How come kids never do what u tell them and always argue?

Answer 1

its thier job!

Answer 2

I believe everything as changed from when i was young, kids don't ask like we did, they demand. If a friend got a bike at Christmas we did'nt cause our parents probably could'nt afford. Kids nowadays would have their parents go to the debtor's prison just to get what they want. If i did wrong i got a clip from the Bobby and then a good hiding from me Father. This is probably what kids need they should bring back the cane at schools, never mind all the namby pamby EU rubbish.

Answer 3

How old are the kids? Toddlers are always exploring, adolescents are trying to grow up and achieve some sort of independence from their parents, adult children are doing their best to live life...they never do what they are told, because they have to prove parents wrong, have their own experiences. They argue because we all have our own personalities, feel the need to be right, and it all depends on the pecking order also.

Answer 4

I've never found either of these things to be true, my kids quite often do what i tell them and they don't always argue. Maybe it's more to do with the way they treated than the way they behave.

Answer 5

Children argue because it is their way of learning to voice their opinions, now that they are beginging to have one; they are also testing you to see how much they can get away with. Try to remeber, they are CHILDREN no matter how much you want to be their friend, you are here to teach them how to be productive members of society, with respect and manners. If it doesn't happen in the home, how can you expect it to happen elsewhere? I have a 13 year old son, and a 10 year old daughter, so I know EXACTLY what "talking back" you are describing. It is absolutly not tolerated in our household. I refuse to answer them when they speak to me in a rude tone....I wouldn't let someone in the grocery store talk to me that way....why should I let my children? I spend my hard earned money on them when they want things....I drive them all over town to all of their extra curricular activities, and my children no that if they get "mouthy" , any/all of that can be taken away in an instant. My son currently lost his playstation & television from his room until he can control his mouth. He has a stereo in there that he knows I'll take next. It's funny how he has started to become very respectful to his mother! We sat our children down and talked to them and explained that it is my job to teach them how to be grown-ups. We made a list of house rules on a dry erase board, as well as some chores they can do to help our around here and participate in the "family" scheme of things. We also explained that Sometimes they may not like us, but we don't care, we are not friends, we are your parents. We can have lots of fun, but it is our job and responsibility to make sure you grow up right.
If all else fails, and things are getting out of hand, my husband (who is military) just has them do push-ups! Or, they have to hold their arms straight up in the air and do "arm circles" utnil we say stop. We have walked thruough Home Depot with them both doing arm circles. They hate it, so all we have to do is usually give them "the look", and they change their tune pretty quickly! They have made some substantial improvements! Remember, you are the boss, they are only going to get away with what you let them. Since they don't go to work, their job is to go to school and learn, and learn from you at home, so their future is positive and productive. And you know, we aren't mean or yell & scream, or hit; we are just firm and matter of fact with them. Consistancy is the key.

Answer 6

They are becoming real people and having minds of their own. They like to see how far they can push you until you tell them to stop. They really want limits they just want to see what they are. They have to make their own decisions at a certain point or they will never learn how when they are adults. Let them make certain decisions now.

Answer 7

Children are disobedient when they lack discipline. They should be taught to respect whoever is in charge as early as their toddler years. I have 2 children and they had to learn that if they did not listen there would be consiquences. However you decide to do this is up to you and your beliefs, but honestly I spank my children if they are really bad. Many people diagree, but now they are 6 and 10 and I don't have to do it as often. They will behave because they know now that if they don't there's going to be trouble.

Answer 8

because we tent to tell them what to do and expect them to do things right there and then,, respect is a two way thing, if our kids say to us "mummy do this now" we would tell them to wait or ask nicely and be offended at their direct instruction,, this works both ways "i would like you to do this..." would be a better approach followed by praise and also take yourself down to their level, if a child thinks they are doing good they will be much more responsive to instructoin,,,,, thats a the theory anyway

Answer 9

because it gives them a chance to rebel and if you think about kids never want be like their parents so this is the chance for them to "succeed" although in the longrun its probably better, unles they have loser parents, but thats another story!!!

Answer 10

If they never did that then I'd be worried. It is very much an important part of living and leaning.

Answer 11

Because they don't want to do anything right when you ask them. the same when you were a kid... you want to do something else first, and i rather give my mom crap about it because i know she doesn't want to do it either. Eventually i do what she asked me to do