2006-11-01 00:45:05 · 4 answers · asked by mick69 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hi........I was an emotionally impaired woman until I met my fiance. I put him through so many changes because I had been so hurt in all of my relationships. My biggest obstacle was trust. I accused him with no basis and on some level I think I tried to sabotage the relationship because in my mind it would be just like all the others. One day he looked me right in the eye and said " I know what you are doing; and just to let you know, I'm not going anywhere ". He saw something in me that I didn't see in myself and I did everything I could from that moment on to change and put my trust in him. I love him more than I could express. He is like no other man I've known and I am so grateful he stuck it out with me. I know it's alot to ask of you to put up with the emotional baggage alot of women bring in a relationship, but you may just turn out to be the man that touches her heart and shows her that not all men are users and scammers. You may end up being the man that shows her how to love and trust again. Even if the relationship doesn't last, what you will have taught her will last forever.
2006-11-01 01:04:56 · answer #1 · answered by softlyinspired 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Figure out what is the appeal and then correct it... For example, do you feel emotionally stunted by a lack of love in your life and are drawn to women that seem to lack love.
Why do you feel that way? Maybe because your mother was "OVERLY" or smother loving. OR Maybe she was a single mom working all the time and you didn't feel the nurturing aspects of motherhood because she didn't have time.
Since most men's only example of the way a woman loves is his mother. Sometimes the grandmothers are young enough for you to see the example as a young male.
We learn our responses and actions by mimicing our parents. You'll find you do a lot of the things that your dad does later on in life. What's probably happening is that you're drawn towards women that remind you of mom.
That and most women today seem to be confused about their role in life. They all think they are royalty instead of being a wife. So they should do a planned set of achievements that turn them into emotional basket cases because they are doing things foreign to them. They are taught they are equal to males in every aspect of life of a male and superior in others that males do not have.
When failure to live up to certain standards hits home, all the pieces come crashing down. The emotionally stunted woman can either adapt or suffer needlessly in abandoned hopelessness. Hey, that's the sexual revolution for you. Thank the Baby Boomers.
2006-11-01 08:59:33 · answer #2 · answered by James B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, first off, if you keep falling for "emotionally impaired women", answer this question, what is the only common factor in the relationships?.....answer is "YOU".....now get some counseling
2006-11-01 08:49:14 · answer #3 · answered by seilygirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find somebody who is on your level.
2006-11-01 08:53:03 · answer #4 · answered by Luna 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋