I met my girl about a year ago, we starting hanging out almost everyday calling each other talking forever even before we started going out. This happened for 6 months and finally I worked up the courage to ask her out. Weve been going out for about a month and a half now, officially, 2 unofficially. Weve had our shares of fights before where she claimed she didnt want to be with me, but she ended up with me the next day, and everything being fine again. But now, we had a fight 3 days ago, where some really harsh things came out of her saying I turned my back on her before and that im scum, a waste of her time, etc. Shes had a pretty harsh past where shes been cheated on, and has cheated on people, and most of her friends have turned their backs on her leaving her to deal with everything herself. During these times, i stuck by her, always taking her side we got so close because she said i was the only person she could trust, i was sincere and sweet.
2006-11-01 00:37:37 · 12 answers · asked by Derek Lee 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yesterday, I talked to her online, because she wouldnt pick up my calls and doesnt want to see me, I asked her if she was still mad and she said she wasnt, she just said we're just not together. i asked her if we could be together again, and she said maybe in the far future, that she has no time for a relationship. she says that theres no real committing and she doesnt like that, but the thing is i have committed myself to her, i look at no other women and everybody is inferior. we are both 17 and she says that she doesnt want a relationship that has a possibility not to work. im in college, but shes still trying to graduate from highschool. she says that she cant stress herself anymore and that shes not someone who can trust people. i miss her so much even if its only been 3 days now, and i want her back so bad. i dont know if i can hold myself together long enough for the "far future". is she trying to let me down easy or what? does it seem like shes lost interest? please help.
2006-11-01 00:42:29 · update #1
Is she breaking up with me for good? Does she just need some time? or is this anger talking, saying how she doesnt want anyone right now. Im scared to death shell find someone else, or find happiness without me. I cant be happy without her, my days are so empty, I feel sick all the time like im not alive. I feel like im losing all hope in life.
2006-11-01 00:45:28 · update #2
The thing is, our relationship has been alot longer then 2 months. We went out for 2 months, but before that, we were kindof "seeing" each other, just not going out. we would flirt hang out almost all the time, shed call me constantly, id call her constantly. I always had feelings for her, was just scared that shed reject me, i finally worked up the courage to ask her out 2 months ago. Ive been "seeing her" for almost 6-7 months now and known her as a friend for over a year.
2006-11-01 00:47:58 · update #3
I know that she has some trust issues because people have turned their backs on her in the past. She says she has problems trusting people, or trusting me knowing that i gave her no real reason not to. Shes really stubborn and her attitude is that of where she must always be right. She wont apologize when she is wrong etc. For those of you who tell me to move on, its not that simple for me, its not that im too young, or that i dont know any better, but I truly believe this is the only girl for me. I gave her all of my heart, she still has it. I cant, wont, find anybody else. She says that its not possible for me to know what love is at this age, but its what I feel for her. I truly love her.
2006-11-01 00:59:31 · update #4
In response to Leadbellys answer, what can I do to be more of a man?...Im more of a gentleman always putting the lady first. Im not the type of person to walk away for anyone or anything, and i dont give up. Its not that im too emotionally attached or what not, its that I really do love this girl and dont want to lose her. If you still believe that Im not being the man in her life, what can I do to show her that Im the man for her? What can I do to put myself in her mind during the day, IF shes not thinking about me? What can i do to make her want me?
2006-11-01 01:12:57 · update #5
From a females POV, whats going thru her head? Some of her friends have told me that shes PMSing as this is her time of the month, does PMS have an affect on this?
2006-11-01 01:45:27 · update #6
help, still confused, please tell me what i can do, what i can say?
2006-11-01 04:52:09 · update #7
I answered your previous question about this issue and really wanted to send you an e-mail this time but you dont have that option available. All I can say is she sounds just like me when I was her age and I know exactly what she is going through. If you ever set up an e-mail contact get back to me and I will try and explain her to you so you can have a better understanding of what is going on. Most of what people are writing to you is not right. I dont think anybody can understand it unless they have been through it themselves. Good luck.
2006-11-02 02:12:37 · answer #1 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When two people got into a fight they use to say things they will gonna regret later.
If all this is worthing for you, if you feel good spending your time with her and if she has a special place in your heart, give her a call and ask her if she wants to remain your friend....Discuss with her. It's the best way for you to find out the answer you are locking for.
2006-11-01 00:56:24 · answer #2 · answered by Night Sorrows 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This girl's got lots of unresolved issues. Are you sure you are willing to bear the brunt of all her problems? From what I've read, it seems like this girl is treating you as her punching bag. And honestly, normal healthy relationships don't really generate fights in just 2 months.
2006-11-01 00:42:54 · answer #3 · answered by citrusy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi. I think either you are too young (you will overcome it by time but apparently your girlfriend won't be with you anymore) or she is just playing with you. Well, she trusts you and that's good FOR HER. But what do you get yourself? Love? Sex? What? Maybe she is bored?
Look, I am pretty sure that one should be selfish in his personal relations and life. If you like that relations just go ahead: that's what you need. If not, just tell her "Good buy" and find a better girlfriend who will not just trust you but LOVE YOU. That's it.
2006-11-01 00:47:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that attitude of hers is probably why she cant keep a boyfriend. I think your confusing her sob stories about the past with how shes treating you! Dont let her treat you like that! Think about it...everytime she lashes out at you she has you thinking that its because of what she's been through, thats bull! Love yourself enough to know you dont deserve to be treated like that! Find you someone else....Seriously! She's got issues brother!
2006-11-01 00:46:05 · answer #5 · answered by Lace 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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sorry guy, but your inexperience has caused this situation.
you got too close and too emotionally dependent on her, and you aren't even close to being the man in her life.
she found inner strength, and noticed that you're just a puppy running around and barking.
there isn't any relationship, and unless you walk away and forget her for a few years there won't ever be.
2006-11-01 01:00:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't really see the question here. If you are being sweet and there for her-then thats all you can do. But, let me warn you-emotional baggage does not ever go away--so either get used to it or end it before you are in over your head.
2006-11-01 00:40:58 · answer #7 · answered by blonde_bitch_norris 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hey...if she really said sumthing harsh and has cheated many people..what is the guarantee that she may not cheat u Pal??? think about it.....
well its ur life and u hv to decide on ur own...just think hat is She the right gurl for u??
Good luck and Cheerz!
and take a wise decision!
2006-11-01 00:45:59 · answer #8 · answered by Rachel_me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, she broke up with you. but she just wants you to feel bad and bow down to her. she needs to get over herself and you NEED to get over her, she seems like a bi*tch anyway why do want to be with someone like that? she only wanted you because you put up with her bull*sh*it. sorry if i'm making you feel bad, buts its the cold hard truth. she needs to be introduced to the real world, shes gonna have to deal with her own life at some point...
2006-11-01 00:55:59 · answer #9 · answered by *HEiDi!* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is out to trick you..Wants to use you..Its part of her game plan. Wants to put you on test. If she continues drop her like all others who saw it.
2006-11-01 00:43:26 · answer #10 · answered by havemercy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋