which you cannot do when you work for family.
Good luck!
2006-11-01 01:29:54 · answer #2 · answered by secret_oktober_girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should find another job, beyond all doubt. This mixing of work and family is a dangerous thing. Truth of the matter is he will continue to mistreat you because he feels he can. If, when you leave, he wants you back, you need to set some ground rules. Respect should be number one on the list. Best of luck.
2006-11-01 01:43:04 · answer #3 · answered by Catie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The reason for all of the crappy treatment as well as for all of the other demeaning actions against you, is all because you have not let him know he sucks. Try snapping back at him and aggressively express your anger using formal words and controlled gestures. Speak your mind. Your father in law will not physically harm you for he does not wish to impose hurt on his daughter through you. The man just wants to see some BALLS.
2006-11-01 02:04:39 · answer #4 · answered by pooldawg73 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Me :( I think everyone is. No one likes to be treated like crap.
2016-03-28 03:24:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What on Earth are you doing working for your father-in-law. I think it is time you go out on your own.
2006-11-01 02:22:32 · answer #6 · answered by Jamie 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Threaten to quit. Tell him to treat you like he would any other worker.
2006-11-01 03:45:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to stand up for yourself hun........he plays on your weakness to tell him off...........You don't have to be totally snotty & cuss him out.........but tell him he isn't gonna talk to you any ole' kinda way no-more.....tell him I don't disrespect you .......& I demand that you stop disrespecting me..........you should tell your wifethat she should also tell him to stop .........or put in job applications elsewhere .......he does have to give you good reference..........by law
You are in my prayers hun....I was bullied as a kid.......and I started to stand up for myself.......cause I realized no one would if I didn't do it for myself.........demand respect!
2006-11-01 01:45:33 · answer #8 · answered by RaeRae 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
SIT DOWN WITH HIM AND HAVE A HEART TO HEART WITH HIM... IF THAT DON'T WORK I WOULD START LOOKING FOR ANOTHER JOB, U SHOULD NEVER WORK WITH FAMILY, THATS AVERY BAD IDEA,
2006-11-01 01:43:40 · answer #9 · answered by ickybones2000 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
a bull aways looks bigger than they really are just talk to him and tell him to leave you alone ! stand up to him and he will respect you for it ! ♠
2006-11-01 01:40:48 · answer #10 · answered by 32606 3 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋