recenlty my husband has had to give up work, making our financial situation worse.. i have a 5 year old daughter, and i work in excess of 48 hours a week! the thing is, my husband has many talents and no qualifications to go with it.. he cant find another job that would suit daughters school hours, and at the moment i cannot cut my hours to suit, because of the financial strain.... (i earn peanuts for the hours i work)
how do i support my daughter and my husband whilst juggling 48 hours a week, and stay happy??
what advice shall i seek from others, (i dont need therapy/councelling)
Need genuine advice for this, as feeling a little tender, so be nice please...
2006-11-01 00:47:32 · 8 answers · asked by storm.minx 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
my husband had to leave his job because he was being bullied (yes it sounds pathetic, but even adults get bullied) and become depressed with work.
2006-11-01 00:59:34 · update #1
It sounds like you are suffering from depression, which is not surprising with all that responsibility in your shoulders. Try not to worry and do not expect so much of yourself. You are already doing all you can to support your family. I ofetn find that the best course of action in these circumstances is not to make any decisions at all. Take the pressure off of yourself and you will be surprised to find that things have a way of working themselves out. Take one day at a time and be kind to yourself while you are having such a stressful time.
2006-11-01 00:59:54 · answer #1 · answered by jasmine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK. I am going to be honest with you here. You cannot work a 48 hour week on absolute peanuts whilst supporting your family and trying to be happy. You are not super woman and trying to be and do all these things is impossible. This is why you are so tearful and stressed. Not only because you are no doubt exhausted but also because of the frustration and pressure you are putting yourself under. So take a moment to just chill out and breath because you are going to burn yourself out. Do you have some holiday time at work you could take? It sounds like a day off is just what the doctor ordered at the moment. However, your husband needs to find a job asap. There is work out there. it might not be ideal but there is a lot of jobs out there - he could join a recruitment agency and get some temporary work to tide you over. Maybe he could even work shifts to fit in with your daughter's child care. I would also advise that you take some time out to look for a new job that pays better.
2016-05-23 01:41:17 · answer #2 · answered by Johnna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where do you work? Did you know that working in McDonalds, Lowes or Home Depot for less hours can get you more. They offer 401K plans, benefits and pensions. It might help you have more time to yourself. The fact that you put so much into supporting your family speaks volumes of how much you care and how dedicated you are. You have time to come in here, find time to go fill out some employment applications. It would give you air to breathe and time to yourself if you just applied the effort someplace other than yahoo answers. I am also confused as to y your husband "has had to give up work" - doesn't make much sense. Is he doing something he shouldn't be? Was he fired? You guys have a child and she is going to suffer if you don't make some changes!! Sorry the truth hurts sometimes. God Bless!!
2006-11-01 00:52:27 · answer #3 · answered by HereweGO 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately you are going through a bad patch in life as most of us do and now its your turn...hopefully you have a family member that can help with your daughter..I will be praying that you dont lose your house and end up in a grotty bedsit..I.hope your husband gets something soon and remember to put a lottery ticket on..I will keep my fingers crossed for you both.
2006-11-01 00:59:30 · answer #4 · answered by fajita 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Key Sara Sara, Whatever will be will be.
The only real support is love dear. If your showing both of them your unconditional love, you are supporting them. A child can be happy making something out of card and just having someone to tell them what an excellent job they have done. as for your daughter take her to the park.
2006-11-01 06:49:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
See if you can get help from the state (welfare, section 8, SS)
2006-11-01 00:50:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
sit down and discuss, make short term goals and stick to them.
2006-11-01 02:18:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u can work in the restaurants or teach in some instituitions.........or ask ur friends n kins to search job for u
2006-11-01 00:51:43 · answer #8 · answered by shrish15 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋